3 Fat Chicks on a Diet Weight Loss Community - Your body is not your enemy

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Beautiful, peaceful, true.....thank you Svelting for the honesty. Hugs and gratitude. :hug:

Thank you, thank you and again THANK YOU ♥♥♥ just what I needed right now !
Happy weekend all my virtual friends with big F. We understand each others, right :)

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Originally Posted by I'm svelting! (Post 3636032)

... a thread of quiet encouragement and calm sharing about healing our body-hate-craziness.

I've been away for a bit from this forum so maybe I'm hypersensitive to this. I sometimes get weepy reading a post -- people so determined to do what they've always done even if it's never produced the result they want -- and my heart breaks a little when it seems as if they can't/won't let go to try another way. Or transferring that focus about what's wrong with their body to a possible obsession about some minor aspect of the Ideal Protein experience. Addictive personality, Rosemary will probably tell us :hug:

I'm not referring to any post in particular, I see myself in those behaviours too. It seems to be a way of thinking that takes over with varying intensity and duration, but touches many who post here.

So many of us have struggled for so long with our weight, body issues, and health concerns that we can't let go of what we've said to ourselves for years -- "My body is ..." "I am ..." "I have to ..." It's fine that we've said (and listened :)) to this. However, they're opinions and random thoughts not THE truth.

Listening to these thoughts have led us to judge our bodies harshly (often at weights we'd love to get down to!), try punishing, nonsense diets possibly while exhausting ourselves with long fruitless exercise sessions. Me too!

I feel as if I created (or found?) peace of mind while on Ideal Protein. Ideal Protein is such a simple diet. It put me quickly in touch with what wasn't working about how I had been eating (FYI: total carb queen).

An NSV I haven't shared here: ScooterMan (my fiancé) told me that 'You're sexier now, well you were always sexy, but your sexier now because YOU like your body." This is approximately the same sized body that I used to think was fat and ugly 15-20 years ago and that no man would ever really be attracted to. (sorry, moment of vulgarity coming ... WTF was I thinking or seeing??) alright that wasn't so quiet or calm. :o

I can't say that I've mastered staring down my poison/drug/temptation, or stopping at one once I've started. What my time on IP has taught me is that if I can't say no to that stuff, then something else is off with what I'm eating. All that happened was I ate food that didn't nourish and support me for a time. (And that's what happened over 15 years to get to the point where I related to a site called 3fatchicks) Nothing is wrong with me ... Not my body, not my brain, not my character. I just ate in a way that doesn't support me and need to start eating in way that does work. Nothing is wrong with me .. not my body, not my brain, not my character. ... Or yours.

Your thoughts?

such truth, a read like that is so grand for me. we so often forget that we are all bright capable people.

Wonderful food for thought!! Thank you!!

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Originally Posted by Joliebug82 (Post 3638151)

This really put into words what I felt today. I tend to have minor victories then get super anxious. I had some really awful experiences with my ex-husband, and with another man while I was in high school. Since then, I've steadily gained weight, keeping men away. Now that I've dealt with my deeper issues of why I eat, I'm ready to lose this weight for me and my children. I can't begin to fathom the misery my babies would go through if I died early from not taking care of myself and they had to live with my ex. (well, I can, and that's why I won't allow it).

Amen Sister!!! That would get me outta bed EVERY day. My hats off to you for doing battle with love, determination and being a great example to your children by showing them how you are taking care of YOURSELF!! That way when they have their own families, they'll be able to stay whole unto themselves and then be able to give to others w/o resentment and w/o starting that nasty cycle of cheap easy rewards, like fast food, sugar, cookie batter, fried food and the works. So hard for us women to do because we're just wired to take care of the brood and then do piece meal bandaging for our own wounds.
Anyway, you sound great and keep going. So much inspiration on this network!!

From Svelting I can't say that I've mastered staring down my poison/drug/temptation, or stopping at one once I've started. What my time on IP has taught me is that if I can't say no to that stuff, then something else is off with what I'm eating. All that happened was I ate food that didn't nourish and support me for a time. (And that's what happened over 15 years to get to the point where I related to a site called 3fatchicks) Nothing is wrong with me ... Not my body, not my brain, not my character. I just ate in a way that doesn't support me and need to start eating in way that does work. Nothing is wrong with me .. not my body, not my brain, not my character. ... Or yours.

Thank you thank you!!! You made my weekend and especially during these last few pounds where I'm getting those old WTF thoughts and feeling slips want to "slip" in!!!! I will be even more determined now to observe those old nasty trigger thoughts, rather than yield to them. They are all like "pop ups" on my computer, wanting to attach "cookies" to my being and start runnin' me again. Time for a reboot and virus scan....:dancer:

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Originally Posted by sunnymae (Post 3640716)

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So hard for us women to do because we're just wired to take care of the brood and then do piece meal bandaging for our own wounds.

You nailed it.

Svelting, I'll add my thanks for such a well thought out and meaningful post.

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Originally Posted by Mrs Diettrich (Post 3636057)

Preach it Holly! An excellent, well-timed post that I think that we all need to hear. Our bodies are amazing things and while sometimes I can't believe that I'm finally losing the weight that I thought I would have forever, it's as though my body has just been waiting for my head to realize that WE CAN DO THIS!

For years I had reconciled myself to the fact that I would ALWAYS be overweight. I really didn't believe I could be slim. With IP, this is the first time I believe I can do it - body and head in sync! It's a beautiful thing!

Thank you for writing such a thought provoking post Svelting. How true your words are.

Kaarin, I also agree with what you wrote, your words matched my thoughts when I started this journey.

Thank you for your wise words.

Thank you everyone for this thread, and thanks I'm Svelting for starting it! You are so right - why do we let what we eat define who we are? We are lovable, we are beautiful, we are strong. I personally have to figure out what has been triggering me to soothe myself with food - I need to learn how to feed (fuel) my body - not feed my feelings. I thank IP for the science behind this way of eating. I thank 3fatchicks for the blessings of support on this board. This thread inspired me, just when I needed it the most. :hug:

I haven't started the program yet - hoping to Thursday - but reading this made me cry. I am there - doubting myself and hating myself. I had a breakdown Sunday and couldn't stop crying. Why after trying so hard on the programs everyone says should work was I still fat. Why did nothing work for me. What is wrong with me.

I try and blame it on my hypothyroidism - but for others with it - they've been successful. Why can't I. Why is God punishing ME?

After that little meltdown Sunday - my SIL called and told me about them beginning to offer IP at their clinic and did I want to try it. It was like God answering my prayer - but I have a tremendous amount of anxiety as I start this new program. Deep down I can't even begin to think it's really going to work. I'm trying in envision myself at my goal weight and it doesn't even seem real. Even as I try - my mind won't go there.

But this post helped - there is nothing wrong with ME! I so want this to work!

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Originally Posted by slickmouse (Post 3646730)

Before I started IP I had been on a 1200 calorie diet directed by a Kaiser nutritionist for two years. I slowly but steadily gained weight. On my birthday I had had it and went searching (through some tears, I'll admit). When I found this program it just made sense to me. Something clicked, as they say. While I've only lost 30 pounds in 6+ months, that is probably the best I can do because of 2 other autoimmune problems and pain killers. Still, I haven't quit (or cheated) and I think I can still loose a little more, albeit very slowly. It's worth it to me. I suspect it will be for you, too. And you quite likely will do better. I do wish you luck, good luck.

I dug deep down to find this one.....thought it would be good to bump up

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Originally Posted by wuv2bloved (Post 4186887)

I dug deep down to find this one.....thought it would be good to bump up

Thanks wuv, real words to live by...