Thanks everyone for responding.
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Originally Posted by MarjorieMargarine
I am going through this, too. A guy I am seeing (and am crazy about) weighs less than I do and I am not used to it. It is very difficult for me to not be super neurotic about it and wonder how he can want to be with me. Here are some thoughts I am trying to think to help:
1. If he were heavier, it would not bother me at all, and I would not be less attracted to him. In fact, I might be more attracted to him. Maybe this is how he feels about me.
2. I am putting more emphasis on weight than I would want him to put on it. I would not want him to be worrying about the fact that I was bigger than him, so maybe I should stop worrying about that, too.
3. Who am I to tell him what body type he is attracted to? And why would I want to "correct" him anyway? He's hot. If he thinks I'm attractive, go me!
4. I could very easily talk myself out of something great over a problem I have literally invented. He has no incentive to tell me he likes me other than that...duh...he likes me. Ending things or not letting things develop because of my own hang-ups is stupid. I have let being heavy dictate a lot of things about my life, and this should not be another one of them.
Hope this helps somewhat. It's still hard to shake, though.
Thank you so much for this. It really helps, I just got to get it through my head.
All of my past boyfriends have been thinner than me (even before I gained weight), I have never dated an overweight man but they were all taller than me. Much taller. This guy is 5'6 and *maybe* 150 lbs. So I am almost two of him. I think two of his legs together would make one of mine. He is so attractive though, not only on the outside but on the inside he is amazing.
I can't let my insecurities mess this up and I am scared that I will.