A New Start to a New Me
 

I was a WW life timer for quite a few years and then life started throwing me too many curve balls! I'm just over 50 and my hubby passed away suddenly at 49. I sold my house, quit my job and moved to a new city, don't have a new job as yet and it's tough to make new friends. My 2 boys are a distance from me. On a good note I bought myself a 106 year old Victorian House that I'm restoring. But all these hours working on my new home, adjusting to being home and having a 'new life' sent my eating habits into a nasty spiral, gained back all the weight. I'm upbeat and really want to get my diet back under control, looking for friends and support!

Hi Hannah!
I do understand your position and I think its not easy to be on your own in a strange city after so many years. I am so sorry for your loss and I do understand how you feel. I think maybe is the grief what is bothering you and not the all new things around you. Please, give yourself time to grief. I think 2-3 years are realistic time to heal, not less and I have talked to other people who did lost someone and they all agree. But, you will see it for yourself. When I am sad I eat. So that is the reason why I am telling you about the grief, maybe you should confront that feeling first.

You bought a nice house! I am sure there is lots of to do around it so keep on and don’t stop! Its normal that your kids have their life and that you will have to build yours again. Try to ask around to see is there any local activity you could join? Bridge club or something? I am sure you don’t like bridge but that does not matter :-)))

And for the diet and food control you are on the right place I think! I would like to do the same, I will give you the long info, trust me! :-)

have picked your topic because I am also starting new! I would like to do so! I think my life did go wrong at one point and now I would like to go back on the right track. Let me give you the info – last night I have looked at internet chat room for 1,5 hour just hiding and reading what the man that I have used to shortly date was writing to the women in the room. After that I asked myself am I stupid or what?  He was like a rooster in the room full of chickens and all of them gazed at him and adored him. I saw that before and it was nothing new to me but I was asking myself what is my problem, why I am staring at the PC for 1,5 hour like an idiot.

This morning I did the same thing, went on-line to that chat room. All „girls“were there waiting for him to come. And than at one moment I have logged off. And I DONT WHANT TO GO BACK. I feel like an addict not knowing why is he taking drugs but doing it anyway! So I logged on here and I hope I will stay here, so please help me to start my new life because I was with that guy 2 years ago and its time to go further!

p.s.
He tells other women my lines and lyrics and one of his that I have heard so many times, nothing new. He is pathetic. But I am even more If I stare for 1,5 hour in chat room just because of him.

COUNTING: 1rst day without staring
1rst day without overeating because of it

p.s.2
I feel better now

Hanna, how mouch wight do you have?

Hello, Hannah, and welcome. You came to the right place for support.

I wish you all the best on your weight loss journey!

Cheers,

J

Hello Hannah! Welcome to 3FC! I know you will find lots of support here. :hug: You can do this! :carrot: We are all here for you.

Did I do anything wrong??!

Hannah, welcome and good luck. I have just recently. within the last week. experienced a similar loss. I just want to eat anything that doesn't move. I will get over that , though. I envy you your new house. A lot of work , but so worth it . I am sure you can meet your goals. It sounds like you are a strong, determined lady.

Thanks for the support and kind words
 

Thanks for being so welcoming! It feels great to have the support. I have about 40 pounds to lose and I'm determined not to put any more on over the holidays! My husband passed away almost 3 years ago and I joined a grief support system right away. He didn't smoke, drink, wasn't over weight...just really bad genes. I knew I had to get myself mentally in line to support my 2 sons and I'm really quite OK. I gave myself 2 years in the old home and woke up one morning ready to start my new life, gave it lots of thought and time, and I was simply ready. No regrets! Nothing I can do about the horrid economy and trying to find a good job that suits. I miss the routine, the having friends to chat to and support. Joining a group is a great idea and I'll make that a priority on my New Year's list, thanks for the push! It can be tough sorting out 'a new life' in the mid-fifties but I'm determined to do just that!

Hi Hannah and welcome to 3FC. I too have lost my husband so I can relate (he was only 28 when he passed away).

Good luck with your goals.

Hugs
Michelle

Hana, I am so glad that you did that period well. Good. Its time to go further than!

Well, tonight I took my walkman and went out for 25 minutes walk. It was windy and freezing and I feel like I did I dont know what miricle! I usally spend evenings chating on-line and I am so proud of myself not doing that tonight. Now, I will tide up my flet and go to sleep. I feel proud of myself. Small step but it works. Find one for yourself like that and you will feel better already :-)

You've inspired me Nomena, tomorrow I'm bundling up and heading out into the cold for a walk. Well done on taking an evening away from the chat lines!

:wel3fc: Hi Hannah!
Hoe wonderful that you have embraced your new life with determination and optimism - a good lesson for us all to learn - I'm confident you will be successful in your desire to be healthier and happier - the support you need is here - we'll all be here to cheer you on!

Glad to have you join us! There are lots & lots of different groups and forums - I'm sure you'll find some that will keep you motivated, inspired and entertained! There's also info and first hand advice on different eating plans and exercise to help choose the right ones for you and get through the ups and downs.

There are bunches of people here with more to lose and some with less - the bottom line is that we all have to do it a day at a time. The good thing is that we'll have lots of company along the way.

I've only been here a few months myself, having NEVER been part of an online forum. What has been so eye-opening is how much it has helped me. Whenever I feel overwhelmed or defeated, I just log on and read some of the success stories, complete with their before & after photos - or read about others still dealing day to day with their challenges - and before I know it, the time has flown by and so have all the thoughts of cheating or giving up.

So welcome - you 've found the right place - join in by inspiring us and being inspired! :df:

All the best - good luck with your goals,
Lee

Hana, I am glad I did! Are you going for a walk tonight?

Hi Nomena! Thanks so much for the nudges...I went for 2 walks, one this afternoon and then again tonight. Slipped on the ice twice and talked to a couple of nice air cadets who wanted to buy my wooly scarf. Had to run some errands this afternoon so I left the car at home and walked, a good hour's worth of walking. Tonight I spent half an hour, it was FREEZING...it's a wonderland with all the snow and Christmas lights. No hot cocoa for me tonight! Thanks again for the inspiration!