I don't want to be ashame of myself anymore
 

Hi everyone :) I've been reading 3fc forum for so long but never really have courage to post anything but 3fc motivate me everyday. I am 23 year old and I weighed 213 lbs on 23/10/11. I've always been fat/chubby/overweight most of my life but man.. never over 200 lbs+. 4 - 5 years ago I managed to go down to 125 but when I reached my goal, I started eating whatever I want and however I want it and shortly after I regained all the weights back. I've been on diet so many times but everytime I fell off from wagon. I come from traditional asian family where people believe pretty girls = skinny and small. All my life, my parents been forcing me to lose weight and they openly called me fat and all sort of jokes about me being fat in front of guests and others. I feel ashamed and ugly. So I would promise myself that I will lose weight for " my parents". So that they can be proud of me. They think I was fat even when I weighed 150 lbs.Then I moved away for college and everytime before I go home for semester break I would stressed out about my weight and what my parents gonna say. Then I started asking myself " Why can't they love me for who I am?". Then I weighed myself for the first time after months and man I weighed over 200 lbs. This time that I want to lose weight for myself and I do want it really bad.

Currently, I am doing calorie counting and I do not have sweet tooth so I dont really have to worry about icecream, chocolates or all sweet stuff. I don't eat pizza, pastas and breads as well so my only main concern is rice ( I am asain who has to have rice every single day :P). So I replaced white rice with gaba rice and I am doing Turbo jam 20 mins workout 5 times per week and lost 10 lbs so far.I hope I can stick to my weight loss plan this time with others 3fc members. :)

Elrenne, Welcome and good luck ! I understand about being over 200 pounds, I swore I would never let myself get over 200 pounds but I did. After many diets of losing and regaining I started counting calories and it worked for me. I am glad you want to do this for yourself and you can do it. It sounds like you have a good plan. Do not give up. I am sorry your family has said those things about your weight , they probably didn't know how much that hurt you. They will be so proud of you when you are successful but , as you have have already said, do it for yourself.

Sounds like you have made the right decision to do this for yourself as it should be. You can't lose the weight for other people, this about yourself and how much better you will feel. I am sure your parents are still proud of you even though you are over weight but saying the things they said in their minds were probably a way to get you to lose weight instead of hurting you. I was almost at 400lbs when I decided I had to do this for me. I am over 100lbs lighter now and its a great feeling. Stick to your program, it will work for you and you will be very happy with yourself. YOU are what matters :)

i joind this form just the otherday and every one is really nice :) and way to go losing that 10 pounds i figgure if you lose 10 pounds a moth for a whole year you'll lose 120 pounds so keep up the great work:)

Thank you so much for encouragement and kind words bargoo and wuv2loved. Congrats to your weight loss. You guys are real inspiration and amazing. I am staying strong and sticking with the plan. I know it's only a matter time.

fadeingangel :) thanks for the comment and welcome to 3fc! I am hoping to lose 10 lbs every month and it will take around 6 - 7 months to achieve my goal. Let's support each other and try to achieve our goals together :)

I look up to you! You are doing this for yourself and havae made serious improvements. Wow, I'm a student and I've gained 40 lbs. You have inspired me to fix my problems for me. Stay strong. You got this!

Thank you for your kind words chocoluv :) Classes can be stressful sometimes and we turned to food for comfort. Hope you are doing well with your journey as well. I am sure we can do this :)

hey gal!!! jst wanna say u can do it!!!! i m 4m a traditional asian family too n i knw exactly watcha feeling...=(...i jst joined 3fc yesterday cz i wanna loose 70lbs...m 190lbs rt nw...y dnt v b weight loss buddies???i m planning to lose 10lbs or more in a month??? so wt say u upto it??? =) n btw m really happy abt your decision 2 do this 4 urself!!!! way 2 go gal!!!! best of luck!!! =)

Hey there. I totally understand. I come from a West Indian family which follows much of the East Indian traditions and my family's the same way. Heck my grandmother and aunts and cousins are like that too, my nickname is FATS in the family. Like you I have been on diets my entire life, heck my mother put me on diets since I was 8years old! But I have to tell you, as hard as it is, IGNORE them! They simply are not aware of how hurtful their comments really are. And this time you need to do it for you, not for anyone else! You can do this, day by day, bit by bit it will come off, and then learn how to properly maintain. But in your mind keep telling yourself you are doing this for YOUR LIFE, YOUR HEALTH, and all for YOU! Welcome and good luck! Glad you joined us :) :cp:

Im sorry to hear that your family has been so hard on you, as much as it hurts sometimes you just have to ignore what people say and do whats best for you. at the time it may have been eating, now its time to lose... and it sounds like your doing a great job so far.... I myself have been at my heaviest 240ish right now i am 220... i still have about another 110 to go.... my brother was also very mean to me growing up calling me a cow and fatso and my little sister would too when she got mad at me... truth is i used it... i used their comments to motivate myself to lose and i did i got down to 175... now that im starting over after a thyroid condition and having a baby ... its those comments that drive me in my mind really... they drive me to lose it so i never have to hear them again. :) Good luck to you sweetie :)