I am nothing amazing. Just a 40 something woman, married, a mother of 4 children, two grown, two still at home, now a grandmother. I have worked hard my entire life, as so many do, to support a large family. Work, and kids, and home, and husband, not to mention the animals, and others.

Weight gain came with each child, but never really left. Before I knew it, I was just simply fat. It hasn't been until recently that I really even realized I was fat. I got use to living a life for others and got, sadly, use to living with my husband as roommates, best friends really, but not much more than that. If I every asked as we were leaving for this event or that, do I look ok... I always got a yes, fine, but I wish you would lose weight.

Sadly, you get use to it. I have always been the good friend, the loyal wife, the attentive mother, the hard worker, the foundation of the home, but not the decorations that make it beautiful. That job is left for everyonebutme.

I want something more. I want to find the way back to me. I am tired of telling myself that this is just the way it is. I want more. This is my attempt to reach out and find a way to get healthy, happier, and living - if even just a little, for me.

respectfully,
Everyonebutme!

It's hard living as a wife sometimes. Women have second shifts. Work, then come home to work some more. Clean, food on table, kids in bed. Some men are wonderful as husbands and help a great deal, a lot of others don't... women often don't even think about them because they have to think about everyone else.
It's sad, but it's time to think about you. pick up a class you want to do maybe. Find something that's just yours... even if the class is yoga or sewing. Just find a place that is just yours. This way, you can find you if in this place you can only focus on you. No, "I have to feed the kids" no "I need groceries." None of that. Just focus on things you want when you do a class, or a walk, or a day at a spa. Make it a weekly thing.

Maybe you find yourself in the gym, maybe in a spanish class, maybe teaching cooking, maybe the library. I think it's important everyone have something that is just theirs and not the people they live with shared. Girls night or girls night in might even be a good thing.

Loosing weight should be for you too. Start with walks, watching your nutrition, making a support group, and go from there.

Good Luck!

Welcome and good luck !

Welcome to 3FC =)

We're all here aiming to get a little healthier and lose some weight. We each have a lot of support and advice to give. And we all want each and every person to succeed.

Look around. You aren't alone here. Post wherever you're comfortable!

Best of wishes!

Thanks everyone for your wonderful words and support. Last night I forced myself to go out with some of my sisters and their friends for a ladies night out. Thought I headed home early, I am glad I made a little time for me. It is going to take a lot of practice learning how to worry about me.

Thanks again for your support!