I am 350lbs
 

Hello my name is Dawn, I live in New York. I am 33 years old,single and living with my Mom. I have been gaining weight steadily for the past year. At this time last year I weighed 294lbs. My Doctor put me on Topomax. This past year I have gained over 50lbs. I do not know where to start or who to turn to. I need help. I am too big to do this on my own. I need help. I have given up on my Doctor and my life. I am afraid I am going to keep on gaining. I can hardly walk and have trouble breathing. Where can I go for help? This is the first time I have searched the Internet for help. Can you help me or give me any info on clinics or anything? Please I am running out of time. Thank you for your time, Dawn

Welcome, Dawn. You have made the first step into getting healthy...you have come here and asked for help, and there is a lot of it here. You are not too big to do this (on your own or with help). You know how you do it? One day or one hour at a time, what ever works for you. Start by making small changes. Drink more water, make healthy food choices, move more. Losing weight is not rocket science. Make better food choices, eat less and move more. It is that simple. Do you have a plan on how you are going to lose? I personally am a calorie counter and that works for me. There are a lot of different ways to do it. Calorie counting was my choice, because I can still have anything I want, just as long as it fits into my calorie range. If I deprive myself, off the wagon I go.

You can do this and we are all here to help. Post as many questions as you have, everyone is very helpful here....you have come to the right place.

Welcome!
I used to be on Topomax for migraines and noticed I gained a bit of weight on it. Now that I am off it, I have lost 16lbs.
If you have insurance, you could see a nutritionist and they can help you.
Also you can look into weight watchers, its an excellent program!

Welcome to 3FC. Believe it or not, there are a lot of people out there in the same situation as you. I know it seems like it's impossible for you to do this on your own, but there are more resources out there than you might think.

Do you have the option of going back to your doctor? Ask for a referral to a nutritionist and a counselor. Speaking to a counselor is the best thing you can possibly do. They'll help you find your way to all the other resources that you can utilize.

I would also recommend going to over-eaters anonymous meetings. You can find meeting times in your area by searching on google for the OA website.

If there's anything else I can do to help, feel free to ask.

hi iam very bad i fell like iam going to die and not be a round. i want to have a bf but there is no guy will date fat big girls likes us dawn. i need hlep please

Hey there Dawn, I'm also a Dawn and started out at 330 lbs, You can do this and you are not "too big" to do this on your own, And you wont be doing it on your own either! You have taken the first step to good health. Now you need to make small small changes every day to insure that you are (and will stay) on the right track! What have you started to do as far as change? If you need medical help I would go back top the dr or look for a new one someone out there can help you if you feel you need that kind of help, You are not alone and if you need to talk I'm here and know how you feel!

kelly i fell like i cant get a bf bc of my weghit it just hurts so much. please can u help me dawn

Dawn,

Have you checked out the 300+ board?..... there are a lot of people in the same boat as you.

http://www.3fatchicks.com/forum/forumdisplay.php?f=124

You CAN do this Dawn. Take care of you and the boyfriend may come later.

You are worth it.

hi i have been this way all my life. i need somone to love me for me

please talk i need hepl

of course you need someone thats going to love you for you but you still need to take care of yourself first, then worry about a boyfriend (I know easier said than done) ((huggs)) You can do this!

hi dawn please can u help me i like a guy like brett miacles that will love u for who u are. but i fell like iam going to die soon

can somone please im me that i can talk

Dawn - :wel3fc:

I think it's a big step, admitting to ourselves that we need to do something about our weight, and admitting that we need support in order to do it.

You mention wanting a boyfriend. I'd say right now that's probably the least important thing in the world on your list.

First would be making some positive changes in your life and not calling yourself a "fat pig".

You say that you feel unhealthy... that you're going to die. You can stop those feelings in their tracks. You have to want to change, and take steps to change. You can do it, but it takes commitment. It won't happen overnight.

Take some time to look over Diet Central. You might find a plan that seems sensible and doable for you.

Okay Dawn you need to listen very carefully. You say you feel like you are about to die, and in your next breath you say you need to have a boyfriend...come on honey, do you seriously want a boyfriend that you will devastate when you keel over from being morbidly overweight? You say you can't hardly breath or walk...how will you please a man if you can't take care of yourself? A man is the last thing you need right now. You need to love yourself, and if you are slowly killing yourself with food...that is not loving yourself.

This is not an impossible task. This can be done, but you'll never do it if you are only interested in a boyfriend. I've been married for 20 years and trust me, men aren't all their cracked up to be...and they don't make you magically happy and magically able to lose weight. It is the drive, the passion, the faith, belief, and total dedication and HARD work that will do it.

Today...right now, get rid of every ounce of crap in your house. Throw out the candy, pop, chips, the junk. Tomorrow we are going grocery shopping.

hi can somone talk to me about this and i need to losse weghit and get a bf

Okay Dawn, quit playing games.

hi all are we all there please talk to me iam fell like iam going to just die