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Originally Posted by pet pet
sunflowr -runningforfat
every body want to be in the shape and perfect
it's impossoble to love my body and when i look at
the merror i see that body
and about weight training i did try it before and did
abs workingout my stomach was better but the jelly fat
still was there it means that it won't burn the fat it just
make it look better and i have to do this weight training all
my life and i don't like it i just walk alot maybe one or two hours
a day sometimes i run
pet pet
I don't think you understand what I meant by weight lifting. You can't spot reduce so doing ab workouts is not going to help. What you need to do is increase your muscle mass (in general), which will decrease your body fat percentage. Just losing more weight will make you a shrunken version of yourself but it will not increase your muscle mass, which means that losing further weight might very NEVER make you happy with your body. That's a pretty scary thought and so that's why I really encouraged you to look into weight lifting.
Seriously, go to your library and pick up the New Rules of Lifting for Women, check out the link to both my blog (and
this paleo blog). In the paleo blog the lady IS THE SAME WEIGHT in her before/after pictures but her body is drastically different. Please look at it.
What you need to know about weight lifting, though is:
1. You CANNOT spot reduce. So more ab exercise does NOT mean perfect abs.
2. The best exercises use multiple muscles in your body so squats, deadlifts, rows, dumbell presses etc.
3. Lift as heavy as you can. Using small weights is not going to allow you to build up the muscles you need.
4. Try to lift 2-3x/week to build muscle. You don't have to be in the gym for hours but get in a well rounded workout of about 2-3 sets of 8-12 reps (if you feel like you can do more than that then it means that you weren't lifting enough weight and you need to increase the amount you are lifting!).
Look, walking is GREAT. If that's all someone can do, DO IT. BUT I have to admit your post sounds like you're headed in a very scary direction, one that is extremely unhealthy. But it can be completely avoided. Instead of all the self-loathing that I hear coming from you, think of how you can change. Look into weight lifting instead of dismissing it immediately. I'd also look into some counselling because, honestly, it sounds like you're depressed and this might be a bigger issue than something strangers on a message board can handle.
I DO think learning to love yourself is vital. WE ALL HAVE OUR IMPERFECTIONS. When you said :
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it's impossoble to love my body and when i look at
the merror i see that body
that's really heartbreaking. I don't have a perfect body either. I used to be very obese, I've had a kid, I nursed for 2 years so I have stretch marks, and some pudge left. BUT I've learned to love myself. My husband loves me to (and so will any partner you find that is worthwhiel). No human is flawless, you just have to throw out that notion. IT IS POSSIBLE TO LOVE YOURSELF WITH FLAWS.
There's something going on right now because it is eating disorders prevention week. It's called
Body Image Warriors with a bunch of blogs talking about Body image. Check it out, some of them might help you too.