Hi I'm new and need help
 

Let me tell you a little bit about me. I was always an active, outdoorsy type of person. This helped me stay trim when I was younger. I did a pretty good job until I got into a marriage that was really bad for me. He was abusive mentally and physically. I lost so much of myself and me self esteem in the marriage that I ballooned from 135 lbs. to 227 lbs. in just 3 short years. When I finally had sunk so low that I could not take it anymore I finally got out. In less than 6 months after the marriage ended I had lost 60 lbs and was in great shape. I swam 3 miles a day 5 days a week and I kickboxed for and hour 3 times a week. Then I married the love of my life. I got pregnant for the first time shortly after that. I had a high risk pregnancy, so I had to stop a lot of my fitness goals. I had a hard pregnancy and post birth, so somehow through that I lost sight of all of the goals that I had worked so hard to set up. After a couple of years we decided that we wanted another child. I had to start loosing weight again so that I could get pregnant again. So for the want of a child I lost abt 40 lbs. I was back up to my pre weight loss of 227 lbs. I then got pregnant and again had a high risk pregnancy. Since I had my second child I have pretty much stopped doing anything. My husband loves me for who I am and not what I look like. He is a wonderful person who would never say anything about where I need to be as far as how I look or how much I weigh. I find that I look in the mirror and am depressed because I think about where, the beautiful woman that I was went. At one time I was asked to model. Where am I? I am now at my all time high of 272 lbs. I see myself dying before I can watch my two beautiful children grow up, or never seeing myself in their photographs because I can't stand to have proof of how far I have fallen from where I was. Please help me, I need support.

hi
 

i just want to say hi and tell you this is a great support system and i just started . its great to know you have a loving husband that will help alot. i am trying to lose 181 pounds .. i have lost 20 so far so i still have along way to but i just try to stay focused on healthy eating and lots of exercise.and the most important thing.. coming on the message board to talk to good people and get great inspiration mentally really helps!:hug:

Welcome Trish, I am sure you will find a lot of great support and encouragement on these boards from women who have had similar situations as yours. Good Luck on reaching out for help and I hope for you the best. Many of us were at the low point where you are right now , when we started making the changes that would improve our lives and health. I, too, had thought I would die from obesity related health problems before I could get my children raised. Losing the weight and improving your life is definitely possible with hard work and determination. I couldn't describe to you how much better my health is now that I've lost 80 lbs. If there is any way that I can help you, just let me know. Congratulations on getting started and on finding some wonderful support.

ive been there...
 

i too was in that nasty marriage thing. He was a gorgeous tall dark and handsome with an accent...ok, he was egyptian...and i fell hard only to find out sson after the wedding what a jerk he was. i endured 8 years of that and ate my way thru the pain. i actually just ended it last month. i packed up my kid and flew to my dads in florida. well, i want to lose this weight. i had a big ouch lately when i met a guy online and we did the camera thing. he loved my face but when i stood up, thats the last of him. the prejudice towards heavies is awful...i just want to lose this weight, hop into a slinky red dress and wag my butt at him one day. hahaha!
i hear its easier to diet with a bud so if you want to, we can do it. i weigh 270 now...i havent started the diet i was gonna do last week and i hate it. its so hard i dont think i could lose it. at least we arent ugly right?
inside i am a sexy tall chick that all the girls would hate but this fat is my prison. its keeping me from doing so much. i wont settle for any man either...anyway who needs em'. we can help each other...thats what this site is for.
tami

thank you for all of the things that have been said for support. I can tell that this is going to be a great way to get the motivation to keep going and to get to the weight that I want to be.

Welcome to 3FC! I know you will find all the support that you need ... and then some! ;) Everyone here is fabulous and very encouraging!

Wishing you lots of luck on your weight loss journey :D

Welcome Trish :D

I'm new too and am also trying to lose my pregnancy weight. Like you, I was once in an abusive relationship and know what that can do to your self-worth and self-esteen. On the flip side, you really showed your strength and determination after you (thankfully) got out of that relationship, and that strength and determination is still there, even if it feels it's not. These are traits that I believe are part of our personality and although sometimes life experiences can bury them, they don't ever go away. You just have to search for them once more.

Sorry, I'm going on a bit! I wish you the best of luck and hope I can be of some support on your journey.

K. :)

Good morning Trish!
This is a great site with lots of support!!!! Use it when you need it!!! It's open 24/7!!!
Find a buddy or several!!!
If you ever want to talk, just give me a shout!
Take care and have a great day!!!!!!

Just wanted to pop in and welcome you to 3FC! I would also like to extend an invitation to sneak a peek at a thread I belong to. 1 yr. / 100lb. buddy They're are a great group of ladies that has banded together in hopes of losing 100lbs. within a year of their commencement. If it weren't for them I wouldn't be where I am today. I draw a lot from this site and wish the same for you too!