...and wants to weigh 150 but can't seem to gain. He mentioned it after weighing himself on the bathroom scale - yes, the same scale that I step on every morning, buck naked, after using the toilet, for the lowest possible number (sorry if TMI, but c'mon, I know I'm not the only one...) He has high cholesterol so is trying to lower his cholesterol which means cutting out a lot of saturated fat which has caused him to get below his ideal weight. He is healthy - well muscled, and lean, and just slender build. Good looking, I would say, but then again I'm biased
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I am at 213, and my lowest adult weight is about 185, just into the "overweight" and not "obese" category for BMI. And, by the way, we are the same height (which is nice for hugs and kisses). DBF is a wonderful, sweet, loving, supportive, and almost saintly human being. We have been together for years and he has seen me as high as 238 and as low as 195, and has loved me all the same and just wants me to be healthy. He tells me I am beautiful and is totally sincere. I am tremendously happy with him, and not sure why this whole "141" number is wigging me out a little bit. I did not, BTW, respond by telling him my weight.
Perhaps relevant is the fact that DBF grew up in poverty where there wasn't always a lot of food (or even enough food) to go around so he is definitely a "eat to live" not "live to eat" kind of person. The doctor tells him he should lower his cholesterol and boom, there he goes, cutting out red meat and fried food, eating salmon, taking fish oil, eating veggies and whole grains. This is a guy who decided that pasta just isn't that healthy so stopped eating it. Period. I think food for him is this very mechanical thing that literally is there to fill his stomach so he can do what he needs to do and that is it. Of course, I love to cook and bake, and try new recipes and new foods, and probably am more of a "live to eat" person. I find DBF's commitment and determination (about this and a lot of things) pretty darn inspiring.
I was sort of thinking that my goal was going to be 165 or so - a "normal" BMI. But really, since my lowest adult weight is 185 it's hard to even imagine what that would look or feel like. Now a part of me wants to say my goal is 150, so at least DBF and I have the same goal weight - only that he has to gain to reach it, and I have to lose!
I'm not really asking for a particular piece of advice, just wanted to share this story with folks also on a health/weight-loss journey who may have a partner with a totally different health situation. Anyone out there with a similar experience? Or some insight or responses?
So, my DBF weighs 141 pounds...
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