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  • Does anybody feel kind of sloppy-in the way they dress, I mean? I feel like I have "let myself go" in some ways. I still wear makeup and do my hair, but everyday when I go home, I wash my makeup off, throw my hair up, and put on sweats. And I always wear my hair the same and do my makeup the same. It's like I'm waiting for the weight to come off or something to happen for me to look better. I look at pictures of myself and I look so much better with makeup on and my hair done-I feel like I should keep it that way all the time-but it's such a hassle. I dress up to go to work, church, and out to eat. So, when I'm at home-I just kind of ...don't. What do y'all do?
  • I'm pretty casual around the house but my boyfriend prefers 'natural' to made up. I will tell you though, since the first 20 lbs came off I have been putting more energy into ME. I give myself mani's and pedi's and just went yesterday and got a great haircut.

    I feel like taking better care of myself motivates me to keep up the healthy eating and exercising.
  • One of my goals when I lose some weight is to go clothes shopping... for more girly, dressy, cute outfits. Given that I work in environmental science/ecology/fisheries, my clothes match my work - clothes that I dont' care if they get dirty, stained, ripped - clothes that are meant to be practical and comfortable for field work. Thus, I dont' have much in my closet that looks decent or girly. BUt i want to change that, part of the reason i never dress nicely is because I am over weight. Mini-goal!
  • When I was overweight, I didn't have the interest in buying new clothes or doing my hair or makeup. I just did enough to look halfway decent. Now I go an extra mile to look great when I go even to the store and it actually takes less effort! I love love love buying new clothes!

    But as far as being at home, I have always changed into comfy "house clothes", washed all makeup off, taken out contact lenses and thrown up my hair in a ponytail the second I walk through my door. I like to be comfy at home and I still do this.
  • Dressing up at home sounds like something my cousins do (drives me crazy) lol.

    When I'm home I want to be as comfortable as possible. Work and outside the home is when I get dolled up (though I won't lie I go shopping in sweats too)- at home if I want to wear sweats with holes and no bra and my hair in a messy ponytail I'm gonna do it! Doesn't make me sloppy IMO- it makes me comfortable
  • Yeah, I used to walk around with no bra at home, but now that my son's almost 12, I kind of just have to wear one or else he notices. I guess I"ll have to wait until he moves out before I can do that again!

    But, I'm almost always super casual at home, unless I know I'll still be going somewhere. As soon as evening rolls around, I put on my pj's if I know I"m staying home the rest of the night. I rarely put on any make up these days and honestly, I think I look a lot better as I lose more weight to where I don't need as much make up.
  • I almost never wear make-up. Not so much out of a sloppiness thing as I think my skin is just fine and frankly I can't be bothered. The most I do is concealer when necessary and lip gloss. But I'm in a profession where that's perfectly normal, so I don't feel any pressure to do more.

    As for how I dress, I want to be more "put together," if not necessarily girly, but find that the styles I like just don't work right on someone my size. I'm looking forward to the day (maybe this fall??) that I can actually buy a few outfits that I look good in and feel comfortable wearing.

    Oh, and I agree with what others have said: when I'm at home, it's all about comfort.
  • I am seriously in black yoga/stretch pants at all times...my job requires it and then they are just comfortable so I keep them on or put on a fresh pair once I'm home. Also, I hate stuffing myself into my nicer clothes because they are sooo tight (maybe this would be a good thing though- if my circulation is cut off due to clothes being too tight, I bet I'd focus a lot more on my diet!) I do often wonder if I'd feel better about myself if I took more care with my appearance.
  • I get what you mean. I never really got the "girly" treatment when I was growing up - my mom had such a different complexion from mine that what she did with makeup (eyebrow pencil and mascara she was blonde) was not at all useful to me. I also rebelled against her need to curl my hair. I suppose I know how to do make up but it makes me feel like my mom, I look older and feel kinda fake.

    As a result I don't wear much makeup, and I work in a profession (public safety) that doesn't require me to. I wear a uniform so I don't get into office wear or fashion too much either. I wear jeans and a t-shirt or a classic dress for a night out. I own four pairs of heels, all in black or brown. I never look "bad" but I also know I could look much better if I put in the effort, I just can't find the motivation to leave my comfort zone.
  • It's all about how you feel. I don't personally think that not wearing makeup, or being dressed up when you're just hanging around the house = letting yourself go. Some women look damn sexy just as they are, and not all women are improved with makeup. I usually feel like makeup makes a person look -different-, good, but not necessarily better.

    That being said...I've been a total slouch lately, and I've just taken to wearin pajama pants and a soft bathrobe instead of real clothes around the house. Ahhh, summer.
  • Sorry if this is TMI! But, I really enjoy going around the house naked or just in cute panties with my makeup done of course. Makeup goes on first thing in the morning and comes off right before bed. My idea of letting myself go is leaving the bathroom door open while doing my business (or DH doing that too). It just all depends on what you define letting yourself go as.
  • Well I'm glad to see I'm normal As long as I'm not going to Wal Mart with curlers in my hair and my thong sticking out of my pants, and the bra straps hanging out of my tube top-then I think I'm ok
  • I don't always dress up (though I do LOVE to!).

    I like to do a planned casual look. Like, I'll wear jeans and a tank top with flip flops...but, it's not an accidental "I'm just going to throw whatever on". It's planned and I'm very purposeful in my choices.

    I hate looking schleppy.
  • I don't feel sloppy. But I do the same as you -- dress up/make up for going out on date night, church, work, etc.

    But for being home? I'm in sneakers/activewear type stuff. Because I'm playing with the kids, keeping house, gardening... why would I want to put on church dresses for that? Tees and shorts/jeans, please!

    A.
  • I am a slob. I will admit it freely. I never wear makeup to work, I rarely do anything with my hair and my wardrobe is in need of a major update (which I will be doing this weekend!). The sad thing is I work in an office, albeit a pretty relaxed one.

    If I am going out drinking or to dinner with friends I will wear makeup but I don't normally feel the need to. I'd rather people see me looking natural so when I do wear it they think I look great, I just don't want to have to look fab everyday. I wish, sometimes, I was more girly and since I have started losing weight I have put a tad more effort into it.