[Mudpie]

Originally Posted by traveling michele

I got a really rude comment from a co-worker today. She said it joking but it has stuck with me.
She made a comment about how I was still losing weight. I told her, no, I wasn't and she proceeded to say about 3 more times how I was. Then she said I needed a boob job now.....
Now the "girls" and I may be sensitive, but that was just rude! I know she was "Joking".... I told dh and he says she is just jealous and he is probably right, but still.... I am feeling much less feminine as "the girls" have just about shriveled up to nothing.... I wish I had a snappy retort when she said it like, well, you need a facelift, but I'm just not like that. I laughed with her and then felt bad.....

There are too many *ssholes in this world Michele. Your DH is right. As for the "snappy retort" you just look down at your "girls" and say

"My hubby seems to like 'em just fiiine", smile a little and walk away from your very rude co-worker.

Dagmar (no big boobs here either )

[lilybelle]

Michele, some people are just jealous and don't know when to shut up. I've had similar comments and I always say "I think they are perfect considering my much smaller body now".

I'm finding this WW plan easy for me to follow. Not a single cheat. I don't mind logging my food every day cause I always logged it anyway. Sure do LOVE having some carbs again. I feel the biggest Key for my success is in having plenty of healthy foods at home to choose from. I've been snacking on fresh raw veggies between meals if I feel hungry. Without any doubt, I know I'm getting plenty of fiber now!

[alinnell]

Michele~I'm so sorry about that rude comment! I mean, really...How rude!

I on the other hand got a compliment yesterday (although I don't feel I warrant it). I had a dentist appointment and the woman doing my xrays said I looked fit and asked how often I went to the gym. Wow. Twice a week only and it shows? I don't know.

[Megan1982]

Michele, what a terrible thing to say. I read a good response from Miss Manners that I'm waiting to try, would fit in a situation like yours. It's something like, "I'm sorry. Surely you don't realize what you just said or you wouldn't have said it."

Have a great weekend everyone!

[JulieJ08]

"Did you just comment on my breasts?" Then nothing. Let the excuses & rationalization hang out there in the silence until they stop trying.

[traveling michele]

Well, I work in a school and this was at carpool time. I was so horrified that one of parents or kids might have overheard that I didn't know what to say. This teacher is also in principal training-- I think she needs to have a lot more training!

My weight is finally down one pound of the two that it was up this week. I need to keep making sure I eat the correct portion sizes. I have a busy weekend with lots of bad food opportunities so I will be careful. I have a "fancy dress" WW event where awards are given, new information for the new year, etc., and they will be feeding us-- hopefully that will be healthy at least!

I have brought my dog, Jozi, to school today. She is a 115-pound Great Dane and she is a therapy dog. She is visiting all of our Special Ed classes and the kids are loving her. We are taking tons of pictures. She (Jozi) is wiped out and sleeping at my feet. Wish I could bring her with me all of the time. I know that my other dog is sobbing at home for being left though....

Have a great weekend all!
My dh comes home from Italy tonight. He has been traveling for 2+ weeks so it will be good for him to be home. I don't think he has to travel again until after Thanksgiving now.

[goalsuccess]

Hi, All!
First, thanks to all for responding about my one year weight loss anniversary. You are all so sweet and have provided me with models to watch closely and try to mirror. I enjoy being part of this network of weight losers and maintainers and I count on you all to keep me honest. I have and will rely on you to help me hold on to my weight loss. The next two months could be a rocky road, though, and I'm worried about it.

I must admit that I wasn't going to post today, but then I opened up the maintainers chat for this week and read Meg's comments about using this site to ask for help. Guess that's where I'm at. I'm truly, though, not sure what kind of help I need. I mean I'm doing my journaling of food. I'm not doing too hot on exercising--I did an hour on Monday, two hours on Tuesday, and an hour on Wednesday, but they're not really exercise hours. I mean I teach a pool toning class on M & W which requires me to exercise and I do work it, but I don't consider it my work out. I'm having great difficulty getting myself to exercise. I think part of the problem comes from knowing that in less than 3 weeks, I won't be able to do anything but walk (very slowly) for 6 weeks. Some part of me is saying, "well, heck, if you can't exercise in 3 weeks, why not just throw in the towel now?!". Wow! just writing that makes me think how stupid it is to think it!

Anyway, I think I'm starting to worrry about my upcoming hysterectomy and it's **** right now trying to get everything together at my job (I teach) for another person to take over for the final 3 weeks of the semester. Then, add to that the fact that I'm trying to write the beginning of my dissertation. I think it's just too much stress. I find myself wanting to just sit down and ball. Has anybody had one or more of those days?! I have been good, though, foodwise. I look at the snack size candy bars in my office drawer each time I open it and say "no" and mean it. It's "no!". Think I'd better throw those out though I LOVE chocolate. They could become a real problem. They are definitely a temptation.

Then, to add insult to injury, I just learned last week that my family and I won't be able to travel to my Mom's for Christmas. My son's idiot coach has practice scheduled on Christmas day and has made it clear to the team that if they aren't at practice, they may as well kiss their place on the team goodbye. What a dink! This is really upsetting and it's maybe where I need the most input from you all. You see, this sounds stupid, but we haven't spent Christmas as a family of 4 together in our entire lives. We have always been with family though we have to travel 8 hours to be with them. What do you do to make Christmas special when it's just your immediate family?

I want Christmas to be special for all of us SO BADLY! Christmas is suppose to be a time with family, but this year, it will be only with my two sons and husband, and that really upsets me. I love them, but I don't know how to make a holiday at our home special when I really don't want to be here myself. I have to get past this feeling, so I don't wreck the holiday. I can imagine Christmas day with me crying because I'm not where I want to be. I also know that I have to get us set up for Christmas before Dec 3 as that's surgery day, and I won't be able to lift anything after that.

Ok, Sorry I've unloaded. Seems like Stress is my world these days. Dec 3 will actually be a good day as I won't be able to worry anymore about what I need to do. It will either be done or it won't get done. To end on a happier note, I am NOT eating about any of this, and I won't. It won't make me any happier to stuff my face and gain weight. I can control what I eat at least!

[kittycat40]

Originally Posted by goalsuccess

My son's idiot coach has practice scheduled on Christmas day and has made it clear to the team that if they aren't at practice, they may as well kiss their place on the team goodbye. What a dink!!

I think you can bring this to the principle's attention. This is unreasonable.

[WaterRat]

Oh, I totally agree about notifying the principal. YOu cannot be the only parent who objects to having practice on Christmas Day!! What is this coach thinking? It's Christmas break for heavens sake, and families make plans for travel...... GRRRR on your behalf.

Oh and on the hysterectomy side.... You won't be eating much for the first few days anyway, and I would think that by the later part of the 6 weeks you would be back to a more normal schedule. Too bad you can't exercise more now and "store" it for later, eh? Just tell yourself you're going into this surgery in good shape, and you'll work as hard as your body and doc will let you and when you're recovered, you won't have too far to go to get back into the shape you are now. Don't let yourself use it as an excuse to go back to your old habits. Sorry if I sound like I'm lecturing - it's what I'd tell myself in the same position.

[paperclippy]

It sounds like people are having some rough time so a big to everyone!

Goal - I'm wondering the same thing. Every year in the past, my sister and I have flown home to LA for xmas (with or without significant others). We spend a week with my parents and have a big family dinner with my aunt, uncle, and cousins (used to be my grandma too before she passed away). A couple years we went to NJ to see my other grandma and aunts and uncles. This year my sister is going to Nebraska to be with her fiancee's family, and my parents are flying out here to Indy. DH's family is all here, but xmas is a non-holiday for them as they are far more observant Jews than my family (LOL, we always have xmas with my Jewish family -- my mom is the only one who's a Christian!).

In any case, we're planning to have a tree and presents like usual, and still cook a special dinner, even if it will just be the four of us. I think we will be inviting DH's family but not sure yet. Could you maybe have like an open house xmas day and have all your friends who are in town drop by? Then you would have a reason to decorate and things like that and make it more special.

I don't really know. My brain is fried from too much work and it's not going to stop until Thanksgiving. Laptop is coming home with me this weekend to try to catch up a little more.

Question for the dog owners! My dog has been acting a little funny lately and I'm trying to decide if I need to take him to the vet to get him checked out. He's been snoring more than usual, and he's also been grunting and groaning more than usual. He's always been a groaner -- like when he lays down, he lets out this big sigh, and when he wants us to get up in the morning, he sticks his head on the bed and makes these grumbling noises. But lately he also starts grumbling when I pet him sometimes. I'm not sure if it means "I'm sleeping, leave me alone," or "That hurts, cut it out." He's also been sneaking behind the couch a lot -- he'll just go back behind the couch into the corner and start whining.

Any ideas?

[paperclippy]

Oh yeah, and for something more on-topic -- I'm down another 0.4lbs this week! Sure hoping it sticks. If I keep losing 0.4lbs/week I'll be back to goal in . . . six months. :P Oh well, better than nothing.

[JayEll]

paperclippy, is your dog overweight? And how old? It could be a combination of overweight/age making him snore, and also he may have some arthritis pain. I'd have the vet check him out.

Jay

[JulieJ08]

My favorite Christmas morning recently was a small one. The magic was the kids, the surprises, the house being all clean specially for Christmas (that house was never clean), special food. Somehow not having a three-ring circus going on made it better. I could actually focus on all the little moments, and relax. Kinda the way smaller portions of really good food is better than gorging on junk food

[midwife]

Oh, it sounds so lovely to think of a Christmas without all the running around, hectic-ness, and craziness! Maybe get a couple of new board games, have everyone pick a new recipe to make that day, take funny digital pictures, just BE together---you and your kids and your dh. Play music, light some candles, keep it simple and shut out all the usual distractions and pulls on time and energy.

Oh, yeah, and KEEP exercising until your surgery.

[traveling michele]

goal-- that coach is insane! Definitely bring this to anyone and everyone's attention. Maybe talk to the other parents and have everyone revolt. You cannot be the only one who is planning on being out of town for the holiday.
I am sorry you are feeling down. I am sure it is just stress with your upcoming surgery, all you have to do, the holidays, etc. Are you having a total hysterectomy or just your uterus? I am sure you will be much happier with yourself after the surgery if you do everything to stay on plan before the surgery. Hugs!!

paperclippy-- sounds like arthritis to me or other pain. I would definitely go in for a check up.