So Here I Am

  • So...here I am.

    I'm 20. I'm a student in college working on a math degree. I am tired of food controlling my life. I have gained 45 pounds in the past two years. I am now "an embarrassment" to my boyfriend (his words) because I have become antisocial (due to weight issues).

    I hope that I can gain the support I desperately need here. I'll be swinging by whenever I feel the need to go gorge myself on McDonald's, Burger King, Taco Bell, or any other fast food place within a three block radius of my apartment. Hopefully this forum can motivate me to keep away from those nasty demons.

    Thanks for reading,
  • Hello and

    This is a great place for support and we are all here for you.

  • Hiya OnlyMeantWell



    You may want to check out the 20-something's area, or if you're following a specific program there are many to be found under Diet Central. A word about the boy. Anyone calling me "an embarrassment" would not be allowed around me ever again.

    Have a look around & post wherever you're comfortable!

    Best of success! You can do this


  • This place is a great resource!!!
    Quote: A word about the boy. Anyone calling me "an embarassment" would not be allowed around me ever again.
    +1!!!
  • Welcome!

    Ditto on the boyfriend. You need words of encouragement.
    Are there any places nearby that sell healthier foods? Even corner stores sometimes sell ready-made foods that are less calorie/fat laden than than fast-foods.
  • Ellis,

    I have discovered that! All this time I thought homemade foods were sooo expensive, but I just made hummus the other day and couscous and bought some whole grain bread (which was really expensive, but the only super expensive thing I bought!)

    This site has been wonderful, it's only day 3 for me and I feel fantastic!

    And about the boyfriend...we had words.

    All is well, I understand where he's coming from; he's not embarrassed about my WEIGHT, but about my antisocialness..when I get around his friends I don't talk because I constantly think they are judging me.

    He told me he would love me no matter what I look like but he doesn't like the fact that because of my low self-confidence (due to the extra poundage) I have developed a different personality...

    I can understand that! Thanks for all your support fellow 3FCs.

    -Liz.
  • hi Liz --
    Glad you clarified about the boyfriend, and glad you have someone like him in your life!

    I turned 52 over the weekend and am a college _professor_, and I sometimes have the same I-can't-be-social-b/c-I'm-too-conscious-of-my-weight thing, so I definitely can sympathize. You have to still love about yourself the things your BF does -- your intelligence and sense of humor and commitment to changing the world. (Or whatever!) Then, when you have a positive attitude, it's easier to commit to doing healthy things. (Yeah, I know, chicken and egg -- it's easier to feel positive when you're already being healthy.)

    Hang in there, and keep posting!
    anita
  • Quote: He told me he would love me no matter what I look like but he doesn't like the fact that because of my low self-confidence (due to the extra poundage) I have developed a different personality...
    That makes sense. I'm glad you've got good support from him.