Buddy System??
 

Ok since several of us have fallen off the wagon and then some, maybe we need to pair up with a buddy system. When you see your buddy slacking off with checking daily or any other reason, call that person and check in with that person, motivate each other and be held accountable for someone else too! Do a buddy check in with each other daily or something. If you know someone else is depending on your or relying on you or that someone WILL call you and check in with you wouldn't you have more gumption to do better?

You can even send your buddy special inspirational thoughts, cards, poems, gifts or something to keep each other going!

What do you ladies think?


OK SO FAR WE HAVE:

Laurie
Donna
Jeanette
Teri
MaGreta
Vicki
Dani
Phyllis
Lynn
Jessica



While we are waiting on others to join, think about a person you feel most comfortable talking to, do you have a regular buddy you chat with on YIM? You need to find someone who you think you could call on the wim and not feel uncomfortable talking to. This is going to be like AA, when you fall off the wagon you can call this person and get that support and inspiration, someone you WILL can on also to give inspiration and to check in on.

Think about it and we can decide who buddies with who when everyone checkks in!

Hi!
You can count me in... this would be a great help!!

Vicki

I'll do it! How are we going to buddy? I'll go read the next thread maybe its in there ;)

Sounds like a plan - I like it!!

Me too - count me in too - sounds good! specially after the 'wedding and family week-end' - ;) how do we go about it?

Lets wait and see how many people will want to do it, then you can either pick a buddy and talk to them and see if they want to be your buddy or we can put names in a hat and draw them out.

I love the idea! Count me in.

Me too!

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Ok, I'm in......good idea. Phyllis

I'm in.

Oh, me too. Even with my other challenge, I still need daily motivation, and I'm having trouble getting on this site and posting, because I'm so darn busy now that school's back in session!

Jessica

About choosing a buddy - Maybe we should buddy up with someone we don't know so well - then we'll get to know her.

BUT some people may not feel comfortable calling someone else they dont' know well? Just a thought. What do you ladies think? We will leave it up to you ladies!

Any way doesn't matter. Another thing to think about..... if we choose our own buddies then there's going to be some who feel bad that they can't find a buddy because everyone is getting picked so fast. So maybe the hat idea would be best. That way we just get assigned. And every 1-2 weeks the buddies get drawn again. That way we really get to know others here and become accountable in different ways to eachother. what do you all think????? I would be comfortable with any of you, I feel that we are more like a big close nit circle of friends/sisters. I really like the buddy idea, you ROCK LAURIE!!!!!

Dani - that sounds great. We could do the hat thing!!! I'm comfortable with everyone - do we have everyone's phone numbers, etc. My email will be changing because we are not going to be dial up anymore (my DH got tired of me calling him the caveman):lol: Finally!!!

I might like to try this buddy thing, but I know I am not good with keeping up with people via the telephone. Email is the best way for me to communicate. If you are like me and don't mind having an email buddy to check up on you, then we could pair up. I just know if I agree to the phone way, I will let you down.

I'm pretty much the same, not a phone person....would do fine with e-mails, cards or IM....how does everyone else feel??? Phyllis

What ever you feel most comfortable with, but you HAVE to be consistant, check in every day if you don't this buddy system will not work! So everyone pick a buddy and go for it! Get that motivation going!

I am going to go call Becca and Becky today and try and get them going again!!

Wait a minute--are we picking our own, or are you picking for us?

You pick your own buddy if you like, I dont' want to put you with someone you may not feel comfy with so go ahead and email/pm or YIM the person you would like to buddy up with and see if they still need a buddy.

okay

My two cents worth is that if we stick to the people we already are in contact with we will not have any growth in the group...I am not a telephone person but I have had e-mail with several women and IM with a few. No one has ever phoned me. I know if I stick to the ones I already have contact with I am not getting to know so many other women here.

It seems many women here go in spurts of posting, then not posting...someone is going to get their feelings hurt.

How many of you are phone friends? Or just IM friends? Maybe we can switch buddies every 3 mths or so to keep us making new friends??? I just hate to see anyone get hurt when a member goes into a funk & quits being in contact for a week or so, again just my opinion.

I will do what the group chooses but please be careful if you make the commitment of everyday contact and don't follow thru....I have seen groups fall apart in similar situations.

Seems I might be the bad guy here, not trying to be....I love the idea. Phyllis

That is why I said let you choose someone on your own, its up to you. You can pick someone that you dont' know that well and get to know them or do what YOU as an individual feel is the best for them. I am leaving this up to you guys, I am not going to pick who you can buddy up with because if your buddy does get in this funk or if you have a clash of personality, I dont' want to feel at fault or guilty cause I buddied you up with this person. So if there are two of you who love talking on the phone that is great you can buddy up, that would work perfectly for you, that is why I want you to pick your own buddy and by all means you dont' have to even buddy up if you dont' like. This is optional just something for some extra support.

What do you think of switching about every 2 or 3 weeks? That way if someone bails thier buddy can stay on track with support. I don't know, just a thought.

Sounds good to me Donna, this does not have to be this difficult. You just have to be a 100% partcipate because someone else is depending on you!

i'm in i'm more of a email person, hard to talk on the phone with a baby,

my email is [email protected] (my other email when i get it working is [email protected])

also my AIM is sdhorses2001

so who ever wants to be my buddy just let me know i'm not picky i love meeting new people.