Why do you want to be malnourished and so underweight? Do you think it will be attractive? Sexy? I can tell you that men don't like sticks. They like women to look like women...with curves. I know this because I have grown sons, and they talk to me about what they think is attractive. So do their friends.

Follow Ilene's advice. Reshape your body - a healthy, strong body is far more attractive than a bag of bones.

Thanks, :) but I don't feel comfortable in my skin. But I would, if I just reach 50 kg :)

You are a beautiful young lady just the way you are. I see NO FAT on you. You have some small curves. Curves are beautiful. Curves are sexy.

Please, please think about this and don't starve yourself!

I got an e-mail today of some models that were so thin all you could see is their bones. That's not beautiful!
And if your friends are telling you that you are fat then I have to be very honest in saying that they're not your true friends. True friends are concerned with your health and happiness and not how skinny you look in your jeans.

@ Monet
Yeahh you're totally right! i'd like to be fit and thin!:D :D

Marti, I think you look perfectly beautiful just as you are right now :) Look around, there are thousands of women here that would give anything to have your body! :lol: You look healthy right now, too. But if you starve yourself, you will become very unhealthy. Your hair will fall out. Your skin will change. You will become depressed and not understand that you are not well. Eating disorders are very terrifying not only for the people that have them, but for the people that love them and try to help.

You need to eat at least 1200 calories per day to get enough nutrition to survive and be healthy and energetic enough to exercise. Please think about it, and talk to your doctor about it :) Your goal weight of 88 is scary, because you should only weigh that little if you are a child. But you are a beautiful young woman, and your body is unique. Treat it well, and it won't let you down :)

We are not trying to fuss at you, but hope that you understand that we all have experience here with being very overweight, and that we feel sad when we see young women fall victim to unrealistic goals, especially with people like Kate Moss as examples. Kate Moss and the few women like her are rare, not normal.

Being normal is a good goal :)

Lips_sewn_shut, yes i also want to be fit and thin :dizzy: i know some little curves is attractive... :) actually on many models i see curves too... i don't want to be that ugly only boney woman.... but i would love even that figure better than my current one.... thank you for all of your comments people, i will excercise, becouse it seems you all suggest that. :) So it have to works... :) actually i neighter don't like that too anorexic figures.... just thin and fit.... that works for me :D :D :D
:hug: to everyone!!! :)

Suzanne, your letter is very touching and wonderful! You are very warm-hearted :) Thank you for the nice post.... i will think on that, but i still feel i need to lose weight... just for myself to be content and happy. :) It is so bad when you feel you are ugly and no one loves you... and i often feel this.... i never had any boyfriend, maybe becouse i was so shy or i hadn't too much self-confidence, i don't know, but maybe becouse boys don't liked my look... i was so sad for years, and now here's a little light-ray for me to be happy finally, it is sooo great feeling! now that i am on diet, i feel so much lighter and i feel i have more energy than before.... i know it's strange but it's the fact and i's true. First time in my life i feel really happy that i made a decision to make my life for better. And i already feel some little results, people say, i look better and it is so good feeling... so i need to do it along... at least i need to be happy, and i feel i can really be content with myself if i reach my goal... okey, 40 kg is really too low weight, but i have a friend, she is also 23 years old and 40 kg and looks normal.... i mean she is pretty and not too thin. So this is why i think i should reach that goal. :) Maybe i will stop at 45. but i still don't know.... i will see how i will look like, and i will see responses, so then i can decide how further... :)

Dear Lenee, thank you very much for your post, you are really kind person :) Actually my friends don't say i am fat, but my mother's boyfriend keep telling that i shouldn't eat too much... he always says i eat too much and he keeps telling me that i have fat stomach... this makes me very sad.... i cannot describe what i feel when he says this.... of course i know a true friend never say to a friend that he/she is fat... actually i have very few friends, and sometimes i think it is becouse i look very bad.... not only my body, but my whole look... so finally i'm so happy i can change on my look, and i want to do everything what i can do for a happier life and for a better look. I know i will never be thin or skinny becouse i have my own figure, and i cannot change on that. But i can be maybe a little bit prettier. And if that can be i do everything for that. And it will be worth i know :)

Assuming what you've written is for real:
If you keep such a low calorie diet for a period of time, you have to be prepared for the consequences that will arise...Heart failure and death being the most serious. It happens. You need to decide if being thin is worth being dead or severely physically impaired for the rest of your life, needing others to help you to do everything...Needing people even to help you to the bathroom. I'd say no. Are you prepared for infertility as well?
I wonder if you have early anorexia, if so, I'd recommend stopping now because it only gets harder because eventually you lose control. You have to make a decision for your self. Consider making a proactive decision for life. There are much healthier ways to lose weight...start with your doctor/dietician to see if you even have weight to lose.

Your picture doesn't look like you need to lose weight. If you're interested in changing your body shape, toning exercises (in moderation) are the way to go.

Harmonymarti

If I had a boyfriend that told my daughter she was "fat" I would hit him over the head with a skillet!:devil: Look, I know he's older but he's NOT wiser. Some older people have hang-ups with weight too. Please don't listen to him. So many ladies here have told you that you look beautiful. That's the truth.

Just keep in mind that your health is the MOST IMPORTANT THING. Sometimes if you get too extreme in losing weight you will just end up gaining more and more in the long run because sooner or later you will get hungry because you've been starving your body. Be good to your body. It's the only one you'll ever get. So take very good care of it, Okay? ;)

Oh man harmony, I almost want to cry!:( I used to think that way in high school. I know I probably can't change your mind but don't go down this road!

I used to think for years that if I could just be thinner/prettier, my life would be awesome. I even reached my goal once when I was 20: I was finally pretty and thin! And you know what? It wasn't any easier to meet friends or guys because I was still the same shy, sullen girl I was before, only now I was BORING because all I thought about was my looks! If you devote so much of your energy to your looks you will become a hollow shell.

It's taken me years to rediscover what interests me, what motivates me, what makes me who I am!

*sigh* But I know that if someone had told ME that 10 years ago I doubt it would've changed a thing.

Good luck.:hug: