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  • Hi!

    I'm 38 years old and have been married for 10 years. I've tried various diet plans and watched my weight steadily creep up over the years. I was 190 in 1990, 250 in 1999, and 308 now. Right now I am insulin resistant and have Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome. I have to do sometimes before I become diabetic.

    I have tried numerous diets (some good some bad) and always fail in the same way. I do perfect for a while, "fail" in some way, then immediately after the failure give up entirely and don't try again for years.

    I have more support now than I've had in the past since my husband is doing Weight Watchers with me, though he only needs to lose 30-40 lbs. We cook most of our meals from recipes. He helps to prepare meals. I would consume almost no animal products if he didn't need to eat too. As it is, we have a couple of meals with meat a week, light on dairy and eggs, and lots of veggies and whole grains.

    I chose Weight Watchers because it lets me eat what I want. I like eating healthy for the most part, but sometimes I want a candy bar or some tacos from Jack in the Box. If I am on a diet that won't let me have these things, and I eat them and "fail" then I will stop the diet. It is eating too much that have the most problems with. I know that I should eat when I'm hungry and stop when I'm full. But unfortunately knowing this and doing it are two different things. So the points values give me structure.

    I'd be glad to hear any advice that would help me not to quit once I "fail." Since I know I can't be perfect my entire life, and usually quit diets within a few months.

    Thanks for reading this!
  • Welcome!
    Welcome Qualera,

    I am new here too and just trying to take it one day at a time. Each pound that the scale moves is motivation to keep at it.

    I used to smoke and when I quit (12 years ago) I found that congratulating myself eachtime I made a good choice was helpful. Each time I went to the store and DIDN'T buy a package of cigarettes was a victory, each time I thought about asking my husband for one of his and didn't was a victory...

    Now, I am trying to do the same thing with my weight loss journey. Each time I don't buy that chocolate bar at the store is a victory! Each time I chose an apple instead of a cookie is a victory! Taking small steps makes it seem that much more manageable to me.

    Be kind to yourself and celebrate each of your many small victories..rather than dwell on the occasional slip up. We are human and all make mistakes sometimes!
  • Welcome to the community!
  • Welcome! I am new around these parts too. I am in the same health situation as you except that I progressed to having diabetes before I knew I had something wrong. My diabetes diagnosis moved me to get things right in my life.
    My best advice is to keep a journal. I write all kinds of things in mine from what I eat everyday, my weigh in's, how I am feeling and and victories for the day. One mistake does not a disaster make if you pick yourself up and get back on track. Having a journal helps me see my own progress cause the mirror lies to me! :-)

    So jump in and get ready to make healthy choices for yourself!!
  • Hi!!!
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