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New to the site!!
OK today was a tough day! So I went looking for some support and I found this site. I am a 34 yr old mother of 2 who has been working her behind off literally since January 2005! I have lost about 70 pounds and have about 30-40 to go. I know, I know---I AM thrilled! I have just recently realized I have so much to share and so much more to learn. I would LOVE to have a fitness/weight loss/emotional support/I am having a bad day, please stop me from eating the cookies buddy. Anyone needing some extra support or would like to give some extra support out there??? Hope today is better for ya'll than it was for me!
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Welcome challenged! I'm a new member here also and it's such a great place for support. Everytime I feel like eating I log in here!
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Hey girl! Believe me, I know what you mean ... I think we all need that person to keep us from eating that cookie or piece of candy .. .especially this time of year! You will find that support here for sure! So welcome, make yourself at home, congratulations on the 70 lbs lost -- that is FABULOUS ... you WILL get the rest off and just remember, everyday is a new day!
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Hey Scale,
Wow :dizzy: Your story is so close to mine. I started this In june of this year and have shed 50 pds. I am thrilled but I still want to lose 40 to 50 pds. Some days are so good and some days I struggle every second.I used to post here all the time and I started back working and only drop by every couple of days and sometimes I don't post at all.I am not satisfied staying where I am at right now. It is more than I don't want to stay in a size 14 because last year I would have killed to be that size. :rofl: It has a lot more to do with how I feel and my health. I am a mother of two and I am 38. I would love to be around to enjoy my grandchildren. Besides that I am worth this struggle. I am here to offer support and would love to recieve some. Welcome Valerie :welcome: Hello Sunny. |
Thank You!
I probably shouldn't have been, but I was surprised how you ladies jumped right in and made me feel welcomed! If anyone is seriously interested in buddying up, lets get something started. We can do private messages or however they work it here. I am so new I have no clue. I do know that I need more steady support....daily if not hourly (kidding) to keep myself on track. Anyone else??
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Welcome challenged. I always come here when I feel weak and need some support. I hate having those week moments. Before coming here I didn't have any type of support. It's nice to have someone hold you accountable. Just to have someone tell you, "You don't need to eat that cookie." How are you going to feel when you do. Plus it's nice to have a buddy let you know what good work you are doing.
Friday I was really stressing. I went out for a walk to get some things at the drugstore and you don't know how tempted I was to buy a big bag of chocolate. It was calling me. I didn't get it. I know that I probably would have eaten the whole bag before going home> I wouldn't have wanted the DH knowing that I had bought it. I like going shopping with him because he is like my deterent when I want to buy chocolate. I stare at it and he is like getting impatient with me and I pass it up. I think it's your own preference on how to keep in touch. Some do it just in the regular forum, others send private messages and some prefer to email each other back and forth or use the different messenger services. Either way it's all about the support, motivation and friendship. |
I agree annie! I need that suppot! My husband really loves me no matter the weight so for him, its not all that important. So forget the support there! lol If anyone would rather a one on one support relationship, I am open to the idea. Just drop me a line....
Connie |
Yeah, hubby loves me too no matter how much I weigh. But I get so worried sometimes. Because the past week we have been seeing a commercial for Trimspa. Some kind of Million dollar challenge. And they show before and after pics of people and everytime he sees one of the women he is like, "She looked better before." My heart sinks. It's like what the heck bud. Is that what he is going to think of me when I lose weight? Really hinders the weigh loss if you know what I mean. I get upset because I eat something and he'll say, "It's ok to have something like this once in awhile. He's not that helpful.
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Oh annie! I know what you mean. Instead of support, they become enablers--allowing us to feed our addiction, literally. I have to remind my husband that this isn't for him, its for me and how i feel. Unfortunately, this one time he comes second in that area. I'm right here for you!
Connie |
I am so glad you understand Connie. I feel exactly like he is enabling me to be fat. Though I do know it is my responsibility what goes into my mouth. Sadly to say the last couple of weeks(excluding last week), I have been eating very well. I mention the word exercise and I just wait to see if he starts laughing. He doesn't think that I can manage to do it for more then a few days. I could go a month and he would say that's good. Guess it means you are going to stop soon.
He seems to want to be my trainer. We tried a few months back of him telling me what to do, but it didn't work well. He wanted me to do what he was doing. Guess he figured if it works for him, it will work for me. Wrong. I am not him and I would like to have my own routine. I think I would stick my own exercises own my own terms then him being a dictator. He drives me up the wall. In the summer I wanted to go walking, but he didn't want me to go alone. Something might happen to me. I'm 10 1/2 years older than him. I think I can take care of myself. So yes.. I agree with you that he is going to have to come second right now. Well, maybe 3rd. I need to take care of me and our daughter first. He is going to have to fend for himself. I am determined to see a loss on the scale this week. I have had 2 weeks in a row of no loss. Yes, it's better then gaining but dang it. I want to lose something. :crossed: |
I hear ya on the attitude. My husband is a nice guy, but I have tried and failed so many times that he really didn't believe me until he actually SAW it come off. I went out and bought a gym membership.....he was sooo not happy. It is the best $50 a month I spend and its a totally selfish way to spend money. He would complain and laugh at me til i bought jeans two sizes smaller, then he was like you aren't going to wear that out are ya? I said oh yes I am!
So my advice is to let him snicker and snear...its total insecurity on his part. He may feel if you lose weight, you wont be dependent on him for your security...who really knows? All I know is, I refused to let him drag me down and its been really hard. Oh and it won't always be your husband, but maybe a friend that isn't having success or a relative...my sisters are hard on me with both of them having weight issues as well. Chin up and come here for support....i've been so busy typing to you, I forgot to eat my dessert! Connie :carrot: |
Yes, my hubby is a nice guy too. I just don't think he has much faith in me when it comes to losing weight. Heck, I gave up regular soda. And now I have a diet soda maybe once a week. I found that I don't really need the soda. I thought I would die if I had to drink diet. It was pretty much a hit and miss with me. I just had to try a few diets until I found one or 2 that I like. Now I think there are about 4 or 5 that I can stand drinking. So I kinda rotate between them so I am not stuck on just having one of them. I think he could give me credit for that.
I agree with you on insercurity. I think he is afraid of what will happen if I lose weight. I am sure I will hear are you going to wear that. You don't need to show off. I don't want to be selfish, but I need to start doing something for me instead of doing for others. I have never been dependent upon my husband and maybe that is where some of insecurity comes from. Maybe he thinks I will dump him if I lose weight. I really wish I knew. My ex husband used to tell me I could lose weight when I would say I was going to try to diet. He thought the negativity would make me lose the weight even faster. That just made me feel bad and just made me want to eat even more. Heck I even went as far as eating crackers and cup 'o soup and drinking only water to lose weight. I lost 15 lbs in probably 1 1/2 weeks. That wasn't healthy. I stopped and just didn't bother with the weight. I think hearing that my mother was trying to lose weight and something in me said dang I can't let my mom be skinnier then me. So here I am trying to lose the weight. I have a goal of 135 but I don't really know what I look like that small. I might like what I look like at 140. Heck.. I'm just going with my small goals and hopefully before I know it I'll be where I want to be. |
You know, I thought I would need to be 135-140 to feel like I made progress. I am about 5'5 and about 190 and I am in a size 12-14...depending on the store. I tell you, I feel wonderful. If i never lose another pound, I would be happy. I know it is hard to not have the support at home. Trust me, I have just recently found it when he realized I was totally serious and that I actually did go to the gym every day. I do this for me. I support me and now I have the ladies here for some moral support--and so do you. If you ever need to vent or chat, PM me. I check back here often. Normally, whenever the urge to rifle thru that bad of the kids Halloweeen candy!!
Connie |
I don't think I rate my progress on having to be 135. I just know that if I hit 199, I'll know that I made it. I am just taking it a day at a time. I might get to 150 and think hey, you look good. Anything that comes off after this will just be an added benefit. My biggest goal is to just be healthier.
One of the reasons I am doing mini goals is because I am not sure how I'll look at 135. I found somewhere it said my ideal weight would be 130. Hmm.. would be nice, but not sure if that would be feasible for me. I think a big marker for me will be when I am able to go and buy new pants. I love the thought of getting smaller jeans. It just amazes me though of how different everybody's body types are. I see women of my weight wearing smaller jeans then me. I guess it just has to do where we carry it. Gosh.. I would love to be a 12/14. Just to go into a store and buy off of any rack that I want. I hate shopping now. I hate the styles and nothing ever looks or fits good to me. I will definitely have to PM you when I am needing to vent. :lol: |
Shopping off the rack in regular stores was my main goal. Now I find I just have no idea what looks good. My mind hasn't caught up with my body yet. I still have jeans anxiety and I still think I look fat in those pants from time to time. I am not sure I will ever fully "recover" from fat girl syndrome. I have the same trouble when men pay attention to me. It makes me feel totally uncomfortable and I've been wondering if that is the reason I kept the weight on for so long.
Connie |
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