Well now...

  • I wrote about three pages and by the time I was finished, I had been logged off and lost everything I wrote. Not cool!

    Long story short, I used to be in shape, had my first child, went back to being in shape, had my second child, marriage started failing, started gaining weight, marriage failed, hit bottom and had to start over again.

    Lost 56 pounds since November of 2009 and put my life back together.

    Thought I was ready for the dating world again, joined an online dating website and thought this guy was the bees knees. Told me how beautiful I was (he only lived a few minutes away from me!) and was excited for us to go on our first date. The week preceding the date we had been emailing back and forth on a very regular daily basis. We had a great coffee date (lasted for hours until the store closed!) and laughed and talked about life, I was really excited about it and he seemed to be as well. His body language and the content of our conversations led me to believe that he was as into me then as he was during our online conversations!

    I emailed him upon arriving home to let him know I had arrived and told him I had a great time. I never heard from him again. I of course, blame the fact that I am fat.

    If anything, it taught me that a) I am not ready to date yet and b) That I am still not happy with where I am physically, and that while progress is good, success in this area of my life would be even better.

    There's still a long road ahead of me, but after googling "rejected for being fat" I found 3FC. Fate? Perhaps. But I would like to see where the road leads me.

    Maybe it will lead me to a world where the size of ones jeans does not matter as much as the size of their heart.
  • If he didn't call again because of your size then he is a really shallow person and you deserve better.
  • Bargoo, I totally agree! For now, it is the bruised ego talking! Who knows, it could have been any number of things!

    It was just an eye opener for me. If I was happy with my body, it wouldn't have even been a consideration!
  • Hi and welcome to 3FC.

    Good luck with your goals.

    Hugs
    Michelle
  • FTF,

    I had the same kind of experience a while back and Yes it does suck!..Especially the not knowing WHY but believing it's the fat! Maybe he got hit by a plane, train or automobile! What ever the reason just know at least in your mind....later in your heart...that it really isn't about you! I'm sure your a great catch and when the times right....you'll have to beat um' off with a stick!! take care and thanks for your post. Nana
  • on your 56 Lbs loss!! Keep it up and Good luck with your continue efforts!!