new and at a complete loss
 

Hello
I just joined so thought I would introduce myself, My name is LJ and I am 26, i live in Bristol with my fiance James and our lovely cat Comet. We are getting married in December and I can't wait.

A brief background on me is, i used to be a dancer, up until the age of 19 when i injured my back, since then I went back in to Education and re trained and I am now a therapy radiographer. However since finishing dancing my weight has yo yoed continuously. I now have reached the most I have ever weighed and have a BMI of 30.08 :(.

I have lost all my self confidence and none of my clothes fit me, I used to be very confident with my partner but now i hate the thought of him seeing me cos i am so disgusting, so I've kinda started pushing him away and it makes me so sad. I wear this big baggy zip up top to hide my rolls of fat.

I dont eat that much and try my best to be sensible i know sometimes i shouldnt have the bag of crisps or the bar of chocolate but when i get down i go straight for the cupboard :( I got Wii fit for christmas and try and do it every evening after work, i also belong to the gym at work, and go 2x a week spending about an hour each time. Despite these efforts I can;t shift the weight and have actually put some on. I am going on holiday next week but am totally freaked out about getting my swimmers out or wearing anything reavling cos i dont want James to be revolted.

I am aat such a loss and don't know what to do anymore....
sorry to moan but i had to let it out somewhere!

LJ xxx:(

Hello :) I'm new too though have already lost a load of weight (though don't look that much better yet).

I have some of the same issues as you - think I look disgusting (strangely my husband doesn't think that), eat sensibly but sometimes binge on crisps/chocolate especially if I'm feeling down (and especially if I'm feeling down about my weight). Try and except you're not disgusting (I'm working on that) - you've just put on some weight and you're working hard to sort that out. Also think about why are you eating the crisps and chocolate - I don't think there's anything wrong with eating them sometimes but if you're eating as a way to deal with stress and feelings then you need to find a better way to deal with those things.

I'm calorie counting so no need to deprive myself of anything although I'm also trying to deal with my binge eating. I'm writing down everything I eat and thinking about why I want chocolate before I eat it, etc. I've also decreased portions a little.

Read the different forums and you'll find lots of good advice to help you.

thanks Rainbow.

I am sure your fiance loves you just the way you are. We are way harder on ourselves than other people are on us. My husband keeps telling me the only reason he wants me to lose weight is because then I feel better about myself and I am 'nicer' to him. LOL.....

Hi and welcome LJ! We're glad you're here.

Keep reading and posting. I'm sure you'll find some wonderful ideas to tweak your routine. You'll find something that works to get you slimmer and happier with your body.

I'm going to direct you to the exercise threads especially lifting and resistance training. Have you had a look there?

Hello! I am new too. I can totally relate to the comment about your clothes not fitting. I wanted to wear a pair of jeans the other day and not a single pair in my closet fit me :(
I feel like a failure...then again I can't be a failure because I've never tried to lose the weight.
I hope you get a lot of support here, we are in this together!

thats true, we can all stick together and support eachother

Welcome to 3FC!! Surf around and settle in! We have forums based on age, eating plan, exercise and more! I'm glad you're here! :wave: