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Hi all! :carrot: I found this site while googling questions about weight and I found it to be interesting. I discovered last week that my boyfriend now weighs less than me, and I was appalled! How could that be? I found a thread discussing that issue, and apparently I am not the only one. I run on the treadmill twice a week, and my boyfriend until last month was completely sedentary. Just a month or so of walking on the treadmill at a slower pace than myself, and he is shedding pounds left and right, while still eating cookies whenever he feels like it. How infuriating!

Background about myself. I feel like a skinny woman in a large body. I still feel like I am young and thin like I used to be. I can remember looking down at my flat stomach, and thinking that it was my favorite part of my body. Now when I look down, I think, yuck. How did this happen? I used to not have to worry about my weight, it just stayed within an acceptable range. But now I am considered obese, X-Large, and I have to think about every little detail in order not to gain more weight. Each year after Christmas I become my heaviest, but also each year, that number is climbing up. I can't keep on letting that happen or I will really let things get out of control. I work out regularly, but clearly not often enough, and not with the right combination of diet.

I remember that my real weight issues started back in college. The typical freshman 15 due to being in charge of my own meals, and having access to too much alcohol all of the time. Ever since, I have struggled with managing my own diet. I love chocolate, sweets, carbs, all of the worst things. And alcohol is too engrained in to my every day life also. The calories consumed are too much. I am currently working on increasing the days I work out, adding some variety there, and managing my sweet tooth and alcohol consumption. I have lost 8 pounds since the beginning of the year, so there is some progress, but I am still heavier than my heaviest weight of 2016, so I am feeling dismayed. I feel like my body is healthy, and the doctor's confirm that I am, but my weight is the one thing I cannot get a handle on.

I don't know if I have just given in to it, or what the problem is. I long to be skinny again, and I feel like I am the only one of my friends that struggles with this. My old high school friends who I still keep up with are still thin, so what is the deal? Well, that is a start. I look forward to sharing my journey with you all. Thank you,

Thank you! Glad to be here.

Welcome!

I'm with you, honey! I have gained over 40 lbs during grad school, mostly due to junk food and alcohol. College was great for my mind, but bad for my body. And all of my friends from high school are still as thin and pretty as ever even though many have 3 or 4 kids. I have none and I feel like a fat little sausage. They drive me crazy, lol. Don't get discouraged.

also, Congratulations on losing 8 lbs! Don't minimize that accomplishment, that's amazing! Keep it up, gorgeous! You're doing great!

Thank you EagleRiverDee!

MISSxCINA- I'm glad you get where I am coming from! I don't have any children either but I would like to and I'm thinking, gosh, I don't want to end up even that much larger after children. So time to wrangle things in. It feels like one step forward, and two steps back. But I managed to get in 4 workouts this week so far, when I usually only get around to 2, so I am happy about that. And thank you for acknowledging my weight loss so far! I went back up a few pounds within a day somehow, I don't quite understand how things fluctuate so much, but it's all a part of the process I suppose.

Welcome! I know the feeling...7 years ago I was 115 lbs. 5 years ago I was 125 and that was "fat", then 3 years ago I was 140 and that was the new fat, and it got even worse =_=

I am comforted that I am not the only one that the progressive weight gain has affected. I start to think, well geez, I know I was uncomfortable with my body back then, and what must I have weighed? But it seems to all be relevant to the people around also, comparatively. Friends/family. I know a lot of it for me was going from an active, but low paying service job as a waitress, and walking miles across a college campus to now sitting down at a desk and table for 8-9 hours a day, plus the couch later at night. It was a lot easier when life required me to be more active. I am somewhat envious of people whose jobs still have them walking around more. It is tough to break a sedentary lifestyle up when it is a part of your job. It takes real effort to go to the gym and break the cycle. My mom onc told me that it becomes like pulling the weight of a car uphill. It gets harder and harder the older you get. That analogy scares me. I'm like no I'm not old yet! I can't let that car pull me down the hill! I must prevail.

And could someone help me and tell me how to get one of those cool ticker things at the bottom of my posts? I see that some people have them from this site, and others from a different site. How do I get one?

Originally Posted by OnceThin10:
And could someone help me and tell me how to get one of those cool ticker things at the bottom of my posts? I see that some people have them from this site, and others from a different site. How do I get one?

You have to be a member for 20 days AND have 20 posts before the ticker option becomes available to you. Info here.