New Guy - with wrong name
 

I meant to register myself as BigBob, not BibBob!!! :o

Oh well. I guess bibs are a good way to keep the food off my shirt. I actually have a problem with that! I'm laughing and that's a good thing, because I was and probably still am pretty depressed.

See, I am at my all time high weight. I cannot believe I let this happen. I lost some 66 pounds in the last year and a half, and I have gained back over 75. I am currently over 350 pounds (6'2") and experiencing all kinds of obesity related physical issues. It has become a nightmare for me. My back was too tight to get out of bed and fix my kid breakfast this morning. I just felt awful, but I was in that much pain. I have struggled being over weight since I was a kid. At times in my life I have been very fit, very very fit for a few years. But most of it has been a struggle. I am really really really sick of it.

I have probably studied diet and weight loss more than anything else in my life and I still can't seem to get it right. I am here for support and hoping I can be a support to others. For me this public posting is my moment of clarity. Maybe the 12 stepper have this right. I cannot do it alone. I am such a loner though, and a serial do it yourselfer. I hate diet programs, I hate pills, I hate spending money on something that should cost less -- less food, ya know. I'm just rambling now. I'll be around.

So. Hi. I'm BibBob, I guess. :^:

Hi bibbob! I was actually thinking that your subconscious may have forced your fingers there because when you're down to where you want to be, "BigBob" wouldn't be very appropriate! ;)

All I can say is that there's lots of info and advice here, and it's a great place to get (and give) support! I wish you the best and that you have all the success in the world. Positivity is key! :D

Bob,

Hi from one of the few resident guys around here. Always glad to see another. I think it's pretty natural for us guys more so than the ladies to desire to do it on our own, it's a bit of a pride thing. Plus makes it easier to avoid past failures;)

I was in similar shoes at the beginning of December, and I can't even begin to describe how I've been able to wipe out years of stupidity with 4 months of thought and discipline. Completely changed my life and my ability interact with my family. So you can do it!

I'm with you on the no formal plans/diets/pills, etc. But I am a huge advocate of planning in general. I just built one for myself. I knew what I was great at and what I was terrible at and built my behaviors to maximize the pros and minimize the cons.

Probably the single biggest thing for me was careful calorie counting, especially in the first 3 months. I didn't really care about hitting exact numbers, but it was soo educational for me to see where I was wasting calories, how much more "bang for the buck" I got out of certain foods. How some slight changes could make big differences etc. Really opened my eyes, and made it harder to ingore binges.

Anyway keep posting, come say hi sometime...

Hey Bob!

I am new here too! This is my second day, we can get a feel for the place together. :)

I like BibBob.... because like Preppingbride said, it wont be appropriate later one and well.. Who doesn't want a good BIB when they are suckin' back all that HEALTH food??

I am not a big 'pill popper" either, I am even on the fence about those protien powders and stuff you should put into your drinks, or so I am told over and over again. The only thing I like to spend my "weight loss' money on is a new outfit & shoes! Yuppers, with every diet comes a new outfit...that i usually outgrow in a few months, because oreos are cheaper than carrots... Hopefully this time, because of 3fc, I can break that cycle!

AND SO CAN YOU!

See you around "Bibby!"

might i reccommend fitday? I use that to track my calories and even my nutrition. Here I've been not getting enough potassium and I can fix that now. best of all it's FREEEEEEEEEEE. I use it to track my weight and based on my info it tells me how many calories I need per day.

Good Luck!

Howdy Bob. I think your typo was a Freudian slip designed to make you chuckle. Welcome to the fat chicks. Lots of friendly folk with help and support here.
You can do it. I've noticed that each pound or two makes a difference in being able to move around and I am now doing things I haven't been able to do for a while...even though I've only ;opst 25 pounds so far...ONLY...you know what I mean, though. Little changes can make a big difference and you took the first step by coming here.

Barb

Thanks everyone. I feel welcome. I will check that out Guttergirl. In addition to not being able to get out of bed and fix breakfast for my kid, I also sat in a dining room chair this weekend... a chair I have sat in a thousand times... but suddenly my butt was a little too wide for the arm rests... and... well... with a little forced wedging from above I widened the distance between those armrests, which did something bad to the chair's structural integrity, which led to both of us collapsing to the floor! This was with guests over for a Sunday bbq... which made me sort of embarrassed to eat much... until doing so with a vengeance after they left! Argh.

Hi Bob - welcome to 3FC from another male around here. Yep, there's a bunch of us spread around. Do you have an eating plan and an exercise plan already picked out?

By the by, if you want your name changed, you can just ask (here in this thread is good enough), and if BigBob is available, they're pretty amenable to fixing things like that.

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Thanks Bill. I think I'll stick with Bib because it still gives me a chuckle.

NO plan yet. I am in the formative stages of what I want to try. I mentioned in another thread that the Warrior Diet appeals to me because I do seem to function fine on that eating schedule (one meal a day and at night nonetheless). I've thought about this for a year.

I'm giving plenty of consideration to ideas, and I'm so disappointed in myself I suspect I am going to go for some radical 'beginning' losses like you might see on the biggest loser. I think taking the step to join a public forum was smart and now I'm probably going to take the dreaded 'before' pictures as a source of motivation.

Is there a thread around here that explains all the abbreviations and acronyms. I keep finding myself not knowing what I am reading. It's a little frustrating.

Bob - You can start here
3FC Announcements Acronyms

There are other "sticky" threads near that one that you might find useful to break through that feeling - that I certainly had - that every body else here knows the secret handshake.

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Originally Posted by BibBob:
Is there a thread around here that explains all the abbreviations and acronyms. I keep finding myself not knowing what I am reading. It's a little frustrating.

I've had to google a few in my time in general. Or ask my sister (who is 21, so more in the know lol). The last one I had to look up was NSV (Non Scale Victory)

Thanks. NSV had me frustrated yesterday. This morning the list is getting really long though. I am too often ignorant of what I read, which makes this place a waste of my time. I did site search for acronyms and this thread popped up! lol

Oh btw Bill -- awsome work in your threads. I'm at info overload so I forget what exactly they were... lol, but do remember your group on some diet was really doing great things and it sounds like the kind of thing I believe. Psychology before physiology -- something like that.

Hns?

Just one question from me...Am I understanding you correctly that what is appealing to you is the one meal a day at night?

Hi BibBob.

I am Deb and I am also pretty new here as well. I was looking for websites/forums that focus on people who are overweight and looking for help/support from others going through the same things when I found this site.

Anyway, welcome to the site and I wish you all the best that life has to offer.

Deb:carrot: (I love this little carrot guy! LOL!)

Originally Posted by BibBob:
Hns?

I had to google it several times and reword it but I fianally came up with:
health & nutrition systems. I believe it's a carb cutter.

thanks again, GG.

Hey Deb. Thanks for the thoughts and that's a terrific carrot.

jigglefree-- Yes. No breakfast or lunch (light snacking if needed), and eat what you want at night within an agreed upon menu of foods. It's called the Warrior Diet. It attacks the metabolism myth of eating several times a day. Go to bodybuilder forums and you'll find the "increasers" trying to get big have great results with multiple meals. It's so obvious it makes me laugh. But you will also find the "decreasers" do not have much luck with multiple meals. Metabolism isn't really cranked up by eating all day, certainly not to any degree that is going to help with major weight loss. You just eat more. I may cause some debate with this and I will find the research if necessary, but losing weight by eating many meals a day seems like a great way to sell a ton of supplements to me because instead of cooking six meals people on those plans make shakes in lieu of meals -- not a very good way to lose weight FOR ME.

I bumped the Warrior Diet thread around here somewhere yesterday. I think it was in the LAWS forum, another acronym mystery

Anyway, I have agreed to try a simple calorie counter to get started -- starting tomorrow.

Hns? That's a new one to me. Here's one for your collection. HTH - hope this helps.

:welcome3: Bob. Stick around and join in wherever you like.

Originally Posted by BibBob:
I may cause some debate with this and I will find the research if necessary, but losing weight by eating many meals a day seems like a great way to sell a ton of supplements to me because instead of cooking six meals people on those plans make shakes in lieu of meals -- not a very good way to lose weight FOR ME.

I eat 6 to 8 times a day, with nary a shake nor a supplement in sight. I think people often go to packaged foods when they are eating frequently, or even when they are not, because packaged foods are easy and save time and mental energy. Although I spend very little mental energy on my food, because I eat the same stuff a lot, and have been doing so for 2 years. I also don't spend a lot of time on my food, because a lot of it is just raw stuff--citrus fruits, apples, almonds, spinach, carrots, and grape tomatoes take no prep time at all.

Personally, I would not be able to eat just once or twice per day, because I have significant issues with blood sugar control. It's just not a tenable lifestyle for me. For other people, a Warrior-type or IF schedule works well, however.

My point is--it's entirely possible to lose weight eating frequently, or gain weight eating frequently...or to lose weight eating infrequently, or to gain weight eating infrequently. The key is to figure out what works best for you and will best help you stay in a calorie range that leads to weight loss. The theories are all well and good, but if a philosophy of eating doesn't physically work for the individual, then sticking to the philosophy is folly.

Edited to add: Also, welcome :) And you might be interested in our 100-Pound Club subforum, where many of us who have / did have 100+ pounds to lose hang out: http://www.3fatchicks.com/forum/100-lb-club-55/

Hey Sara, thank you and no arguments for me. Whatever works. Diabetes is strong in my family and there's no way everyone can go without food the way that diet I like suggests. I wish I could eat like you, but it hasn't worked for me in the past. I'll come check out that 100 pound forum soon. Even that 300 pounder I saw. I qualify for all of 'em baby!

Seriously. This site is already helping me. Pretty awesome. It's a shame I didn't seek a little 'intelligent' conversation and 'understanding' support a couple years ago when I tried hard and failed.

That's a sweet ticker you have there. Great job.

Originally Posted by BibBob:
That's a sweet ticker you have there. Great job.

Why thank you, sir. I'm proud of what I've accomplished so far, and also what my husband has accomplished with my gentle (mostly ;) ) encouragement--he too has lost about 80 pounds and experienced a whole bunch of health and life improvements.

If I could give you only one suggestion, as a person with a family history of diabetes and so on--it would be to cut out white / refined stuff. Sugar, flour, rice, potatoes, corn, all that. It would not surprise me if just by making that one change you could lose 20 or more pounds in the first month, and be well on your way to feeling massively better and fixing your mobility issues. (Your hunger and cravings would be gone as well.)

Cutting out white / refined stuff (largely in the form of Coke) was the first thing I asked my husband to do, and the changes for him were huge.

It sounds really impossible to do at first, however, as I suggested to him--what about trying it for just 30 days? Then if you don't like it and want to go back to consuming white / refined stuff, there's no harm done, and you'll have at least learned something.

How appropriate Bob... Think about it... When you DO lose the weight, you will no longer be "big" Bob so that name wouldn't fit, anyway. However, BIBBOB will always be funny and meaningful!!! :o)

I am new to this site, as well. I hope that we can all provide support for each other!

Best of Luck!

Welcome (Bib)Bob!

This is a great place to hang with like minded folks. I've found it helps so much! I post every day and many times come here and say hello instead of eating bad stuff.

Best Wishes!

Hi and welcome to 3FC :) Did you find out that LAWL is L.A. Weight Loss? and you will probably run into "kwim" - Know What I Mean? and "fwiw" - For What It's Worth and "ymmv" - Your Mileage May Vary :D

Hello Bob I completely understand your frustrations in the first post in more ways than one. Welcome to 3fatchicks