Originally Posted by ItsAboutTime:
That peace is what I can't find. I think I know I won't be done in the next 10 pounds like I thought I would initially and that eats at me. I try to tell myself I picked that number out of thin air and it was just a starting point but anything else seems so far off. Then I have those people who keep telling me I need to be done. Saturday night I even had people telling my husband to tell me to stop losing weight. Why do these people think that's their place? Why didn't any of them tell me to stop GAINING as I was getting bigger and bigger? It's pretty much the same thing right? I had a long talk with my mom about this last night. I can honestly say I feel "normal" now. I feel more like the rest of the country. I don't feel like the biggest when I'm in a room full of people. But I'm still not where I want to be. I will continue on phase 2 and move to 3 on Dec 8th like scheduled and hope for the best. If I lose more I lose more, if not, I'll do it when I get back from my vacation.

I so know how you feel! You have a plan, you can do it. phase off like planned and regroup after vaca. That break might be just what you need!

Originally Posted by gettinmygrooveback:
It sounds like you are beginning to come to terms with yourself. That elusive peace did not come to me overnight. I saw phasing out early as a failure. It took me some time to really see the big picture. I had many, many conversations with myself until I finally woke up one day and knew what was best for me. We are not defined by any number on the scale but while in weight loss mode....we put so much hardship on ourselves. Time to let it go. So happy to see jennydoodle has found it too!

Don't pay attention to what people say because it is a reflection of THEM and NOT YOU. I too went through that "you need to stop" phase. I just smiled.....none of their business. That has since stopped since my weight loss has leveled off.

You will, we all will, do just fine phasing off. Lovin' our new catch phrase "IT IS WHAT IT IS".

Wanted to mention....I saw my ex-husband over the weekend. First time in about 8 months. You should have seen him "looking" at me. When he was leaving my house, he leaned in...little too close....Conversation went something like "How much have you lost"....."A lot"....."well you look good"......"Thanks"......"(smiling) you look real good"....."Thanks" and I walked out of the room. Men.........

Oh man! You and Wuv might be neck and neck for BEST NSV EVER! :D

Originally Posted by ItsAboutTime:
My husband's cousin had triplets back in July. One came home a few weeks ago. One is doing great but the other has been up and down. Unfortunately, this afternoon he passed away. So sad. Keep his family in your parayers if you could.

I am still thinking about my options tonight. Well, I'm just starting to really think it through to be honest. I've had so much homework the past few days that I came home and buckled down on that so I haven't had much time to think about myself. I will let you know what I decide tomorrow. I'm really leaning in one direction for various reasons but I have to make sure it's what is right for me at the moment.

Sorry for your loss.

Hopefully once you make a decision, you will start to feel less stressed and feel a little bit of the inner peace :)

Originally Posted by droidgigi:
I'm new to phase 3 and wanted to know...
Do these #'s look right for a phase 3 day?
Fat(g) Carbs(g) Sugar(g) Net C(g) Prot(g) KCals
31.04 93.09 19.11 67.49 83.51 963

I'm still working on getting Phase 3 right, too, :) so maybe just some observations.

Since we don't do net carbs I'm assuming that net means about 26 g fiber? That's great although, if you're used to 10-12, you might want to ease into that number. By my reckoning, 83 grams of protein is way low, by at least 25, much more with 8 ounces of meat/fish for lunch and dinner. And also I'm not quite sure how you get 93 grams of carbohydrates if breakfast is limited to 50 g. But maybe I'm reading your numbers wrong. :o I sure hope someone else chimes in.

It'sAbout, I'm so sorry about the little one and what the family must be going through.

Ok chicks, I'm sure you were all on pins and needles and losing sleep so I thought I better come on and tell you what I've decided. ;)


After thinking hard and talking with my sister in law and the hubby I have decided to pull my head out of my bum and finish strong. There is no reason someone can stick to a program to a T for about 5 months and then let it all go to he!!. I am pretty sure the reason I've let some things slip in that I wouldn't have thought of before is because of the small losses I've been experiencing the past few weeks. I wasn't mentally prepared to go from losing 10+ pounds a month to 5. I was in never never land thinking that it would go just as planned all the way up until the end. I never factored in the fact that my body hasn't been here in over 15 years and it just may hold on for a bit and try to play catch up. I never thought about how tough it would be in the end. I know the more you have to lose the faster it comes off but I guess I was thinking since in my eyes I still have quite a bit to lose, it wouldn't start slowing down this soon. I am not happy where I am. I am happier than where I was but just not THERE yet. I am a natural worryer. That won't go away. But, once again, I am going to try to do myself a favor and not step on the scale every day. I don't need more to stress about. I'm having issues with my sister and I'm in the last few weeks of this semester in school so that keeps me stressed enough! I tell myself I know there will be fluctuations but I still let them bother me sometimes.

So, long story long ;), I am going to do phase 1 for about a week and start phase 2 again the 24th for 2 weeks and then move to phase 3 on December 8th so I am in maintenance for my trip. When I was talking to my sil one of the main factors, besides wanting to see just how much more I can lose before then, is just plain being scared of phase 3. :dizzy: I need the next few weeks to research that as much as I can.

Thanks for all of the help with this. And the thoughts and prayer for hubby's family. Something like that really makes my weight loss troubles look minimal. :(

Oh, and I am back to where I was last Thursday so I may actually get a loss tomorrow! Crossing my fingers for even the slightest bit and maybe I can finally hit that 50 pound mark I've been waiting forever for.

Originally Posted by sandyh50:
♫♫HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU, CAT, ON WEDNESDAY!!!♫♫

Thanks for remembering Sandy! :)

Originally Posted by gettinmygrooveback:
Thanks for remembering Sandy! :)

I must've missed that! Happy birthday! :woo:

Originally Posted by ItsAboutTime:
I must've missed that! Happy birthday! :woo:

Thanks! :)

Originally Posted by ItsAboutTime:
Ok chicks, I'm sure you were all on pins and needles and losing sleep so I thought I better come on and tell you what I've decided. ;)


After thinking hard and talking with my sister in law and the hubby I have decided to pull my head out of my bum and finish strong. There is no reason someone can stick to a program to a T for about 5 months and then let it all go to he!!. I am pretty sure the reason I've let some things slip in that I wouldn't have thought of before is because of the small losses I've been experiencing the past few weeks. I wasn't mentally prepared to go from losing 10+ pounds a month to 5. I was in never never land thinking that it would go just as planned all the way up until the end. I never factored in the fact that my body hasn't been here in over 15 years and it just may hold on for a bit and try to play catch up. I never thought about how tough it would be in the end. I know the more you have to lose the faster it comes off but I guess I was thinking since in my eyes I still have quite a bit to lose, it wouldn't start slowing down this soon. I am not happy where I am. I am happier than where I was but just not THERE yet. I am a natural worryer. That won't go away. But, once again, I am going to try to do myself a favor and not step on the scale every day. I don't need more to stress about. I'm having issues with my sister and I'm in the last few weeks of this semester in school so that keeps me stressed enough! I tell myself I know there will be fluctuations but I still let them bother me sometimes.

So, long story long ;), I am going to do phase 1 for about a week and start phase 2 again the 24th for 2 weeks and then move to phase 3 on December 8th so I am in maintenance for my trip. When I was talking to my sil one of the main factors, besides wanting to see just how much more I can lose before then, is just plain being scared of phase 3. :dizzy: I need the next few weeks to research that as much as I can.

Thanks for all of the help with this. And the thoughts and prayer for hubby's family. Something like that really makes my weight loss troubles look minimal. :(

Oh, and I am back to where I was last Thursday so I may actually get a loss tomorrow! Crossing my fingers for even the slightest bit and maybe I can finally hit that 50 pound mark I've been waiting forever for.

Hooray!!!! :carrot: :cp: :bravo: Good for you! I am so glad you made a decision and feel good about it.

Yes, the slowing down of weight loss is extremely frustrating! But good for you for deciding to finish strong and get to where you know you will be happy with. You have 3 weeks to stick to it and I know you can do it.

I hope you feel happy with this and can now just go on with your life and not stress about weight loss. Take each day for what it is, and keep telling yourself to "just get through today". Good for you.

Originally Posted by leganegan:
Oh man! You and Wuv might be neck and neck for BEST NSV EVER! :D

Funny, but I didn't consider it a NSV moment. Maybe TMI here but I was the one who ended our marriage so he's always had this "puppy dog face" with me. But there was something about that moment that was more empowering. Thanks for making me realize that a NSV it surely was! :)

Cat Happy Birthday
 

Cat - Hope you have a very Happy Birthday.

Lynsey - sorry for your families loss that has to be hard.

Man been gone a coupled days from here and so much to catch up on. Really super busy at work and then had to spend the day at home as my fridge wasn't working on the weekend... good thing it was cold here, had my frozen things and my fridge things outside to keep cold all day yesterday... Part needs to be ordered for the fridge but can use again after defrosting the freezer for 8 hours.
Lynsey how do you know you are the same weight as last week? Did you weigh yourself? hmmm I am sure in the sentence above you said you weren't going to any more too much stress...

It is only a number that we set for ourselves to reach, and like the rest of you I wanted to reach that number, but after months of just not getting anywhere I am in phase 3 for the second week and soon to be on maintenance. I weighed myself Monday as my coach wasn't around this week and am at 149 (unofficially) so half way through phase 3 and lost maybe 1/2 lb... so I am really happy about that. Another thing my size eights are baggy, and I am not sure if it is because I am wearing tights (still cold all the time and it is suppose to be COLD here the next 4 days). They are baggy in weird spots around my stomach and hip area... the reason I say weird is I have a baggy crotch... oh well.. My friend is living with me until she can move into her house (I think I mentioned this already sorry) but I have been enjoyed cooking (she doesn't like to cook) and giving her a sample of what I eat for supper... she definately likes the roasted vegetables, and I made a beef stew last night and she really liked that. Taco salad was a big hit and people where she works wants the recipe... all too funny..

So Lynsey I guess my point to my rambling is that yes we do make our goals mean so much to us... I really wanted to hit 100 lbs lost but you know what 93 lbs lost is a huge amount too and I should be proud of it. Which I am, but some day I am going to come back on here and say I have finally hit my 100 lbs mark...

Have a great day everyone, two of my 3 offices have issues this morning so I am off and running.:hug::hug:

Originally Posted by 2RIDEROLLERCOAST:
Cat - Hope you have a very Happy Birthday.

Lynsey - sorry for your families loss that has to be hard.

Man been gone a coupled days from here and so much to catch up on. Really super busy at work and then had to spend the day at home as my fridge wasn't working on the weekend... good thing it was cold here, had my frozen things and my fridge things outside to keep cold all day yesterday... Part needs to be ordered for the fridge but can use again after defrosting the freezer for 8 hours.
Lynsey how do you know you are the same weight as last week? Did you weigh yourself? hmmm I am sure in the sentence above you said you weren't going to any more too much stress...

It is only a number that we set for ourselves to reach, and like the rest of you I wanted to reach that number, but after months of just not getting anywhere I am in phase 3 for the second week and soon to be on maintenance. I weighed myself Monday as my coach wasn't around this week and am at 149 (unofficially) so half way through phase 3 and lost maybe 1/2 lb... so I am really happy about that. Another thing my size eights are baggy, and I am not sure if it is because I am wearing tights (still cold all the time and it is suppose to be COLD here the next 4 days). They are baggy in weird spots around my stomach and hip area... the reason I say weird is I have a baggy crotch... oh well.. My friend is living with me until she can move into her house (I think I mentioned this already sorry) but I have been enjoyed cooking (she doesn't like to cook) and giving her a sample of what I eat for supper... she definately likes the roasted vegetables, and I made a beef stew last night and she really liked that. Taco salad was a big hit and people where she works wants the recipe... all too funny..

So Lynsey I guess my point to my rambling is that yes we do make our goals mean so much to us... I really wanted to hit 100 lbs lost but you know what 93 lbs lost is a huge amount too and I should be proud of it. Which I am, but some day I am going to come back on here and say I have finally hit my 100 lbs mark...

Have a great day everyone, two of my 3 offices have issues this morning so I am off and running.:hug::hug:

Yes, I guess I meant from weigh in tomorrow and beyond, I will do my best to not be on the scale everyday. I'm also not going to get after myself if I do decide to peek before my next weigh in though. I am trying to tell myself I only mess with myself when I do it so this is what's best for ME.

You would be proud of me. I bit the bullet and scheduled my massage for tomorrow afternoon. I was trying to wait until I hit that magic number of 50 but as I thought about it, I am still close and I deserve it whether I make it tomorrow or not. Plus I can't get rid of this nasty headache and I'm hoping it may help!

As for you, 93 pounds is nothing to shake a stick at and it's so close to 100! But you know what? I haven't made it to my goal of 59.8 pounds and it makes me angry but I'm also so close so what's the difference? I need to just stop being so darn hard on myself. I may not look picture perfect and be where I wanted to be but will I ever be? Probably not.

Originally Posted by ItsAboutTime:
The largest woman in the office just walked by my desk with a heaping pile of mac. salad. As she walked by she said, "I had to take it because I'm scared it will all be gone by the time I get back here for lunch."

Sounds like you are as stunned with people as I am. I saw someone eating a burger and fries recently. It was huge. I sat and ate my small salad and was completely satisfied. I felt like I was watching her poison herself.

Originally Posted by jennydoodle:
Yes, I have found the "inner peace". And like Groove, it did not come easily or overnight.

I agree it doesn't come overnight. I still waffle back and forth as to whether I
want to go back on P1 after the holidays. For now, though, I am happy where I am. I am still exercising 3x per week and my tummy is firming up nicely. But, what a nice problem to have -- whether to lose another 5-10lbs... I've never had THAT problem before.

Originally Posted by ItsAboutTime:
My husband's cousin had triplets back in July. One came home a few weeks ago. One is doing great but the other has been up and down. Unfortunately, this afternoon he passed away. So sad. Keep his family in your parayers if you could.

I am thinking of you all. Such very sad news, indeed.

Originally Posted by ItsAboutTime:
After thinking hard and talking with my sister in law and the hubby I have decided to pull my head out of my bum and finish strong.

Congrats! You made a good decision.

Originally Posted by gettinmygrooveback:
Thanks for remembering Sandy! :)

Happy birthday!

Originally Posted by ItsAboutTime:
I haven't made it to my goal of 59.8 pounds and it makes me angry but I'm also so close so what's the difference? I need to just stop being so darn hard on myself. I may not look picture perfect and be where I wanted to be but will I ever be? Probably not.

But you are much closer than you used to be, right? That's what I tell myself. Enjoy your massage. You deserve it.

Originally Posted by Pxlkitty4:
Sounds like you are as stunned with people as I am. I saw someone eating a burger and fries recently. It was huge. I sat and ate my small salad and was completely satisfied. I felt like I was watching her poison herself.


I agree it doesn't come overnight. I still waffle back and forth as to whether I want to go back on P1 after the holidays. For now, though, I am happy where I am. I am still exercising 3x per week and my tummy is firming up nicely. But, what a nice problem to have -- whether to lose another 5-10lbs... I've never had THAT problem before.


Congrats! You made a good decision.

But you are much closer than you used to be, right? That's what I tell myself. Enjoy your massage. You deserve it.

It's horrible what some people eat. It's also funny what we consider a "cheat" now. Subway would be a good choice for eating out for most but it was a horrible cheat for me that set me back days! I love how this diet opened my eyes. Do I still want to eat horrible some days, sure. I am working on that day by day though.

I can't wait to have that "hard" decision of 5-10 more pounds or not. I know I will not be where I want to be at goal so I know there is more phase 1 in my future. My family is concerned I'm addicted to dieting and losing weight. They may be correct but like any addict, I need to work that out for myself.

And yes, I am much closer to goal. Closer than I've ever been and for that I am super happy. :D

Ok , weigh in this morning! I lost 2 pounds! 49 1/2 pounds gone! I would have hit over 50 if I hadn't had the big C! oh, well. gotta go, just a quick post from school.

Originally Posted by sandyh50:
Ok , weigh in this morning! I lost 2 pounds! 49 1/2 pounds gone! I would have hit over 50 if I hadn't had the big C! oh, well. gotta go, just a quick post from school.

:cp: Awesome loss! See what happens when you don't have all those bars! (Like I should talk.) That is exactly the number I am hoping for tomorrow but I doubt I'll make it that far.