[turning30andexcited]

For the past few months I've actually been feeling pretty good about myself, so much that when I thought a guy was cute it wasn't immediately followed by "He probably thinks I'm too fat."

Today, though, I was having a huge lunch and then decided to get ice cream for dessert, and then I suddenly noticed this guy staring at me. I won't lie: my first response was feeling flattered, although I didn't look in his direction again. Later, though, it occurred to me that his expression could be interpreted as a look of disgust, like what he really wanted to do was tell me to put the ice cream down.

Has anyone had a similar experience? If so, what do you think is going on inside those guys' heads?

[SeeMyFeet]

I think he wanted your ice cream.

[fat2fitgirl]

Doesn't matter why - he's a jerk either way for making you feel uncomfortable.

[EagleRiverDee]

I think most people can generally read micro-expressions and the fact that your first instinct was to feel flattered makes me think his perception of you was positive. In either case, I'd choose to look at it that way, since you don't know for sure and it's better to think positive.

[Chunkahlunkah]

My vote is, "what someone else thinks of me is none of my business." It's so empowering not to give a f.

Good, bad, it would just be speculation. That speculation would reveal ourselves, but not necessarily that guy. I find that our interpretations of other people are often like Rorschachs to see our own inner state. We're more prone to interpreting judgment when we're feeling insecure, flirtation when we're feeling feisty, etc.

If he didn't harass you or ask you out, he's meaningless. Save your attention for the guys who give you something good to notice.

[Palestrina]

According to every single guy I've ever known, the truth is that when a man sees a woman licking an ice cream cone they're only thinking about themselves. Men are little piggies poor things. Don't think too much about it.

[Psyche_]

Originally Posted by Chunkahlunkah

My vote is, "what someone else thinks of me is none of my business." It's so empowering not to give a f.

So much this ^