I judge people. All the time.
For all sorts of things. Not always good, admittedly. They are my thoughts, in my head and they do no harm to anyone else inside there.
I like to people watch. I enjoy eavesdropping. Sometimes I like to pretend I can figure people out like Sherlock does
I love to check out other people shopping carts. You can tell a lot about a person by what they put in their cart. I don't go around looking for people with carts laden with junk, nor seek out those only stocking up with veggies and good stuff. I observe the things that people are doing around me, and then think about it. To me, it is interesting. Perhaps I don't have enough going on in my own life that I have this free time to observe the world around me!
At the gym, I like to watch for regulars so I can smile and nod to them. I see the girls who come in pairs who, as far as I can tell, have only come to visit with each other. I judge them. I think to myself, "Come on girls, if your going to make the effort to go to the gym, make some effort in the gym! get your sweat on ladies!!!". Or sometimes I will see some really large folks and think to myself "Boy, I'm sure glad I started now". Sometimes I look for someone similarly sized to myself, and race them in my mind. (I almost always win too!)
I see the super fit guys and girls and think to myself. "Damn, they have got their sh!t together! jealous!" or " damn, I gotta watch how they do that _
insert crazy workout move here__" Often I just lust for their cute workout clothes
Anyway - the original post is a nice thought, but is far from realistic IMO.
What the new girl at the gym really needs to know is:
- EVERYONE feels awkward their first few times at the gym, this will pass so just get over it!
- The things that you can do, are not going to be the same as the things other people can do. Until you learn how to do them.
- Hold your head up and be proud that you are there in the first place. Staring at your shoes, the floor, or your phone constantly isn't helping anything
- Sweat like you mean it! Sweat is just fat crying right?
- Find yourself worrying about the people around you and what they may be thinking? F-em! Focus on yourself, the reason you are there and get you @ss in gear!
- Clean up your sweat!
- AND MOST IMPORTANTLY - It doesn't matter what other people think of you - if you make the choice to make positive changes for yourself, that is all that matters!