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Hello:

I am new here and looking for some support from others trying to lose weight. I have struggled with weight issues my whole life. I am married with a son (almost 2) who is my world. I have recently (finally) accepted that I have an eating problem and I want so desperately to lose the weight (and recover from my food addiction). I am doing it this time for me and so my son won't have to be embarrassed of me when he gets older. My husband tries to be supportive but actually often does more harm than good.

I am, quite honestly, about 65 pounds overweight. Maybe less, but I have not weighed myself in a long time. And I want to be healthy and not feel like crap all the time.

I am just feeling really alone and unappreciated. And to be completely frank here, if I did not have my son I would most likely do something drastic. I suffer from deep depression and PTSD and just feel like I either have to deal with this or it will kill me...

Anyhow, maybe this will help. I have to do something. And do it soon.

Thank you.

pmum

Welcome and good luck.Do you have a diet and exercise plan.

Don't lose hope Pmum. . .
 

How blessed you are to have a child!
I know how you feel. I don't have any children (I hope to someday), but I still have struggled with my weight since I was in high school. I also have a supportive husband and he does encourage me. The thing was, is that he never encouraged me to lose weight, he loved me no matter what. As good as that sounds, it didn't really help the way I felt about myself.
I kept thinking that if I could only lose weight, I'll be happy, or, if I would have stuck to my diet I could have lost all kinds of weight by now.
It's the whole thing with our mind, it does not want to forgive or let go of our past or anything we do.
I focused so much on myself that I forgot about everyone else around me. I would get depressed too and would cry, but feeling sorry for myself wasn't helping me at all.
So I did what I do best and that is baking. I would bake cakes for family birthdays, and cookies and brownies for my nieces and nephews and my husband. I was just baking like crazy all the time and it felt good to do something for someone else, while taking the focus off of me.
We all have a purpose and a talent,we just need to find what we are good at and do it, but mostly do it for others.
I know you can lose the weight you want, just speak it and believe that you can and you'll be surprised at what happens.
God Bless!

Hello and welcome! Glad you are here. I certainly understand your discouragement, as I am sure many here do. However, let me encourage you to think positive... you are off to a good start just by posting here and sharing your "defeated" feelings.

First, don't hesitate to get some counseling for your depression if that is what you need! Also, I would add that eating right and exercising DOES help a LOT toward our emotions and helping us to feel better. It doesn't have to be a lot at first... just get out there and move your butt! :) Since you have a son you could even take him out in a stroller or go to a pool and play with him, etc., if it is difficult to find alone time.

Do you have a plan? If not why not give it some thought and get something to get started? There are people here who can help you work on it if you need that. You can always adapt it later if you want but please, please... get started TODAY!

Blessings
Sue