I agree with this. Although I wouldn't necessarily say it's a lot in a bad way, just that it seems like he is interested in you, and just because he wants a guy's night doesn't mean he doesn't like you. I think guys do this sometimes, even if they actually WANT to see you, it's almost like a form of power for them to hold back a bit.

Honestly, don't worry about the guy's night thing.

But let's talk about YOU. How many days per week would be reasonable to you? Where would you WANT this relationship be in 1 month, 3 months, 6 months, 12 months? Once you become concrete in what is acceptable to YOU and what YOU are looking for, it makes it much easier to communicate your expectations to the other person.

Are you looking for a long term relationship? Is he? In my opinion it's good to have a conversation about these things right up front. It doesn't mean you have to make the conversation all intense and dramatic, it's basically more of a clarification conversation. If this conversation "scares him off" then it just means he wasn't the one for you. You can't "scare off" the one for you. If he's the one for you, he wouldn't be scared off! Right?

If you put on your POF profile that you were just looking for a hangout buddy, then don't "expect" anything more than that. If anything more happens, then that's great, but you have to mean what you say and say what you mean right at the beginning....

He said he wanted to hang out tonight and then tomorrow... he said? Or he asked? There's a big difference. What did YOU say? Did you agree to hanging out tomorrow? Or did he just assume you'd hang out tomorrow? My point is that it sounds like he's making all the decisions of when you 2 will hang out. The best way to get control of this is to say NO once in a while. You teach people how to treat you. If he says let's hang out tomorrow say "I've got plans already." If he asks what just say "with friends" and don't divulge any more information. None of his business.

And please get a life outside of your relationship. Nobody, not even a husband is worth your entire life. And no guy wants a girl like that anyway. When my husband and I got together we decided we wanted to be like 2 trees planted next to each other. We can't be planted too closely together because our roots would grow into eachother and not let each other grow. We can't be planted too far away from eachother because then we're not really together. There has to be the right amount of distance between us to both be together but for each of us to get plenty of sunlight and have our roots grow strong.

If you don't have your own life, then what is this guy signing up for? A needy, dependent person? Hang out with your friends, sign up for a class, find enjoyment in your own life. If you don't enjoy your own life, who will want to join it?

And please get The Rules book. I know I know, very outdated and the authors are divorced or whatever. But it worked for me, it has some really good key points.