I am tired of it!!! I am going to do this!!
 

Hello everyone My name is Ryan and I have been a member of 3FC for a couple yrs now. I am always to shy to type something cuz well i am a guy lol and i am just plain shy but i have been noticing a couple of guys on here. I am tired of being overweight i have been struggling my whole entire life with my weight. In school i havent had alot of friends do to my weight I would always get made fun of. At the age of 15 I was diagnosed with major depression and as i grew older it got better in junior high i weight 257 (my heighest weight)from there i started eating fruits and vegetables and rode alot of bike and I remember i would starve myself And i got down to 178 . And now 10-12 yrs i am back to 235The past yrs i have gotten a YMCA membership but I would go for awhile and quit i was always shy around people and always worried what people would thing and this past yr i got a snap fitness membership which is less people. I guess the reason why i am typing all this is i am ready I am done being depressed and i want to be healthy and live a healthy and HAPPY life!!My counslers and people in the past have told me if i go back to the gym it will help me out so much i always talk about it but i dont do it!!Overweight is taking over my life making me sad and affecting my relationship with my g/ f and i am giving her all my bad habits!!I want to work out on a regular basis and eat healthy foods!! I have been reading off and on the past few yrs and this site has given me so much inspiration!! I know i can do this i just need some support a kick in the rear lol!!And i know i can lose weight it can b e done look at all of you and what u have done thank you for ur time and have a Happy Holidays!!!:carrot:

Welcome! I am new here but have already gotten a lot of support and really like it here. You can do this! Good luck on your journey!!

Welcome Ryan! :welcome:
No need to by shy! We're all friends here! And there are some pretty cool dudes here too!

Glad you are delurking - and :welcome2: from another biker. :D

Does your new gym have spin classes? I'm a lil biased 'cause I teach spin, but I swear it's hecka fun.

Maybe just start with just going once a week....and build from there.

Hi Ryan. Welcome to the world of posters. Just because there are not a lot of men on here does not mean we don't like to hear the male point of view and get your input. We are all trying to change our lives to eat better and live healthier. That is why we come here -- that is not gender specific! :)

Hi Ryan, I'm glad you crawled out of the closet. :lol:

Being one of the minorities here is probably in your favor...you'll get even more support. I think the more you join in the more you'll get out of it.

Good for you for making the decision to change your life. You said you are teaching your gf some bad habits. Maybe you can talk her into joining the gym too, or you two can start walking or running together every day. That would be a fun thing to share. That and learning how to eat healthier.

Hi everyone thank you!! Thank you for the welcomes and support you have no idea how much that means to me!! Gina- No we dont have spin classes at my gym :(. I wish we did though I am a member of Snap a 24 fitness center!! I like it because there arent alot of people around. I guess i did post on here before like time ago but no like this. Right now i need help and support I want to learn how to eat healthy and exercise right!! I am lost lol I dont even know where to start are there any advice or sites out there i can use? I need to change my lifestyle I WANT to change it!! I was just thinking earlier when i was talking to my dad!! He had bad diabetes where he has to take insulin shots everyday and a yr ago he had to have emergency quad bypass surgery i dont want to end up like that i know i can do it expecially wit the great support!! Thanks again

One more thing my g/f does have a membership but doesnt go either!!She always wants to go together but I say no because well i am embarrassed!! I dont want her to see me workout!! I get embarrassed about my weight easily!! She says I got low self esteem and another word and i shouldnt worry lol

:welcome2:

I think a good place to start is to figure out how you are going to eat from now on. If you look around at the different diet forums you may be able to figure out what is doable for you. I am on South Beach and LOVE it but some people prefer calorie counting or other plans. I don't think that anyone can really tell you what will be best because it is such a personal choice. If you have any questions about something in particular, you can ask on that forum and I'm sure someone will try to help.

As for the exercise- I know I used to be embarrassed to go to the gym. I think I finally realized a couple of things. 1. It was no secret that I needed to lose weight. At least I was there doing something about it! and 2. No one else was really paying much attention to me since they are pretty focused on themselves. - I think it would be great if you could workout with your GF but if it makes you uncomfortable, then don't feel bad. DH tried going with me in the beginning. He was trying to be supportive and it was sweet but it was also very distracting for me. I actually enjoy my workout time and it is my time alone. I am a SAHM though and that is about all of the alone time I get. :)

Originally Posted by ryan57401:
One more thing my g/f does have a membership but doesnt go either!!She always wants to go together but I say no because well i am embarrassed!! I dont want her to see me workout!! I get embarrassed about my weight easily!! She says I got low self esteem and another word and i shouldnt worry lol

Dude - about the gym....most of the people in there are too busy working on their own thing to worry about you. They might look like they don't have a weight problem...but believe me - a lot of them have been where you are now.

I got a LOT of info about working out from Jillian Michaels' book "Winning by Losing" - I also love Stumptuous.com (it's not all about chicks), and Dave Draper's site

Anyway the point is it's not gonna happen for you unless you get past the embarrassment and do something about it. You are paying for the gym - get your monies worth. :carrot:

As for eating plans - there is info about almost any plan here. Find something that fits how you like to eat and start building healthy habits.

And keep asking questions. :D

Good luck. Sounds like you are going to get there this time!:)

Disgruntled One~ You werent being nosy its ok thank you for the tips yeah i think she would be a lil distracting!! Expecially when i am first starting out? I just wish she would support me

Thin4Good- Thank you yeah i am need to start thinking like that!! I shouldnt worry about it!! I need to overcome this and just do it! I need to tell myself that thanks

Thanks Gina for the websites they look good I expecially like stumptous.com the food one should be pretty interesting i dont know where to start or make my mind up for which diet!! I thought about just eating fruits and vegtables and that was it but i heard that can be bad cuz u need to eat stuff with proteins and etc if i remember correctling when i did that 10 yrs I didnt just lose my weight but i was weak and lost alot of muscle so i dont know grr thank you again!!

Thanks everyone!! I am feeling good already my adrediline is pumping right now!!

Originally Posted by ryan57401:
One more thing my g/f does have a membership but doesnt go either!!She always wants to go together but I say no because well i am embarrassed!! I dont want her to see me workout!! I get embarrassed about my weight easily!! She says I got low self esteem and another word and i shouldnt worry lol

I know how you feel, my boyfriend is in amazing shape- aside from being a firefighter, he goes to the gym everyday. The first few times I went with him I felt a little embarassed, but then I realized that no one really cares what YOU are doing. It is much easier if you get a gym buddy, if you make a date you are less likely to break it, whether it be a friend or a significant other. Just remember everyone at the gym is there for the same purpose! I started going spinning, the first time I went I thought everyone was looking at me, and it took me a few classes before I realized that no one was thinking about what I was doing and now I love it, I met some people who went and when I say see you next class I feel obligated to go!

Originally Posted by ryan57401:
Thanks Gina for the websites they look good I expecially like stumptous.com the food one should be pretty interesting i dont know where to start or make my mind up for which diet!! I thought about just eating fruits and vegtables and that was it but i heard that can be bad cuz u need to eat stuff with proteins and etc if i remember correctling when i did that 10 yrs I didnt just lose my weight but i was weak and lost alot of muscle so i dont know grr thank you again!!

You definitely need protein - especially if you are lifting weights. I count calories - but I also track percentage of calories from Carbs/protein/fat. Well...Fitday does it for me (for free). :cb: Maybe try tracking what you eat for a few days to get a baseline? Fruits and vegetables are great - but you also need lean proteins like chicken (breast meat is the lowest fat), turkey, eggs (especially the whites), cottage cheese, ground beef (check the fat content - I aim for 7% fat or less)....I also like string cheese, peanut butter (watch your portion sizes). You need protein to build muscle...you saw before what happens when you lose weight but don't build muscle. :p You end up smaller but still flabby.

not for long- thanks yeah i am working on getting a coworker to workout with me!! I didnt even think of it thats ok a good idea like u said then i am less likely to skip my workouts thanks for the help!!

Gina- yeah i know what ur saying I cant be a picky eater either! that will be my problem i checked it fitday that looks fun!! I have some questions.. like how and what is the easiest way of measuring or keeping track of ur calories I always look at the labels but there are other things grr lol sorry

~ Have a Happy New~

The trick with Fitday is to enter stuff from packages as a custom food. Then it's there for you next time and you don't have to re-enter all the info.

Veggies and stuff I often use the raw item even if I cook it (as long as I don't add oil or something), for me it's easier to find. It's a bit time consuming at the beginning - but now it's pretty quick and easy for me.

You might check out The Daily Plate as well - a lot of people really like that site, too.

:goodluck:

hey ryan.. i am new here but not to the whole weightloss thing. so anyway.. i understand your dilemma with the gym.... as someone said above that no one is really paying attention to anyone else. that is true. i prefer to go to the gym alone.. because i am there to workout not to talk and make nice..its kinda like work..get in get out. i avoided getting a membership at the gym my cousin and my good friend go to because i dont want to socialize. ( lol no i am not anitsocial) i weigh 240 lbs and i get my big butt on that treadmill too! :) dont worry about other people. you are there for you.. not anyone else :) good luck!

Hi Ryan! :)

Welcome to 3FC! :welcome3:

Gina-i tried Fitday and the Daily Plate and hmm i dont know I get the daily plate a lil better I just got to make sure i log stuff down when i am out!! I dont know how i am going to measure :( but yeah thank you alot its got me in the right direction!!

thanks katie!! I will do that!!

hi lalique and only woman thank you