just last week. If he is really going to do this....that is the best thing.....but it really seems like he is just around now cuz his mom has taken a sudden interest in being a grandma, and whatever she wants him to do........he does. It is a bit creepy. You are both right......I will go. I will just be there for her.......that is all I want to do. :) Thanks girls!
XOXO

Nicole - My best friend has dealt with a similar situation. On the day after she turned 18, her DD up and moved out. She moved in with DBF, then about six months later...got married. Well, through this whole thing my friend's DH refused to talk to the DD...thought she had made her decisions and had to live with it. But, of course, whenever the DD needed something she would call Mama. My friend was so torn between being loyal to her DH and taking care of her child. She decided that she had to help the DD, and that DH would have to understand. How do you turn off being "Mom?"...I couldn't. Luckily, time has healed the DH and DD relationship and things are starting to get better.

Okay...all that to tell you to just follow your heart.

aww, how sad. I don't think DH would ever get too extreme......but he just doens't realize what it is like to be a girl in desperation.......and I do :) I did tel DD I would go with her.....and she said, "no, mom, nick and I are going to go this time........will you just come next time." I said no problem :) Men......sorry Dan........but so many of you are a$$es. I have one of the best, and I am sooo thankful.......and this one of my DD's really needs to step it up!!!! Thanks for your input, Paula :) Every little bit helps :)
XOXO

Nicole- Man, what a sticky situation. I would just advise to be open and honest with your DD and expect her to be the same with you.

Nicole, The boyfriend may just grow up and turn into a decent adult. He is so young and the judgement and thought processes of kids that age is just flawed. Perhaps holding his own newborn daughter will be enough to make him want to try to make things right for her. He might be just a huge comfort for your DD right now. If he can just avoid being a major jerk for say.. 33 more days... Or maybe even 45 days... Hey if the mom is a force in making him treat your daughter with a little tenderness and respect at this time, regardless of her motivation, well that is a force for good. Sure there might be some major heartache ahead for your daughter, but perhaps it will be months down the road when she is better prepared to deal. Not feeling so desperate and alone.

Well grandchild #11 and grandson #9 made his appearance a little after 3 this morning. His name is Tyler Richard and he weighed in at 7 - 10 and is 19" long. He is cutie patootie!! I'm going back up to the hospital a little later today to get my baby fix.

Congrats Laurie!!!!

While, as a man, I'd stop short of saying he was a cutie patootie, I'm sure he's a strapping young fella!! :lol:

He looks so tiny compared to the toddler we had 9 weeks ago. That one weighed in at 10-14 and was 24" long. He's already in 6 - 9 mos clothes. It'll be kind of nice to have a "newborn" for a change!!

Oh and Thanks Dan.

Don't let him spoil this time or make you miss a single moment. When push comes to shove, you know that you will be there and so does she ... can we say the same of the DBF?

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Hi

I am glad that there is a forum like this. Anyway...

My daughter is 16 and started LAWL 4 weeks ago. She wants to lose 34 lbs.

She has lost 1 lb total in 4 weeks. The first week she lost 2.5 lbs. The following visit, we were told that since she was 16 she needed more food.

The next visit, since we decided not to shell out the $1200 for the bars, they added more food to her plan.

Every time they add more food she doesn't lose any weight and is getting very frustrated.

She is eating everything she is suppose to be eating and nothing more.

She is on 2.5 protein, 4 veg, 4 fruit, 6 starch, 3 dairy and 5 fats. This sound like a lot of food.

She is on the verge of quitting.

Any advice?

Thanks :)

Congrats Laurie! Enjoy being Grandma again! :)

How much does she weigh? The food sounds about right....

Wow, simonisapug, that does seem like a lot of food. I can't believe that if she isn't losing, they wouldn't adjust her plan. I would voice your frustration with the counselors and see what they can do. Five fats seems outrageous! I'm a little jealous, I've only ever been allowed 2 fats. Same thing with the starches, I only get three a day. I would start asking questions at the center. Keep us updated as to what they say...

Julie

I agree with Julie.. they need to change her plan if it is not working. Even if they cut down gradually, you will see if it is helping. Good luck!

Wow you guys are awesome
 

My daughter weighs 153.6 lbs and she is 5' 4" tall.

The reason they added all the extra food was because she was 16 and still growing. I took her to the doctor, who said that she has stopped growing and that there is no reason that my daughter couldn't be on the adult program. I mention this to a counsellor, who then spoke to their dietitcian, who then said that my daughter needed to stay on the teen program.

The counsellor is creating a menu plan to ensure that my daughter is eating the right combination of foods at the right time. Hopefully this will work, we need results soon.

The one good thing about this program is that it forces the whole family to make better food choices.

Thanks so much :)