Hello,
I have beeen lurking on this board for about two weeks, and I have finally decided what the heck, the worse thing that could happen would be that you make a few new friends. So, here it goes. I am a 29 years young, and I have been married for almost 13 years. Yup, got married at 17! I love my husband dearly, but sometimes I would love to trade him in on a new model !! I have always had a problem with my weight pretty much my whole life, but I hit rock bottom when I lost my mother and brother. I had pretty much given up, and food was the root of my all evils. I maxed out at 402 lbs! I realized then that my mother would have been so heartbroken seeing her little girl do this to herself, and the last thing that I ever wanted to do would be to break my mothers heart. Everything in my life had changed in that one moment. I realized that no matter how dreadful my life seemed, that I was worth more than what I was allowing myself to have. The best advice my mother had ever given me was, " No matter how bad your day or your life is right now, just keep smiling because someone elses is worse, and your smile could change their life! " I now live by that advice. I now weigh 240 lbs. I made a huge lifestyle change. I still eat junk on occasions, but I have one serving not three or four, and I count each calorie that goes into my mouth. I would rather count calories than count how many pounds I have went up. I also workout everyday. Even when I do not feel like I still squeeze in atleast 30 minutes of cardio.
I am just so frusturated when it comes down to this last 60 pounds. It seems like it is never gonna happen. I have pretty much lost the weight with only the support of a couple of angels I call my mom and my brother. My husband is great, but to be honest he would rather have me bigger. So, I guess you can see I need a little encouragement from someone who knows what it is like to struggle.
Thank You,
Debbie
We don't need nights out with the boys or girls to fulfill us. We fulfill each other. That is not to say we don't have outside friends, but that we enjoy each other very much. You are lucky to have a spouse who will support you. So many of them don't especially if you were not 400 lbs when you married. I weighed 185 when I married and am at 325 right now having been as high as 410. Though I am 51 and obese, my husband still thinks I am vibrant and sexy and I think so too! If I can say one thing to women over and over it is, love yourself fat and you can love yourself thin. Fat women are beautiful too and should see themselves that way. No one has the right to judge you as you shouldn't judge others! Be happy with who you are and the changes you make for the good will be oh so much more satisfying! Again, congrats on the loss and good luck to you!!!!!! 