It's official...I'm no longer a girl that gets flirted with. It's bad enough I don't like being in my own skin...it's worse when others validate my feelings. I was out getting wine for our Christmas Eve party tonight and I was practically invisible to the cashiers...who were falling all over themselves and giving free liquor and gift bags to a skinny blonde chick. Who by the way was acting as if she got free stuff from guys all the time. Ugh. I left the house thinking I looked pretty hot, and got home feeling like a fat cow.
A bit of history...
Ever since having my kids, I have allowed myself to put on more and more weight. I started at 133 lbs (5'5") which, incidentally, I thought was chubby...and am now a pleasantly plump 173 lbs. Kids are now 2 and 4. I'm still fat. I need support from others who are in my same position. I love the board and have been a fan/visitor for a while now. I hope this time my attempts at weight loss will be successful.
Carrie
It sounds like your "trigger" to start this was similar to mine. My youngest had just turned 2, and I was at a party where a woman at the table with me said that I "looked like such a mother." A few minutes later, when I was in the restroom, I looked at myself in the full length mirror...really looked. While the WAY she said it was pretty rude, what she said was absolutely right. I wasn't "fat" really. I wore a size 12/14, but I just looked so, well, matronly. I had a total "mom bob" hair cut. My clothes looked...tired. My face looked...tired. I could hardly see "me" in there. And I decided then and there that NO ONE was ever going to say "I looked like such a..." ANYTHING ever again. I drew a line in the sand, and the next day I started watching what I ate and walking. A few weeks later, I started calorie counting and ramping up the exercise and strength training. I am NOT a stereotype. Being a mother is the joy of my life...looking like a "mother" archtype? Not my life goal.