I have been friends with this girl for about 5 years - known each other about 9. The past two years we have been relativly close. Most people can't stand her since she is a very controlling person that has no filter, but I am a really relaxed person so I can look past it.
We went to on vacation 2 weeks ago. The purpose of the vacation was to go out and have a great time (Mardi Gras!). On Saturday night, she did not want to go out. On Sunday night, she got so drunk so could not remember what happened (nothing). Monday night she wanted to be in bed by 10pm, but since I had spent the previous night virtually babysitting her, I wanted to go out. Luckily, that same night we had met a group of people so she went to bed and I went out. I told her I would be back by a certain time. I walked in only 5 minutes past "curfew" and she had already called security and was LIVID. I apologized - we went to bed.
Tuesday - since I was still sleeping - she went out and did her own thing and did not speak to me. At 5pm when she came back, I asked her if she wanted to go out to get something to eat since I was starving. She said no so I went by myself and met up with that group. I sent her 5 different text messages asking her to join us. She said no. My phone was dying so I sent her a text saying meet me on "x street" at 7:45. I waited until 8:15 and she did not show up. I then used someones cellphone to call the hotel and again asked her to join us since it was the last night and it shouldn't be ruined by arguing at the hotel. She then hung up on me. At that point I was done trying.
When I went back to the hotel room at 1am, she had called my husband, told him I had ditched her for a group of men (not true), that I had been missing since that afternoon (not true, she knew where I was), and she had switched her plane and LEFT ME alone in the USA (Luckily, I've traveled ALOT so I was not bothered)
We have not spoken since. She is demanding an apology in which I do not feel like I owe her one. Yes, we both could have done things to make it work but we were both stubborn. I did not want to sit in a hotel and pout where as she wanted me to join her in the hotel. However, I am starting to miss the friendship and I am a very forgiving persons (sometimes not a good thing). I could forgive her for hanging up on me and being snotty and leaving me in another country... but I am having trouble forgiving her for calling my husband and my family, having them think I've been raped and dumped in an alley since I "had been missing since the afternoon and was last seen with a group of men". Since my phone was dead, my husband had no way to call me so he was back home FREAKING out.
If you were in my position, would you try and let it all go for the sake of the friendship, or would you consider what she did inexcusable?