How are you doing? Everything OK?

Uhm - yeah... I second that...

Well I have been busy AND sick again! Durn allergies! This warm weather has starting making all the flower trees bloom and it is KILLING my allergies. I had to work on Thurs and Friday and then after work yestereday I came home and was sound asleep on some serious allergy meds by 8pm!! I did get on the scale today and I am still STS which I am glad about cause I have eaten out alot this past week. We have tons of bdays in our family this week so its been eating out alot! Now I am ready to regain my momentum and get back on the ball!

Sorry guys. I haven't been good. I don't feel good. I don't like to post when I can't be funny and encouraging. I am failing. I have lost faith in myself. I can usually put on a good face when I am down. Not now. I try and try. But I fail. Fat girl is out of control. My in-laws will be here Thursday. My MIL feels the need to constantly talk about weight. She gives me weight loss tips, tells me what I have to do to lose weight. And you can't challenge her. She is just right. She gave me a shirt on one visit. Told me it was the biggest size they had, but maybe it would stretch. And my husband isn't even here to help deflect their attention. They one time I miss him is now.

Cna't seem to stop crying. Don't want to take these #@&*$@# meds anymore. I just want to be normal. I just want to feel good. Is that so much to ask??? I want to walk into a stop and not be the fat girl. I want to go to a restaraunt and not feel gross.

So why don't I work harder? I don't know. I'm so tired.

Oh Marcie, I wish I could give you a big HUG.....

I am going thru some life changing events on my end with a housefull of company and I could just scream.... I have have a few glasses of wine the last few nights to get me thru but I don't recommend that. Too many calories.

Who can you talk to???? What about your therapist? Do you have any sisters, brothers, parents???? Talk to them. I find the more people I talk too the better I feel.

You can pm me or email anytime.....I will give you my phone number if you like. I am here for you.

Phyllis

Hi Marcie,

Please don't stay away from us when you're feeling down. We are always here for you. Maybe it is the planets. I've been doing terrible. Back to VERY bad old habits. NOT planning ahead. NOT buying/cooking good, healthy meals. Eating lots of sweets. NOT eating vegetables. NOT drinking water. Every night I go to bed disgusted with myself. I wake up every morning feeling like I will conquer the day & by 1 or 2 in the afternoon, I'm off to the races.

OK - tomorrow, I'm going to try to get back to the Sonoma Diet. I need a really good week without sugar/high GI carbs.

Let's all keep checking in here - no matter how bad we're doing with our eating.

We need each other. Maybe even more than we need to lose weight.

Sending lots of love to Marcie, Laurie, Daisy, Phyllis, and everyone in our group,

Lynn

Marcy Honey... Don't give up!!!! We all fall off the wagon...you need us to help get ya back in the saddle! Don't stray it only makes things worse! We need you like you need us!

Marcie, I hear you! My EX-mother-in-law once told me I was a dead ringer for Mimi on the Drew Carey show. The best part of my whole divorce was never having to see or hear from that woman again in my life! When we moved to Arizona, she pitched a screaming and yelling fit and didn't talk to us for a year -- best year of my marriage.

You may just have to chalk it up to her being a rotten person and just ignore her. Or tell her to stuff it up her nose -- I did that once too. The look on her face was priceless. Actually what I told her was that I may be fat, but I could go on a diet and lose weight however she would be a nasty ugly person the rest of her life and there was no cure for that. You do NOT have to put up with her comments and you do NOT deserve it.

Dr. Phil was on yesterday while I was home on vacation and he had two daughters on the show that have a mother who only gripes and complains and puts them down. He told them that they can't control what she says, but they have full control over how they react. They can choose to rise to her comments and lower themselves to her level or they can choose to ignore her and chalk it up to her being miserable with her life and just forget about it. Interesting premise -- he's right. We allow people to get to us by how we react. I always liked Ann Landers' response to people like that -- she'd say now why would you say something like that? Or I'll forgive you for asking such a thing if you forgive me for not answering.

And I'm right there with you and Lynn and Laurie -- I have been so far off any program of any kind for the past 4 or 5 days it's not even funny. Must be a full moon.

I can beat her up for you, Marcie!

Why do we let people talk to us like this? I read one article that suggested you pat them on the shoulder or some other "brush off" hand gesture and say, "Oh, you!", as if that person can be expected to be inappropriate and must simply be placated like a small child. Any chance your father-in-law can be enlisted as an ally?

Marcie,
((((HUGS)))) I so feel for you. Please come here and post even when you are feeling bad! PM me anytime. I will also give you my phone # if you want. Do not let your depression get the best of you! FIGHT Stay strong! Hold On!
PS. tell your MIL that i am sending the above "sumo guy" to kick her mean spirited bony A*@!

Marcie loving ones self is the hardest thing to do. You are so very worth the effort. You are wonderful. I want you here to support me all the time not just when you are up and funny and motivating. I may be less inclined to believe that you understand all I am going thru if you were always up and never had any issues at all to deal with. Please don't get me wrong I want you to be happy and to have a wonderful life but I want the real you to be here not a made up version. The you who feels that I can be there for you in your need not just you in mine. I want you to ignore you MIL the best you can. Rise above all her garbage and know it for what it is. People who are cruel to others often have low self esteem and very little love from others around them so they compensate by being nasty to others before others can be nasty to them. You are wonderful and you are choosing to change things in your life for you not her. So go at your own pace and never let others make you feel bad. Come here where others want nothing more than to encourage you and make you stronger. You need only read all these messages to realize that we care for you and hopefully you can come get a daily dose or more for everything nasty she says. And don't forget to just come on and vent. We can take it, vent away! love ya.

Stop it, Marcie. Just stop. You are in charge here and only you can change things. ONLY you. No one else. My GOD Woman! What is wrong?! You are beautiful - gorgeous even. Look at these women - you are every bit as lovely and captivating as they are - they are models... men trip over themselves to be near these women. You are there, m'dear - you are already there.

I want to tell you something - your MIL can not make you feel bad without your permission. Don't let her - you have to stop it right now! Before she gets there practice what you will say to her. Comments about your weight are not needed or appreciated. Maybe you can say to her that you find her comments to be condescending and you wish she would stop - you can be polite - and in front of your kids you probably should be - but under no circumstances should you accept that kind of treatment from her. I can tell you I wouldn't be so polite - but that is just me and probably not the best approach. I would probably stock up on wrinkle cream and that stuff they sell for age spots and tell her you don't know if it will be strong enough but it was all you could find.

See!??! Nasty - you probably don't want to go there...

Marcie - you need to come here. We will laugh with you and cry with you and be pissed off with you. We will not allow you to give up on yourself - you don't have to be witty and funny all the time. Sometimes it is okay to just lean on those around you. That would be us...

Come on - bring it - we can take it...

Okay, I'm here. Boring, but here. So stressed about MIL's visit, but seriously considering Daisy's wrinkle cream advice. The hard part is that she plays it like she is trying to be nice. So I can't get mad at her nastiness. Anyway, no, my FIL is NOT a potential ally. She cut his balls off long ago. It's nice to know others are having trouble with the diet right now. I realize I am probably eating too much because of my nerves regarding MIL's visit. Hmmmm. Emotional eating at it's nastiest!

I just got done reading this book called Till We Eat Again-Confessions of a Diet Dropout. Hilarious. At first I wasn't sure, since she only had 15 pounds to lose, but her approach to all the craziness of the diet industry is great. She kinda lightens the mood of weight loss.

Anyway, I love you all and as always, totally appreciate your support. I will post more often. It really does make me feel better.

Pssst... yes you can. Her passive aggressive tactics may seem innocent but clearly they are not. You have to call her on it, Girl... you just have to.

Anyway - it is good to hear from you. Stay plugged in!

Yes, absolutely! Stay with us girl! I am lucky in that my MIL is my best friend...but I feel your pain because my mother was like that. Very critical, perfectionist, overly concerned about "outward appearances" etc. (No wonder I spend so much on therapy!) Now she has alzheimers and has become the sweetest person I know...really hard to stay angry but never really got closure either! But I work on it daily! I have been sooooo off plan this week that I did not even weigh myself...I don't need a scale to tell me I failed...again! But this is a new week and I will..I will...I willl try to stay on plan. Keep your chin up and your attitude in check Marcie! Passive Agressives are the WORST! It is one of my very biggest pet peeves. Stay Strong.