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Hi Everyone-

My name is Mary. I am 36 years old and a mother of 3 boys. They are 16, 11 and 4. I weigh 254 pounds and I am horrified and terrified. I am addicted to food! I overeat and I don't even know what real hunger feels like. I eat for comfort, celebration, depression, etc. I don't need a reason to eat! I am tired of feeling tired and I am tired of missing out on outdoor activities with my very athletic and active boys.

I have had a weight problem since 12 years old. I have had a few years here and there where I was at a healthy weight, but I always gained it back. I now weigh 4 pounds more than the day I gave birth to my 4 year old! I know I got here because of not exercising, eating out and eating junk.

I found this forum while doing a google search for weight loss info. I have tried fad things and had temporary success, but I know from past experience that the only way for me to lose weight and be fit is to count my calories and get on a exercise routine. Counting fat, cutting carbs etc will just be setting myself up for failure.

I think I know what my goal is, but I am curious if there is a "calculator" or something that helps figure out what you should weigh? Right now I am a size 20 and it is getting tight! I say I would be "happy" at a size 12, but I don't think today's size 12 is the same as it was the last time I was a 12! I see all the before and after pictures here and I think the sizing has definitely changed in the last 11 years. What I do know is that I have several pairs of jeans in my closet that I would love to fit into again! Should I have a certain goal weight/size or should I just say I am at goal when I can comfortably breathe and sit in a pair of those jeans??

I am hoping this place willl be a safehaven for me and that I will find people who understand how I feel. I also want someone to share the journey with that won't criticize me or try to sabotage me. Every time I have "dieted" it seems that my mother, husband and grandmother try to feed me more! I will tell my DH that I am trying to "be good" yet he will bring home a Milky Way for me or a fudgesicle. So basically, I am not going to say a word to anyone and just go about my plan. After I make one that is.

Mary

:welcome: Mary you have ome to the right place. There are many of us going through the same as you. We are all here for one reason or another. e sure to take a look around the site as you will find lots of support & motivation. Good luck and keep posting

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So glad you could join us!!! This a very supportive bunch!! Check out the link and it will show you what your optimal weight range should be.

Much SUCCESS!!


http://www.healthchecksystems.com/heightweightchart.htm

Hey & :wel3fc:

You're definitely in the right area. We're all looking to permanently change our lives by eating healthier & exercising more. No fads for us, thankyouverymuch! :snooty: We're finding out what works for us in our daily lives.

Dive on in & post wherever you're comfortable. And don't hesitate to ask questions or seek support!

Best of luck to you :D

Thanks everyone. I set a goal weight of 140 as my ultimate goal, but I am not sure if that is realistic. 12 years ago I was 142 and it was very hard for me to maintain it. I was a size 9 then. I could feel content anywhere in the 10-14 range. I think at 160 I would be a 12/14.

My BMI is 41- yikes.

I signed up for Fitday to track myself. After all that I headed out to the store to stock up on low calorie snacks etc because I know if I don't eat frequently throughout the day that I will binge and I really don't want to do that.

I can't seem to figure out how to post my before pictre. If anyone can direct me how to do that I would be grateful.