Strange Things People Say...
 

CONSTANTLY! I'm part of a very small community (where every single girl is a size 8 or 10), in a very small town. I grew up with these girls and I've been the focus of certain topics of conversation because of my weight. I did remember someone saying that if I ever was to be in a car crash the impact would be less on me because my fat that surrounds me will cushion the impact.

I used to keep quiet about it, now I don't. I recently moved back home and need to deal with these people on a regular basis, and there's no way I'm putting up with their rubbish, and I don't think you should either.

People are stupid. They probably don't even mean anything malicious by the comments, they just don't think before they speak.

Just laugh if off :) or if you think they are being deliberately rude, call them out on it.

It was incredibly rude, but I'd probably just let it go and not say anything. Her comment was a bad reflection on HER, not you.

Wow.

When people say things like that around me, I just stare at them. Some things are better left unsaid as I'd just embarrass myself telling her what a dumba$$ she is.

And like someone said before, you can't fix stupid. She'd never get it if you tried to explain it anyway.

Not involving weight, but I do know one person in my office who constantly says really stupid/tactless/awkward things that leave everyone else scratching their heads.

Honestly I think what she said was more hilarious than anything else, simply because it was so inappropriate and so stupid - not worth actually getting upset over, just a good laugh and "can you believe so-and-so said that?!"

I had a little kid inform me that I used to be a much better drum...Japanese kids don't have any boundaries when it comes to touching and a few came up to me at the beginning of the school year and liked to pat my belly and say "Pon pon!" (which is supposed to be a drum sound, apparently). When they realized that I lost weight, a few also jumped to the conclusion that I was dying because their grandmothers had told them that people lose weight when they're sick. All it took was one kid remembering that to set a roomful of 8 year olds into a panic that I wasn't eating because I was going to die...their intentions were good, but that ended up being an incredibly stressful way to start class >.<

^^

I think I would be too stunned to say anything to something like that....

Most of the comments I've received have been outright mean/vindictive. Frankly, I don't know what to make of that one...

My favorite is when people who have never been overweight try to tell you how easy it is to lose weight. Just stop eating. Well, why don't you stop being stupid. Isn't easy, is it? My MIL is chief! Of course, what do you expect from someone who not only didn't agree with her only son's choice in a woman but who also got a half portion of tact.
My all time fav of her's would HAVE to be when she, the woman who never even gave her son "the talk", insisted on practically SCREAMING about whether or not our son's penis was healing from the circumcision.....in church!:o

I love that one!


Op I hope I never sound that ignorant, but on the plus side you got a story out of it.

When I was heavier, I had someone ask me if I was pregnant....Now that I've lost 50 pounds, someone ELSE thought I was pregnant too...I don't even LOOK pregnant!! Do I just give off baby vibes or something?? lol

(PS: The last thing I want is to have another baby by the way...Both of my boys were overdue by at least a week. Both labors were inductions from h*ll and lasted well over 20 hours each. I.Am.Done!)

lol, these comments make me laugh!
My sister used to make ugly and fat comments to me all the time - it hurts but I just laughed it off, eventually I got sick of it and put her in her place and now she doesnt say a word about it.

I have also had people say to me "why you going to gym? surely fat people arent allowed in gym"
"you lucky, I will get kidnapped before you do, no one wants a fat hostage"

I just looked at them and said - i'd rather be fat than stupid. and that was that

I have a very overweight friend that likes to joke that "fat people are harder to kidnap."

I guess it's self depreciation on her part?!

I remember when I was in undergrad nursing school during clinicals I found myself in the middle of a conversation between a couple NURSES(?!) where they were talking about an obese patient. The patient was probably 400-500 pounds and they were saying "I mean I'm glad she is so happy and all but she needs to celebrate in other ways besides food". They were saying that they mainly eat when they are happy. This was not based on anything the patient had said, btw, they were making an assumption based on their own relationship to food. And I had met this patient and she didnt seem all that happy to me (but, then, she was sick and bedridden). I was >300 pounds at the time and was a lowly student who felt like she couldnt say anything but I felt like going "do you really think that person is happy?!". Now granted, maybe, she WAS happy and I was the one doing the assuming but it has been my experience that people like me eat when we are sad too.

Edited to say that they were actually acting like they were jealous of her for being so happy.

When I was younger (about 12-19) I actually thought and believed that. In my little town when I was about 12 or 13 there was a murderer on the loose that had just killed a girl slightly over my own age and was taunting the police and the community. I wasn't allowed to go outside on my own for a good 3 months. The truly sad thing was I honestly believed I didn't have anything to worry because I was fat.

How horrible is that?!

:hug: That is awful, Skellig. I'm so sorry you had to worry about that as a very young girl. :hug:

Today on another forum a guy said about fat people, "Geez people, get on a scale, eat less!" and it ticked me off because every single day it seems like someone hits me with some version of weight loss being solely a matter of willpower and caloric intake. Some people truly don't seem to understand that some of us have medical issues (for me it's my thyroid) that make weight gain very easy and weight loss very hard and making us feel bad by telling us to get more willpower and use a scale just ticked me off.

I thought it was funny! :o

We shouldn't take comments personal. People talk mostly out of their @ss and most of the time they don't even know they are offending anyone.. If you let it get to you... then the joke is on you ;)

I think it really depends upon who is saying the stupid things & when. Her being a teacher, yes she does need to watch what she ways & when. If any student hears her say unkind things (even in jest) it can make students think that it's okay for them to do the same...and they'd be right.
I recently worked with a woman who thought it was okay to call everyone "sweetie" or "sweetheart" and on top of that she had ZERO clue about personal space! SOOO UNCOMFORTABLE! Fact is, one day after I'd just gotten on the sales floor she smacked me on the behind & made a comment! I was really taken aback! She actually blamed me for being in a rotten mood!!! :fr:
She apologized to me the next day, mostly because I filed a complaint with the store manager. A little while later she was talking to the asst. man. about apologizing to me & why. Instead of just TELLING him what she did, she smacked HIM on the behind! Yup, YOU CANNOT FIX STUPID!!! :dizzy:

If it's someone who really matters to me, I let them know that they should engage their brain before their mouth. Not saying I'm perfect. If someone is really that freakin' stupid, I let them sink their own ship & have very, very little to do with them. People do judge you by who you associate with. Lastly, there is a big difference between saying stupid, inconsiderate things & being just flat out RUDE. RUDE is a big NO in my book.

My favorite one was at Costco one time on a Sunday (will never make the mistake of going on a Sunday again) and there must have been 50 different food sample opportunities throughout the store. It finally dawned on me that one of the reasons that it was so crowded in there was that there were whole families who were using the sampling as a way of eating out for free. I was trying to get around one of the sample stands and this kid (teenager) comes from 10 feet away, pushes my cart into my stomach and grabs 3 samples. I didn't say anything and then I realized where he got his manners when his mother did the same thing about 2 seconds later. This time I said excuse me -- nicely although my thought was how would you like me to ram this cart ....... -- and the mother said -- Oh hold on. You look like you've never missed a sample in your life so you can wait while we get ours. I have to admit I did lose it at that point and asked her if she had gone to church that morning. Since she was dressed up, I knew she had. When she said yes, I told her that she would have a lot of free time from now on because going to church wasn't doing her a bit of good and she could just stop going.

That's my kind of response!

That said, the OPs story about aliens, abductions and fat people, that's just a whole big bag of crazy and I'd be worried if she was teaching my kids. Holy cow.

Honestly, I would just let it go. If somebody has the audacity to say something like that to your face, then chances are if you say something they aren't going to care anyways. And it will probably just make you more upset.