[QuilterInVA]

Good afternoon, y'all. Just a quick greeting. I tore my mensius so have been living on pain meds for 3 days. The plus side is I don't feel like eating. The big downside is surgery maybe looming on the horizon to repair it. Meantime, a thigh to ankle brace that is driving me crazy.

[onebyone]

Hi coaches

I'm really emotional today. Just up and down and all over. I think I may be on the verge of being burnt out. Not sure. I NEED to get my two orders done done done. It's driving me nuts, this procrastination of mine. Ugh.
And that goes for cleaning up my house. I'm just not doing some things that need to get done and it's procrastination and being too busy and then too tired and then every other excuse. So. The only way to deal with this stuff is to do it, face it, start getting it done. It's making me feel bad enough now to do something about it. Guess that's good?!

Foodwise I've had a rough day. Woke up late, rushed to get ready, had minimal time and HAVE to eat. Checked the foodplan, couldn't do it, had to substitute things, did that, grabbed my snack for meal 2, rushed off. Worked at the school, decided to go to my friend's for a break and to de-stress over coffee with her and lost track of time and found myself feeling woozy and went "ah! food! must eat" and was two hours offtrack. So I ate. Came home and discovered before I knew it it was time again to eat, and I almost missed a deadline: 3pm. Must eat my second starch by 3pm. (My foodplan is precise for a reason and complicated right now cause it's new. It'll be better soon.) The point is, while I was frazzelled by everything and feeling low, I did not think to turn to easier (offplan) food or to say "forget it, it's too hard". I may have had a bit too much just now for my afternoon snack (still working this foodplan out like I said), but none of this is making me panic. What's interesting is on the walk home from the bus I found myself thinking that here I am, finally eating the way I want, getting good green things into me daily, eating in the proper proportions and I feel really down. My weight is lower than it's been in a month and steadily going down and it's not enough in itself to make me feel happy today. A diet, and being thinner, is not the solution to life's problems just as food is not the solution to life's problems. It's dealing with the issues that is the solution. It's very plain to me how you can use food to push what bothers you aside. No wonder I did that for decades off and on. OH WELL this too shall pass. As far as problems go, mine are easy compared to some of the folks I know. It's something to feel good about for sure.

QuilterInVA Whoa. So sorry to hear of your tear. Ouch. And the brace. I can imagine that would be rough. How long are you in it? Hang in there...

shrinkin You, me, and kuhljeanie are all feeling time stress. Ugh.
And you're right, sometimes we have to drop back and just tread water. Maintenance I believe it's called...maintaining our weight as we are right now. For me, that's an accomplishment as great as losing it... under stress I have almost always gained, turning to food to help me in the moment and then having to deal with the consequences later. Not this time. Probably why I am extra cranky. Take care of your elbow

RobinW Hi Robin. Nice to see you checking in. How are things? Still busy in the shop? BTW are you still working through the book? What day are you on? ...can't recall if you've finished it like me...? hmmmm...

kuhljeanie It would be very sane for you to take the pressure off of yourself where you can. Beck does say we are to have two foodplans/diets. Maybe this should be your optional one? Choose one, or a few, baseline behaviours and be done with it. You're following Beck by doing that. Relax. So sorry to hear your DH is having a tough time and you don't have the extra energy for him with everything you need to do too. That's tough. What can I say? Put one foot in front of the other and keep going... the only way out is through as they say... Let's both promise to have a bit of a vacation okay? You me and anyone else reading this who needs one (shrinkin'? RobinW?QuilterInVA?): hands up! Too bad we couldn't have a Beck Girls Days Out. If I could go anywhere I'd go herehttp://www.miiamo.com/ Sigh... all the best

BillBlueEyes (You're invited to Beck Girls Day Out too btw)
Hi! Kudos on getting the food you wanted and not using the stress to get the large size! Great. And wanting veggies. Imagine. I never did get to practice the "I'm so glad I am not eating that" as I brought my lunch in a tupperware container to the movie in my backpack. The movie was great (Tropic Thunder) and I happily ate my steak, potatoes and cucumbers and sipped my movie coffee and diet coke. When not preoccupied by the movie and my great lunch I was occupied by thoughts of my ex-boyfriend sitting right in front of us in the next row. He never recognizes me anymore. I've gained much weight since we dated... I got us out of the theatre before DH noticed him. They didn't like each other!

Everyone, have a good evening. We're doing great. As Dr. Beck says BELIEVE IT.

[hbuchwald]

I am here...not much to say...not doing great foodwise or exercisewise. It is like I am exhaling after big family trip and triathlon... not in a healthy way though. Oh yeah, school is starting too and dd is beginning kindergarten-lots to get ready for.

I have to say to kuhljeanie: I love how you are thinking about what you can realistically do-eating what you want and paying close attention to your level of hunger and "just walking" until you are able to do more may be the best you can do right now. YOu have a LOT on your plate to begin with and then add on moving and dh's need for extra support right now... yowsah. Hugs to you...

Billblueeyes: I had a burrito (from Anna's???? I think that was the name)while at my mom's in Boston and it was DELICIOUS...I am sure that there are lots of great places there for that great authentic food.... you continue to inspire me with your words about how your life has changed-it is really cool how you notice these things and remember how things used to be. I wonder if you will ever forget how things used to be-wish that I was closer to feeling like that...

scootin' my wagon along....

[BillBlueEyes]

Diet Coaches – Quite surprised that as I went looking to see if I would have the "I’m so glad I’m not eating that" thought, it happened. Passed a sidewalk table with three patrons each with a plate of food, and in the middle of the table was a HUMONGOUS platter of french fries covered with chili. And I had the thought, "I’m so glad I’m not eating that."

Took a vacation day to deal with some pressing stuff, including my dentist grinding away to make a crown to replace some fillings that are long past their useful life. For taking care of the things in my life that call, CREDIT moi. For being just a little bit more gentle than usual beating up on myself that most things I need to tend to could have been done months ago: CREDIT moi.

So now to deal with being behind at the office for taking a vacation day.


Heidi (hbuchwald) - Amazing ... kindergarten already. What dramatic change to face. Sending supportive thoughts for recovery from the family trip. Love the image of you "scootin' my wagon along." Thanks for the kind words. I hope to always remember what my continuously grazing life was like so that I can accept the amount of effort it takes to plan and prepare healthy foods.

Jean (kuhljeanie) - Breathe in. Breathe out. Breathe in. Breathe out. Yep, the MaryBlu approach is a good Plan #2 for you right now; it's also the Intuitive Eating approach. Make choices; stop when mildly full. Parcel out your energies by survival priorities. Forgive yourself for having such a hard time being only one human being at a time. Kudos for fighting through this. Sending my best positive energies to you, DH, and El Nino during a stressful time.

onebyone – Yep, there's some stressed Yeti Matadors around here. So kind of you to book us all into milano to unwind. Sedona is one of my favorite spots on the planet. Ouch for the pain of procrastination - do I ever know about that. And Double Ouch for the possible melodrama of your ex spoiling a delightful evening at the movies. Kudos for continuing on your course, with your neat loss. It's great that you're making enough progress to have to confront that weight loss alone won't make you happy. Kudos for facing that directly. Thanks for the reminder, Believe It!

Robin (RobinW) - Such simple clarity; "when I read my cards daily, I do better." Kudos for staying the course.

shrinkin - Kudos for putting your foot down on the goodies in the house and Kudos for stocking up on "good healthy eating alternatives". Good luck in your quest to "develop another strategy for food trolling prevention." And good luck on your project; around here it's getting close to September.

Susan (QuilterInVA) - Ouch for the brace and pending surgery. Kudos for hanging in there.


Readers – "... Just take it one day at a time, as this book suggests. …" Beck, pg 24.

[shrinkin]

Coaches:

Had just about finished my post and suddenly...lost it all off the screen. AGHR....is this the way to start the day? A quick recap:

OP yesterday for food, water, read ARC twice and a couple of chapters in Beck!

Pool day today, PT this am. Work on main project derailed yesterday by other unexpected mandatory activities. Deadline date does not move, so more behind. Working on keeping that stress level in check. Credit to me for staying OP in spite of stress!

BBE-Kudos for taking care of yourself physically and even more credit for your mental care...priceless! Will keep "I’m so glad I’m not eating that." in the front of my brain. Hope to use it on next visual food challenge.

Heide-Start of school is stressful! Thinking of you as DD heads for first day of K. Hope she already thinks she will like it.

Onebyone-Your food plan is tough, especially when on the run! Sedona would be great and Miiamo...AWESOME! We can dream. Keep your chin up!

QuilterInVA-Oh, NO! Torn meniscus can be really painful and take some time to heal. Will hope PT can do the job without surgery. Will keep positive thoughts for you. Hope you keep checking in.

to Kuhljeanie and RobinW-hope to hear from you again today, but if not, keep the faith!

Great Thursday to all!

[onebyone]

Good morning coaches

hbuchwald Hi there! Love that you're scootin' along on your wagon. Low key, casual, just getting' there. And so you are. You should savor the past events. They were big. Ebb and flow. It's all good. I think you're gathering your energy for when you really need it: kindergarten, the fall, pushing forward again. Have a great day today...


BillBlueEyes Interesting. When you wrote about thinking "I'm glad I'm not eating that" and then said it was to a plate of frenchfries with chili, I just went "mmmmmm". I would like to be eating that EVEN THOUGH I just re-read my foodplan literature to help re-inforce my chosen program and I totally understand why fat is limited on this plan and know what it would do (stall me) if I had too much and yet... mmmmmm to huge (still want HUGE) amount of fries (yum to fried food) and chili (take it or leave it!) But, you know, I'm just on Day 11. You're into year 2 or something... I hope my outlook shifts as much as yours has! Page 24 seems to be as profound as page 23 was!


shrinkin We can only do so much every day: at work, at home, for you in the pool with that elbow, for me with being worn out. We do have to give ourselves a break sometimes. And yeah, BIG CREDITS to you for staying OP in spite of the stress...

Readers – "... Just take it one day at a time, as this book suggests. …" Beck, pg 24.

This quote from the book could not say it any better could it? Thanks BBE.

Woke up feeling much much better. Perhpas I was tired? Wow. Me and tired do not play well together. Tired always wins.

I haven't written about the gym cause I haven't started yet. Reason? I didn't have time to get my things together Sunday night after we got home from the show--I just fell into bed exhausted, was up and out early Monday so didn't do it then, and I am just not mentally ready. I feel like once i start I will not be stopping, and right now I have only a one week pass and need to have my financial house in order so there is no break after the one free week and that is not my current state. Will wait until after tuition is dealt with at the end of this week, early next week.... then I'll feel free to make a $ committment on a gym. My financial life sucks. Hate it that I am not a multi-millionaire like my sister sometimes... sigh.

Off to tend to duties inthe kiln room, about a 90 minute job, and then back home to tend to what I've put off. First my small business stuff and then getting a few extra bags of garbage together for the garbage man tomorrow morning. Today I am going to do some of the stuff I've been procrastinating about. Bet I feel good after it's done.

Hello to all who read and don't post

[kuhljeanie]

hello my coaches,

thank you so much for the kind words of support! they mean a lot to me. i'm so grateful to have this place and you all in my life. things won't be like this forever - they always change! - and i'm looking forward to being there for y'all at that point, the way you've been there for me.

sciatica is still really bad. i'm foregoing even walking in the hopes that the disk calms down. it's also tough to avoid the temptation to use food as narcotic to blunt the edges, but that annoying little voice in my head keeps reminding me that it doesn't actually work anyway, so just BACK AWAY FROM THE DOUGHNUTS. i've been mostly successful, but not entirely. oh well!

off to do what i can this afternoon before heading back to the old house to continue gathering things so i won't have to pack and move them later. i'm hoping that i can take a big chunk out of our moving bill by getting our things up to dayton one carload at a time.

once again, thanks! may we meet soon on some white sands beach for mai tais.

[BillBlueEyes]

Diet Coaches – Was feeling the stress of dealing with a contractor who had one more creative reason for not being here. So, rather than eat, I made a late night run to the supermarket to buy blueberries. CREDIT moi. As the season wanes, they keep arriving from further up north. These are from "Canada" (unstated where in Canada) - that's not a good sign for blueberry availability. When they're from Nova Scotia specifically, then the end is near.

Jean (kuhljeanie) - Ouch that the back pain continues. It's tough to have to forgo your exercise when you need it, but love the humor in your response, "so just BACK AWAY FROM THE DOUGHNUTS." Great example to us all to move forward, "one carload at a time."

onebyone – Kudos for attacking the procrastinated stuff. LOL at your response, "I just went "mmmmmm" to my description of food porn. Marching, marching, marching along. Good stuff.

shrinkin - Ouch for the stress, but Kudos for staying on plan rather than trying to use food to make it go away.

Bev – Wanted to send you a welcome but it seems that your post disappeared. It would be great to have you join us. Neat that you're on day 3: Give yourself credit. That's been a tough one for me all my life, so I've started working it hard with my Beck journey. I make it a point to give myself credit for something each day to my Diet Coaches here on 3FC - it's getting easier. Would you mind reposting so everyone can see you?

Readers – “ … You’ll get there!" Beck, pg 24.

[momof2gr8kids]

Hi everyone.
Glad to have found this group.
I am a 41 year old mom of 2. I need to lose about 15 pounds and this time I want to make permanent changes. I have yoyoed anywhere from 160 to 110 (for about one minute on WW many yrs ago lol!) for years. I have purchased a calorie monitor and am focusing on basic calories in/out and eating non-processed, balanced diet. I had read about Beck on Amazon.com and decided to buy it. I am on day 2 today. My backup plan will be WW flex. I am excited to be here...how has everyone done with making permanent changes to your thinking? It seems I can be my biggest enemy and sabateur!

[shrinkin]

Coaches:

Just past high end of calories yesterday, but credit for not any worse than that. Had a protein bar after dinner last night as "trolling food". Unplanned eating again... but good choice of unplannned in midst of stress . Is this just fooling myself?

Credit for going to pool yesterday in midst of "I just don't have time" feelings. PT session with good report , but one elbow really painful this am , so guess PT and I were overly optimistic yesterday. Tryng to control sense of defeat with this as I was very good about controlling activity all week. It is just a long road to healing.

No work on major project yesterday. Other important tasks intervened all day. Have to work all weekend too on a different responsibility. Stress mounts.

Will keep the faith on making good choices for foods and limiting portions. Convinced that working at it is worth it instead of "I can't because..." Pre-Beck me would have thrown in the towel by now.

Forgot to type in my weight report yesterday when I had to retype my post. No change for the week. No surprise based on eating behavior. Good news is that was the highest weight of the week and I was bouncing lower. So, not too worried about the ole scale. Have not evaluated any NS goals lately.

BBE-Kudos for that blueberry run. Don't want to think about the end of blueberries. One of my diet staples along with tomatoes.

kuhljeanie-Sorry to hear the Sciatica is worse. No experience with back and leg issues, but hoping this is only a transient setback? Sending positive thoughts to you on dealing with it. Suspect move activity very tough with ever present back/leg pain and concern to not over do. Backing away from the doughnuts is one form of exercise. Between your offer for mai tai and onebyone and spa, I am feeling better!

onebyone-Thanks for the words of encouragement! Decluttering life is a great stress reliever, so hope you did get those bags of "business stuff" out the door. Kudos for making gym plans smartly. Living in one's financial reality is healthy stress prevention.

Bev-briefly saw your post too last night. I am just finished with the 42 days and thinking of restarting again. So, hope you will post back!

[shrinkin]

Glad to have you! You are in the right place for working on the mental approach to food, exercise and trying to live healthier.

I am a relative newbie...about 6 weeks in to using Beck approach. There are a few on the board that have been at this awhile, so they will have to address your question about permanent changes. I am still at the taking it one day at a time stage.

[onebyone]

Good Morning Coaches

I've discovered that of all the protein sources, lean sausages make me crave more lean sausages. I think I will seriously limit the lean sausage. Many other protein sources to choose from. Credit moi for knowing I have a choice and that I believe I can make a change and stick to it. Lots of sticking-to-it going on with me lately. I remain OP, day 12 of 57 now. My cravings are almost non-existant. Sausages notwithstanding. I am eating 5 small meals a day, many veggies and I get some fruit tomorrow! Yay! In fact it's called a carb-up day so that means I get to have pizza, pasta, all those heavy carbs for one meal after 3pm tomorrow. And fruit during the day and the evening. That's what I want more than the pasta or pizza...and even that I am not dying to have. If it's the having a bit of protein at everymeal that's doing it, well, it's working, I have never felt so calm around food ever. And I get the hunger signal now. I'm really shocked. It's very very hopeful for doing this on a long term basis. Of course we'll see if I can get it together to stay on plan during school. If I can manage that then I do believe I have actually found a WOE for me.

shrinkin When you wrote

Pre-Beck me would have thrown in the towel by now.

I immediately thought "Me too." I would never have stuck it through so many diet changes that I started and stopped. Would never have kept myself open to finding what may work for me or believing that I would one day "get it" again ie. the willingness to stay on plan, the hope that something would work for me that I could live with. I would have felt that I wasn't doing anything, why bother, forget it, it won't work...all those things. But Beck has ingrained in me that we can always do something. We are not failures. To keep going keep trying and accept ourselves and stay hopeful. And without the coaches here nudging me along, keeping me in the game? Oh you guys are worth your weight in gold. Thanks.

momof2gr8kids Happy you found us! To answer your question I've been through the book once, started in February I think. Beck has had a real effect on my thinking. It's definitley made me more aware of my own eating pitfalls and my thinking around food and food choices. I am no longer so hard on myself and I now have strategies that pop into my head when I am faced with food situations. Just follow the book (I used the workbook only) do the exercises thoroughly, an day by day it'll grow on you too. It's very helpful. Happy you're here.

BillBlueEyes Canadian blueberries. I hope you got some from Sudbury, my home town! (That's in Northern Ontario.) Happy to hear Nova Scotia has blueberries as I keep thinking I want to move there after school is done next year. Still in the thinking stages on that one Sorry for the hassle of the contractors who do not seem to need the work eh? Good for you for not eating over it.

kuhljeanie Wow this has got to be the worst time for you to have a sciatica flareup. Ouch, bigtime ouch. My sympathies. Well, all I can think is your body wants to stop and rest. It's forcing you to take it easy. My body will give me a cold or something to get me to slow down. I was stopped by that stomach flu for 6 days a couple of weeks back. No fun. Don't turn to food! DO NOT DO IT. Talk it out, write it out, post it out. Eating is nothing about "getting it out" it is all about "pushing it down". Your frustration with your life will mix with the food you've shoved down and when it comes out it'll be double strength self-loathing and recrimination. Lordy! Don't do that girl!
Just get through it, everyday you're getting through it, you always do the best you can, you can trust that, and one day soon, this phase will be over.

I'm sending a big hello, hope you're doing well to you guys: hbuchwald, RobinW, QuilterInVA, freer, sciencequeen, goodnuff, coastalsue, CyndiM, KO, angelmomma210, maryblu, HisBeloved, and anyone else who's read and not posted ever! TGIF have a good weekend

[momof2gr8kids]

Thanks for the welcomes. I am doing the workbook and I also bought the audiobook, which I listen to in the car on my way to work in the morning. I have a question about the response cards/index cards....do any of you have suggestions how to keep them handy, but not get them all torn up in your purse? I bought bright neon index cards so they are easy to find...but I can see them getting torn up easily in my messy purse.

Any other tips?

[RobinW]

Good Morning

Thanks everyone Things have been ruff, but Im muddling thru.

Onebyone....I did finish the book (reading) but I havent finished working thru it. This is one of the things Ive been struggling with. Keeping my days organized and just getting to the job of loosing weight is proving to be very difficult. As a side note onebyone.....my home town is sault ste marie ontario! We were practically neighbours!! We used to buy blueberries from the ppl selling out of the back of their trucks on the sides of the highway!

I read the book, I have the work book and I am going to purchase the audio cds (so that I can at least listen to them at the shop while Im working) But like Dr. Beck says ......make the time and commit to it. Because it is a job that needs tending to and needs to get done.

I plan to start back at day one, but how do you do that with so much going on in your life?

I need to Just get on with IT
I need to set time aside each and every day for this. Which means I need to get up earlier in the day to make time for it. I am sooooooooo not a morning person!
I need to schedule my evenings so that I can get my workouts in, and still work on marketing and networking inbetween.

I know what I need to do........I just need to be in the right frame of mind.

I'll check back later. Things have been a bit busy lately.

[onebyone]

RobinW wrote:

As a side note onebyone.....my home town is sault ste marie ontario! We were practically neighbours!! We used to buy blueberries from the ppl selling out of the back of their trucks on the sides of the highway!

Wow we really were practically neighbours! I really like the Soo.
So a couple of northern ontario girls... we can do this! If we can survive those winters... we can do this...and just like we did that, one day at a time
I know what it's like to be super busy with a lot of stuff to get to all the time. Just remember, if you aren't healthy and happy, you aren't able in the long run to do everything you need to do. You really do need to make some time, have an official timeout for yourself. And until you get to the place where you can move forward, just do what you can and eventually, you will do more. Just don't give up. It really does work... it's just not "magic" is all
All the best to you today!

momof2gr8kids I don't have much advice over what else to use besides the index cards. I look forward to others answering you. It may help me too! Many people seem to get a lot from the audio version. I wish I had that but don't.

Okay back to my day...