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They're nice to look at, but you don't want 'em in your house.

lol!

Just rambling thoughts.

Many of them aren't even nice to look at. Lol

lol:d

They can come in if they can fix stuff and leave. LOL. We shouldn't be so mean.

Awww, you guys. You guys are making us singletons think twice about settling down few years from now. I'm so scared hearing other people's husband stories I don't even bother getting into relationships!

my boyfriend can be pretty slobbish at times... but I went away this weekend and he cleaned the house! yaaaa :dance:

and they can be nice to look it... when they are sleeping, hahaa
http://www.saltypickles.com/puppy/keikoandkarden.jpg

Awww, so cute!!!

(And the guy looks OK, too) :lol:

AWWWWWWWWWWWWW PUPPY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

sorry but a puppy's much cuter than a sleeping dude.

I'm not thinking twice about getting married but I am a little nervous :) Not because I'm afraid my BF will change but because it is a big change for me. I figure I've had quite a few single years and I enjoyed them but I am looking forward to many many years with my future husband :)

You know, nelie, its not that I don't look forward to change eventually, but I just feel like anticipating bad events (cheating and lying husband, forgetful or even loss of interest, yadayada...) just so that, if it hits me, I won't be terribly surprised or disappointed. I know it sounds bad, because this way, I won't be able to trust anyone 100%, but I just can't seem to let go of these things. Crap happens, and I don't want to break down and cry when it does. I'll look forward to dating and settling down in the distant future, but I'll always keep my mind on certain things...

veggielover - your younge, enjoy it. I am younge too and I live with my boyfriend, as much as I love him sometimes I wonder if I am missing out on other things. If he asked me to marry him i would say yes but would want to hold off on the wedding. We are both 21, we have been together two years (lived together for 8 monthsish) and we are perfectly happy where we are now... why change a good thing? You need to do what makes you happy :)

In general, I think I'm an optimist. If you expect the worst out of people, all you get is the worst. I started dating my BF after I had resigned myself to being single and was pretty happy with that decision. I had some tough times with men (some really tough times) and well I couldn't see how it could be different. Anyway, my BF came into the picture as a close friend when I needed one and he needed a close friend too. Our friendship grew into a relationship and I knew I could trust him from day one. I don't think he'd ever cheat or lie to me but I do think it is a possibility that we could grow distant because I know it happens in relationships.

I do think trust is important but you also have to trust yourself. Some relationships fall apart. It happens. You can do your best and it can still fall apart. I'm not going to anticipate it and if it happens with me, I know I'll be devastated. I also know that I am my own person and that if my marriage for some reason doesn't work out, it wasn't because I didn't try. Personally, I believe that my marriage will last and we will be happy together for the rest of our lives. I am an optimist after all :)

The sad part is that I know you guys are right and I'm still building my protective bubble, my own little spot that no one can reach. I don't know the feeling of happy occasionally, and yet I don't ever look for it. I don't understand why, but it just makes me feel like I could never hurt that way... I mean, you can't ever hurt yourself emotionally without being in love right? :?:

Nelie, Courtney, I think you guys sound happy and optimistic, which is what I'd love to be. Due to some past relationships, I don't think it's going to happen anytime soon. But I hope I get there eventually....

veggielover - you just need to meet the right person :)

Even if you meet the right person, the most important thing to know is that it takes work and lots of it. There's a lot of compromise. Sometimes I'd like to do something and not have to consider anyone else's opinion, needs, or schedule.

Happily ever afters might happen, but they are usually accompanied by not so happily right this minutes.

yah there are lots of things I have to ask a second opnion about... I thought about getting a perm this week but my boyfriend freak out, his eyes popped out of his head ad he said NOOOOOOOOOOOOOO. lol... all well, I saved myself some money lol

LOL, well would you compromise on the perm?

I don't kow how much I'm willing to compromise. I think one of the downfalls of my past relationship was that there were CERTAIN things I couldn't come to agreement with. I can't recall them at the moment since it happened 3 years ago, but I remember- I was able to give in to his requests a lot of times, but he was just so annoying when it came to SIMPLE TINY things, only a few of which I need him to do. For example, it would be NICE to get a call once a week. YES, JUST ONCE.

I had better relationships that didn't work out due to distance, but now I kinda look back and say, "well, what was that worth?"

Sometimes I think I might be wasting my time, you know? For all you happy folks, I guess I can only envy you. You're right, I do need to find the right person, but sometimes it seems nearly impossible!

when he said no way to the perm I was fine... I wanted o ne cuz it would save me time in the morning, but I am worrid it would look bad and wreak my hair, so i died it a bit of a different colour and bought some rollers, haha

your last guy sounds like mine... he would call, but in the two years we were together he took me on ONE, yes count it O-N-E date and that was for our "one year". The rest of the time I bought. he sat at home all day with no job and he if did get money he took his mom out instead. For my birthday (second one with him) he bought 20$ gift certs to the movie so we could go the movie together so I could stop complaing that he never took he me out (he actually said that!) and he didnt even buy them, he got his mom to buy them for me! I remember once he was supposed to come over and he got in the minor car accidents with his friend and his girlfriend (my friend) he told me didnt feel like coming over... so I call al little while later and his friend and mine are all at his house hanging out, I wasnt even invited! argh, I will never forget how made I was. I dont remember what finally happened, I must of hit my head and knocked some sense into my self but I told him we needed a break... and that turned into a perment one. A little while later he came back saying he was sorry and realized he was an idiot, i was like allllllllllll weeeeeeeeellllllllllllllllllll - but yah, I know, its the little things that matter over all :(

I give into my boyfriend now lots... but lately I have been putting my foot down and its working... hey, I have a puppy now dont I? hehe

MEN...keep your shirts on PLEASE! No one wants to look at your sagging tits, and your big white belly hanging over your shorts...ICK! There's three guys on my block that ALWAYS mow their lawns shirtless...eeeewww! It's just nasty. There's very few men who can actually get away with not wearing a shirt in my opinion.

Veggielover - I do agree that you need to meet the right guy. There are guys out there that really suck. I've dated a few. As I said, I also had some really bad experiences are partly they were because I was too trusting. There have been a lot of bumps in the road. I say take a deep breath, let yourself heal from past wounds and move on with your life.

I do think there is a bit of give and take in relationships but I don't feel constrained by my relationship. I do ask permission on some things but really there is nothing reasonable that I would be denied. I actually wish sometimes he would say no rather than letting me choose. I think I actually do more in life in general because I am with my DF. I enjoy my life more because I think I live it fuller.

Wow, I remember when I had a pet Bunny all I could care about was my furry critter. I should get another pet. Maybe it won't make me feel so "needing-a-partner"; not that i feel like I need one, I just hate it when people expect me to have one or ask me why I'm alone.

Wow, thats some BF courtney. My last idiot kept on calling me even up til a year after we broke up and I continued to ignore him. He pretended like he did absolutely nothing wrong and thought he was all innocent. What's worst is that he thought I had no reason to be angry with him when all he was, was a piece of <bleep>. I laughed when he called me, each and every time. I wish I said something, but I figured, why waste the effort? Even a breath or a word spoken would be wasted.

My second BF was the nicest guy ever. I thought he was amazing but we broke up due to distance. Even if I were with him, I'd still feel alone no matter what. It's weird, because even when you've found someone, you could still feel like no one in the universe understands you. I'm lucky I have love from my twin sister and my family, but I just can't help that people expect me to find some "other type" of love. I just FEEL ALONE ALL THE TIME. Maybe I'll always feel this way.

When I left my second husband, he kept calling for a while. His only concern was did I leave "because the Sex wasn't good enough". This was absurd, but I wasn't about to stroke his ego. Is this the only reason that men believe a woman would leave? I guess he thought his drinking and staying out all night at the clubs had nothing to do with it. It was the best decision I ever made.

I was in a pretty bad relationship for years, father of my two children, I was single for 2 years after that breakup. For my next relationship I decided what I didn't like about the first guy (lying, cheating, drinking) and found someone with none of those qualities. My new relationship isn't perfect, but at least I respect myself and my hubby and we have been together for 10 years. No relationship is perfect you just have to find what you can accept and what you can't. Perfection is not happiness, but respect is a good start.

card, WTG on finding what you were looking for. I am now happily married for 8 yrs. and life is so much more pleasant.

veggielover- a pet wont solve all your needs but having one around might help you feel not so alone. Even with living with my boyfriend I get loney when he is not there - like he just started working graveyards so I now have to sleep alone everynight (last night was my first) but with Keiko there I felt okay, safe, and not alone. I just snuggled up with her and we did great!

I think if you could take your mind off it for a little while you could feel better about the whole thing and before you know it mr perfect will be knocking on your door.

You will find someone - you just cant look too hard.

And you have a twin sister? that is sooo cool, I always wanted one, I guess everyone does

My only thought when I saw the title of this thread was, where can I get one?


It always cracks me up when men expect us to think about sex like they do.

It's because its the only reason that men leave a woman, haha

After all, no man in his right mind would want to leave something as beautiful and charming as us!

I still stand by my original post, lol.

Seriously, though... there are good men out there. But I'm tellin ya, after a while, you just wanna smack 'em silly. However, for those that are worried about getting into a relationship, remember that there are old couples out there, couples in their 60's and 70's, who are still very much in love.

I personally think they're nuts, but that's just my opinion :lol:

Mine? Well, I'll be honest... if he'd come to me and say, "Hey, sorry, but I've found another woman I wanna be with," I'd throw a freakin party.

I honestly love my DH but if he ever said he was leaving me for another woman my only response would be "I hope she can afford you". lol

WOW. That's just how I want to handle situations!

Was that sarcasm?

lol