I feel like perhaps you're hanging around the wrong types of feminists/fat acceptance people. Maybe find some groups that are more accepting?

The people I choose to associate with in both movements are all about freedom of choice, and being able to feel good about your choices without being judged. I've actually never seen, or heard, any of my feminist friends refer to tracking calories or any healthy dietary measure as an ED. My group of friends is much more just about acceptance and feeling good about yourself.

If people are being toxic to you, don't keep them around, or don't visit their sites. Not everyone in the feminist movement, or fat acceptance movement, is going to have good intentions, or be moderate. Some may be trying to push a different agenda or push people to conform to what they consider normal. Jerks exist in all circles.

I agree, maybe it is best to ignore those blogs. I see value in accepting and loving yourself as you are now and recognizing that improvements aren't due to societal expectations but your own desires.

I love lifting weights and hiking and even monitoring my food is done to better take care of myself for myself.

I think anyone who says that tracking your food intake is an ED doesn't know what a real ED is. They could say that it is OCD and some people could and do take it to that degree, but not all. Many people like to track so they can see where their calories and macronutrients are coming from and adjust accordingly if needed. Many people exercise because it is healthy for their body, not just for weight loss. Even thin people should exercise. Sounds to me like some feminists are using this as an excuse to just let themselves go. Those who care about how they look and how they feel are not wrong to do that. Everyone has their personal preference.

And Ian? We KNOW that men lose must faster than women. Don't rub it in!! LOL

Yeah, it doesn't really sound like those are your average feminists. At all., OP. Time to ignore

I think this is in an increasing problem culturally though... I find I'm hearing about these things more and more. Isn't there a saying that fits this, something like "the smallest group is the loudest" or something like that? I feel that's the case here. Extremes like that are the minority, but they are certainly loud. It's because the rest of us know better than to scream our opinion of someone's body weight out. Its not our business.

Just the other day I read an article about a girl with down syndrome who was an aspiring model. It was really neat to read how she was pursuing her dream, and how natural she seemed to be in the craft based on the sample shots! But then, a bunch of people commented that even though it was progress for people seeing learning disabilities in a new light, that she wasn't making any real progress because she wore make up and pursued a healthier lifestyle to have a more fit figure for modeling. They said she was conforming to beauty standards instrad of being a real spokeswoman for individuals with down syndrome. Because of make up and fitness. I thought it was out of line to say... I get that our advertising is way too photo shopped and everything, but she was HAPPY to be fitter and eating better. She LIKED what she was doing. And, I think getting dolled up is part of the industry... Why shouldn't she be treated like a regular model? Isn't that also point, that she csn do anything anyone else can? I'm not saying we need all the extra Photoshop crap and ridiculous body standards, but being a little fit and doing make up I think completely reasonable. Especially because her "fit" body, was NORMAL. She wasn't aiming for a size zero.

The above is just an example, but I think its a growing attitude amongst some. Its sad that they don't see that they're doing the same thing they are so against- setting standards that people must comply too based on their age, gender, size, ethnicity or whatever other excuse you want to use to be a bully.

Not entirely true. I agree that Hilary gets too much scrutiny on superficial things, but there's a lot of chatter about Huckabee's weight and Christie's weight, and I remember after one of the debates in 2008, there was a bunch of news about Biden's obvious botox. Afterwards, the Washington Post ran an article about how many male politicians do cosmetic procedures to look younger and more vibrant. Yes, there are some very old male politicians, but vigor still sells.

(I do agree that women seem to get more and worse of this, though!)

I've never really thought of it this way.

I have competed as a powerlifter (and set records) and have moved away due to struggles with my mental health impacting on my training. Gained tons of weight while training and afterwards due to medication and losing motivation on my diet.

I'm back for me. I'm not happy being bigger and whilst clothes shopping is harder (in the uk), for my size it is my health that brings me to the need to lose weight. I am prone to diabetes on the medication I'm on know my cholesterol was 'borderline' when last checked.