Originally Posted by artflunky:
I just started phase 3 and I'm getting nervous about heading into 4. I have the overwhelming opinion that many of the people in my life are waiting for me to fail on maintenance. That was the most asked question while I was going through this journey. "But how are you going to keep it off? You're never going to keep it off. As soon as you start eating carbs you're just going to blow up!" The majority of this was from my friends who spent so much time telling me why this diet wouldn't be for them, they're not willing to give up this or that while at the same time looking in amazement at the weight I've lost. I guess I should use it as motivation to stay on track but it's also making me anxious. Has anyone else experienced this? I should probably ask, "Has anyone NOT experienced this?". What do we say to the haters?????

Wow, i'm so sorry! You or anyone one of us should not have to deal with that.
It's total jealousy! Their insecurities! Get real! Tell them to get over themselves cus you are!
I understand what you are going through to an extent. I kept the diet a secret from my friends back home till just last night actually... in fear of the garbage that would come out of some of the haters mouths. But I got nothing but praise. I will tell ya though alot of women i work with hate on the diet. But I know its cus they are jealous and insecure with them selves and that they know, that they couldnt do it, nor do they want to push themselves to try...they are weak and know it. I dont know if you know who Katt Williams is.. but he said, if you got haters then you are doing something right! SO keep doing what you doin and let them haters hate! Keep doin you! Gain impowerment through there weakness... This diet has been an emotional journey already, this is one more step to being the new better, stronger you! You've shed all those insecurities, and past BS... step out and shine with your new strength and inner joy! You deserve it!
Sorry to say it .. but eff them! :D DO you BOO! xo

The unfortunate truth is that many people put the weight back on.

Don't be one of those....I am trying my darnest to also not be one of those. I have been in maintenance for 1 year on the 28th of this month. I am currently up about 5 pounds out of the 85 that I lost.

And yes....I still feel like there are a ton of people waiting for me to fail...so they too can feel better about not obtaining their own goal weight....NO Way will I give them the pleasure!



Here are my tips for keeping it off

1. Weigh in every single week...if you are avoiding the scale it is because you know you have put weight on.

2. schedule reboots for at least three times a year (mine are the month of January, May, and September)

3. REmember to do your phase 1 days every week...don't get lazy with this (it is easy to)

4. If you go up more than 10% of your lose....then do phase 1 until it is all gone.

You will kick butt...good luck and happy maintenance

Don't comprimisewho you are because the people around you expect you to fail! Keep up your hard work! You have made a lifestyle change, not a temporary one. Your so called friends sound a little jelous if you ask me....

What is that expression..."The best revenge is living well?"
Just keep on keeping on.

I think we tend to project our own experiences on what others are doing.

This reminds me of years ago a coworker lost a lot of weight on Nutra System. I was secretly thinking she's going to gain it all back once she goes off the plan because that's what's what I did.

But that was at least 15 years ago and she still is at goal because she really became physically active. So your opinion givers are likely thinking you are going through all this work and will just gain it back because that is what they would do. So that just gives you more incentive to prove them wrong.

Originally Posted by darbs7:
And yes....I still feel like there are a ton of people waiting for me to fail...so they too can feel better about not obtaining their own goal weight....NO Way will I give them the pleasure!

LIKE LIKE LIKE!! (also like your maintenance rules).

Originally Posted by CkM:
Don't comprimisewho you are because the people around you expect you to fail! Keep up your hard work! You have made a lifestyle change, not a temporary one. Your so called friends sound a little jelous if you ask me....

EXACTLY - look in the mirror and think "WOW, someone is jealous of ME!" that's what I did, when someone told me I looked sick (at my weight and size, NO WAY do I look sick!) :)

Originally Posted by patns:
Just keep on keeping on.

I think we tend to project our own experiences on what others are doing.

Pat, you reminded me of DORY! "Just keep swimming, just keep swimming" :)

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...there will always be people who don't 'believe'...<shrug> Sometimes it bothers me and then I try really hard to re-frame it. I've had people say "you aren't sick of that yet?" or "we'll see what happens when you're off the diet"

whaddayado??!! :shrug:

It's their world, not yours...and if they can't mesh what you are now to what you were...that's their problem! :)

Chin up grasshoppah!...I believe in you! You got this! :D

:hug:

They are probably the same ones who said you couldn't lose the weight in the first place. They were wrong once and will be wrong again.

Tell them to keep their negative comments to themselves and avoid them. We don't need the negative vibes. Spend more time with people who support you. And keep checking in with us here at 3fc!

I get this too, big time! And all it does is fuel my desire to PROVE THEM WRONG! :)

Any time I'm tempted by anything I remind myself that I will not give the haters the satisfaction of being right. May be twisted, but at this point I figure any effective coping mechanism can help!! Totally makes me turn away from whatever I was craving.

You got this!

I got myself into this situation. I plan to get myself out of this situation.
I am focused on success because I want to live longer and healthier. I want to enjoy life more and do more with my family. What others say about me and what I am doing may hurt my feelings but in the long run it does not matter. I am doing this for ME not them. Do this for you. We are all here for you. I know I've had a great experience here in the past month or so. I come in for my fix when I have some free time.

Originally Posted by darbs7:

Here are my tips for keeping it off

1. Weigh in every single week...if you are avoiding the scale it is because you know you have put weight on.

2. schedule reboots for at least three times a year (mine are the month of January, May, and September)

3. REmember to do your phase 1 days every week...don't get lazy with this (it is easy to)

4. If you go up more than 10% of your lose....then do phase 1 until it is all gone.

You will kick butt...good luck and happy maintenance

What she said! I have been in maintenance for 5 months and still going strong. Maintenance is a lot of trial and error. You must find what works for you, what you can eat and not gain weight and how "free" your free day can actually be. Some people do "free meal" and some go all out. Either way, you have to find what works for you and what you feel comfortable with.

The best thing about maintenance, is there is always PHASE 1. It is the savior. It is what keeps you from gaining the weight back. If you stick to it and do not get lazy about having them, you should have no problem keeping your weight off.

I never encountered anyone who actually "hated" to my face so I don't know what to tell you. Although I know of some who hated behind my back ;) I would just say "I guess we will just have to wait and see what happens".

I found a couple of quotes that I would like to share that we should all live by, This is our journey not anyone else's, it shouldn't matter what anyone else thinks, anyway hope you enjoy these:

The greatest pleasure in Life is doing what people say YOU cannot do.

My Life, My Choices, My Mistakes, My Lessons, My Business.

Have a wonderful IP day everyone!

While I think negative comments are terrible, maybe they're not haters and are instead genuinely concerned and/or curious. I'm not on IP but this is what you here from the media...that these types of plans will never work long term. I know from being on here that that is absolutely not true. One of my biggest 3FC inspirations is on IP.

Negativity is bad, the approach may be bad...However, there motives may not be. Unless you know that their heart's desire is to discourage you, I would chalk it up to bad choices, bad approach. Now, IGNORE THEM ALL.... :)

Quick story...last year today....I was at a work function and 2 weeks away from starting maintenance.....

My boss (who I adore) told me I look great but let's see if I can keep it off. I told him I would show him.

Yesterday I walked into his office and said....one year later and still all the weight is off....he was shocked that I remembered he said that and also felt bad.

I said wait until next May....I'll be down 10 more....going for size 4/6.

Originally Posted by patns:
What is that expression..."The best revenge is living well?"
Just keep on keeping on.

I think we tend to project our own experiences on what others are doing.

Pat - that is so wise. My first reaction to the initial post was to get ticked off at the naysayers, and there are negative people out there, but who knows what is going on in their heads and their lives? We can't control them. We can only control ourselves, our reactions, our futures, and that is where IP has really helped me. By following the structure of the plan, I didn't have to think so much about it, so my focus could dive into how I got there, how I want to change, my future health...

Thank you for your wisdom!