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Originally Posted by pnkrckpixikat (Post 4740299)

OK, I don't want to come across mean but if I do I apologize in advance. I remember from other things that you have written that you don't have much social interaction with people your own age, and you have been lonely and craving this social interaction (especially romantic). I think it is wonderful that you have found someone to interact with. I know you have said you are gay/lesbian, I personally believe that human sexuality is kind of a sliding scale and for many people they can fall for a person regardless of their normal orientation.

All that being said, I want you to take some time and ask yourself if you like him romantically because you have that connection, or if you are so glad that someone likes YOU, and wants to be in that relationship with you, that you are forcing that connection within yourself.

I'm not advising not dating him or spending time with him or anything, just while spending time with him, and before you guys get to serious, make sure you want him and not just want to be wanted because the second type of relationship can be detrimental and damaging to both parties and is also deeply unfair to both parties who may be missing out on a better relationship for one like this.

You've mentioned before you have a therapist I think? Maybe talk about it with them?

I really like him. He's sweet, fun, caring, can hold a conversation with me. Hes just so nice and makes me happy. We share so many things and he's just amazing. :) I'm sure. I thought hard about it before I asked him if he liked me.

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Originally Posted by wolfgirl69 (Post 4740354)

Aww, that sounds pretty sweet! :val2: First loves (and second) are so fun.

How old are you, wolfgirl?

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Originally Posted by rubidoux (Post 4740369)

Aww, that sounds pretty sweet! :val2: First loves (and second) are so fun.

How old are you, wolfgirl?

17 1/2 :D And hes a year younger than me haha

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Originally Posted by wolfgirl69 (Post 4740379)

17 1/2 :D And hes a year younger than me haha

Well, you should be enjoying yourself! I think it's awesome! :)

You'll remember the days of 17-year-old crushes and love for the rest of your life. :love:

haha, it's so endearing to see how excited you are. Congrats!! Life is all about experiences, make the best of this one and get whatever you can out of it :)

First boyfriends are a huge deal and I'm so happy for you that yours is such a nice guy (Mine wasn't!). Take it slow & cherish every memory :)

I think it's sweet and it's great that you're happy and have found someone you really like and they like you back. Enjoy it. :)

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Originally Posted by Keep Moving Forward (Post 4741167)

First boyfriends are a huge deal and I'm so happy for you that yours is such a nice guy (Mine wasn't!). Take it slow & cherish every memory :)

absolutely take it slow!! I also came from a fairly socially isolated childhood and of course ended up pregnant at 19....just be careful!!

You'll remember the days of 17-year-old crushes and love for the rest of your life.

^This. :) Congrats... and don't do anything I would've done at 17. Bwahaha! Have fun chicka!