Originally Posted by JayEll:
I've posted before about my partner, who has always been a normal-weight person, and how I've watched her eating habits. Sure enough, hers are different from mine. She's the one who ate part of a 12-chip bag of Doritos and then left the rest near her placemat at the kitchen counter for three (3) days. Yes, of course I kept track. Yes, she kept forgetting about them. :dunno:

Just now, she made another classic move that I just had to share with you. Recently she bought a package of Oreos. I'm fortunate in that at the moment, I don't care about them at all. However, when we got home from lunch she got herself three Oreo cookies. Then she opened them up and scraped off the white filling, put it in a napkin, and threw it away. :yikes:

I said, "Why did you do that?"

She said, "Oh, I don't like the frosting. It's too sweet. I'd just buy the chocolate cookie part, if I could. And it's hard to find a cookie like that."

OK then!

Jay

Hey I am with her there. The frosting part is too sweet!

Originally Posted by My Michelle:
I'd eat the napkin if it meant I would also get the frosting!

LOL! :rofl:

Sounds like ME!

Originally Posted by cherrypie:
I scrape the icing off of cake....... and then just eat the icing. lol

Mmmm...when I frost the cake I eat the rest of the left over frosting. I'm not going to keep 2 or 3 or 4 tbsp of frosting in the fridge! :lol: ;)

Originally Posted by odonnela:
My boss (tiny thing of course) always says "OMG I forgot to eat".
How do you forget to eat???!!!!! I mean really - forget.to.eat???
Is that a special kind of stupid reserved only for the naturally skinny??

HAHAHAHAHAHA! ;)

lol hilarious. This thread is KILLING ME :lol:

My husband is the SAME way. He can buy a bag of chips, eat a few bites, then leave it. It drives me INSANE. It's so hard for me to NOT polish off a bag so I have no clue how he does it! He thinks I'm nuts for not being able to just leave the bag out- I told him he's crazy :p

My fiance eats a ton of food, and I never understood why he is so thin (over a foot taller than me, and I've got about a 1 lb on him at this point)

After a year and a half I'm figuring it out. He doesn't eat much throughout the day but gorges at dinner. I actually have to call him when I'm at work and he has the day off to say 'what did you have for breakfast?' and 'eat some lunch'

He's also a carpenter so has a very physical job.

I'd rather eat modestly througout the day hehe

Hey saef. Nah, I didn't used to eat the middles that she didn't want. On the rare occasions when I did/do eat Oreos, I eat the whole thing.

If anything it's kind of the other way around. She can eat a lot more sweets and carbs than I can. She loves cake, for example, and I don't really care about it.

However, I once brought her a brownie that I had gotten free at a restaurant we like. She was very happy, and she ate half of it and wrapped up the rest. And it sat there. For two days. Before she got around to eating the other half. :faint:

We did have to separate our cooking for the most part, though, because when I tried eating along with her, I gained 30 pounds and she stayed the same. :dunno:

She does sometimes forget to eat when she is under stress, but not too often. Generally she eats well, but she isn't "committed" to cleaning her plate. When she's had enough, she stops. And she eats well-balanced meals.

Sigh.

Jay

several of my in laws are this way. my dh and kids often do this. especially, dd. sometimes it's hard to help her gain wt. i'm giving her nuts lol.

I find it interesting here that there seems to be an us vs them mentality - as in people who have issues with food and those who dont....as if there isnt a grey area or no one that posted has lessened/resolved food issues. (maybe just my interpretation!)

My food issues have eased up, def not gone away completely but they are much better.

I no longer fear eating half a cake, for example. Though I have done many times in the distant past.

I do actually forget to eat now...which means I dont think about food all the time like I used to!!! I remember a decade ago being such a severe food addict Id be eating a 2000 cal lunch, pondering my snack in an hour, and wondering what was for dinner. The food addiction resolution is one of the biggest gifts of my entire life. Feels like nothing short of a miracle.

Happy to leave a plate 90% full and not take any leftovers home. It isnt a waste if I am satisfied.

And the oreo thing made me laugh, because I used to love oreos and now....well I cant actually recall the last time I ate one or desired to.

I am still *very* careful about having food in the house. Not bad foods, I dont want those, just any food I do eat. For years to keep my binges under control I just could not have even healthy foods in the house beyond what I was allowed to eat in one serving. I remember a binge I had on Kashi Go Lean cereal about 18mo ago, I mean seriously?! I am testing these waters by keeping my house stocked and doing fine, but if I start feeling tempted I will go back to not having a ton of food around.

Well, in a way that's my point, xty. :) I'm not like my partner. But if by "resolved" food issues, you mean changed behavior, yeah, I've resolved a lot of my food issues. For example, I no longer ask her if I can finish the Doritos she hasn't eaten! Which she would let me do. And even though she's eating Oreos, I don't eat Oreos along with her. So in that sense, I've made progress.

I'm not in danger of binge eating--that's a whole other thing. Good for you for getting a handle on it! I know several other long-time 3FC-ers who have overcome that.

Jay

Forgetting to eat?!?!?
I can forget to breath, but will never forget to eat!!! :(

I have resolved a lot of mine as well. Being brought up in the "clean plate" school of eating lasted a long long time for me. Now I can not finish a restaurant meal and let them throw out the rest. (Most of the time it's something that won't keep/reheat well). I can not finish what's on my plate at home, even though I portioned it out as a sensible amount. That often gets saved, or if appropriate fed to the animals. But neither of these is absolute. There are days when I finish everything and want more, even if I don't have more.

And midwife, I'm not crazy about cake either, often skipping/refusing it. If I take it, one or 2 bites is fine. It's just too sweet. My DH benefits from this at places where you're expected to have a piece. :)

i can 'forget' to eat now, and only a few months ago that seemed like such a foreign idea. i always wanted food. was always thinking about food. i try not to think about it that much, and stay out of the kitchen often. it cracks me up when the parents buy huge cakes for b-day parties, then all the kids care about is playing with their friends. just having a few bites of cake, leaving the rest, or they don't want any.

Originally Posted by xty:
I find it interesting here that there seems to be an us vs them mentality - as in people who have issues with food and those who dont....as if there isnt a grey area or no one that posted has lessened/resolved food issues. (maybe just my interpretation!)

My food issues have eased up, def not gone away completely but they are much better.

I no longer fear eating half a cake, for example. Though I have done many times in the distant past.

I do actually forget to eat now...which means I dont think about food all the time like I used to!!! I remember a decade ago being such a severe food addict Id be eating a 2000 cal lunch, pondering my snack in an hour, and wondering what was for dinner. The food addiction resolution is one of the biggest gifts of my entire life. Feels like nothing short of a miracle.

Happy to leave a plate 90% full and not take any leftovers home. It isnt a waste if I am satisfied.

And the oreo thing made me laugh, because I used to love oreos and now....well I cant actually recall the last time I ate one or desired to.

I am still *very* careful about having food in the house. Not bad foods, I dont want those, just any food I do eat. For years to keep my binges under control I just could not have even healthy foods in the house beyond what I was allowed to eat in one serving. I remember a binge I had on Kashi Go Lean cereal about 18mo ago, I mean seriously?! I am testing these waters by keeping my house stocked and doing fine, but if I start feeling tempted I will go back to not having a ton of food around.

My feelings exactly xty! I think we were cut from the same cloth. You mentioned something that hit a spark, and I realized it, up until about probably 5 months ago, I was still doing what you used to do with food schedules. I would eat my NOW sensible lunch, ponder my snack, and figure out what I was going to eat for dinner. Even though I've been maintaining for almost a year now, and I've done a pretty good job, I was still doing those habits! It was really kind of an eye opener for me!

However, yes, I too "forget" to eat, but it's not that I forget, it's that I have for the most part, shifted my focus on other things, and I no longer fixate on food as I used to. It's still a work in progress. It doesn't make me "dumb, stupid, or forgetful", but I'd rather like to think of it as a break-up of a bad habit. My life revolves around me, it no longer revolves around food.

I've often, in my "new" circle of friends who never experienced being over weight, wonder how "big" people can eat so much. I often remind them, and myself that an unhealthy relationship with food is something that takes work to fix. I've not once met a person who is happy being over weight, or heard someone say "I wish I was fat" it's always the other way around. It's just up to those people to figure out what they want to do about it.

Jessica (paperclippy), I looked for those Nabisco chocolate wafers, but I guess my store doesn't carry them--at least not at the moment.

Jay