was it really that bad??
 

Hey chicks! today i was outside..its so hot here in Florida..and i was out having fun in the water and this guy told me "hey baby you need to cover up that fat till you lose 20 pounds" & then smiled..and i was horrified and shocked all at once..well lucky my redneck side came out of me instead of me crying like i wanted to..and I went off and told him to go straight to **** and that he better get the **** away from me before i knock his *** out! lol...I had no clue who this man was and why he would say this to me...but now im at home and im starting to think maybe I should have covered up more...but why am i thinking this? I would never think anyone else should cover up when out having fun in the sun..its your right to wear whatever...I shouldnt let anyone get in my head like this because before that comment i saw nothing wrong with what i was wearing..also I can not believe how mean and hurtful people can be..i've never had something like THIS happen to me..well heres a picture of what i was wearing(if it shows up) besides the top it was a different bikini top..thats my bra that im now wearing but still the same coverage& im posting this kinda as a virtual fck you to that guy & saying i CAN WEAR THIS BEFORE IM A SIZE TWO! http://i49.tinypic.com/33jr9tw.jpg

What an ***! Sweetie, you look awesome...and are most definitely rocking that outfit. No cover up required!

Damn, you look good! I hope I can look like that one day!

Ignore what he said, really, you look fabulous, some guys are just dicks.

thanks girls! I just cant believe people anymore..

I'm very surprised that any hot-blooded, American guy would say that -- esp since you look so G-R-E-A-T!!!

(I edited) Oops, maybe I shouldn't say that; I don't want to offend anyone. I have my suspicions why he said that, but I'd better not voice them here ... ;)

You look great that guy is just an a**hole

You look great, screw him.

maybe he was gay...shrugs...or maybe he just likes super skinny girls..or maybe hes just a tool who likes saying mean rude hurtful things.. thanks tho yall..im ok and not gonna think i should have covered up.

I think you look great and seriously, I don't care what size anyone is, what he said is never an appropriate or mature thing to say. It's sad there are adults still with the mentality of a 12-year old bully.

Omg honestly, if u ever run into him again can you please punch him in the face, just for me, because im too freaking far to come and do it myself? LOL

YOU ARE ABSOLUTELY STUNNING. I wish I had your body. IM DEAD SERIOUS. you have a sexy body and you CLEARLY dont need to lose any extra weight to wear that. You wear it really nicely!!!!

He's a jerk, that will never find someone to fully love him.

Seriously, you look great! It always amazes me how some people can treat others so poorly.

wild- thank you..i thought kids are bad but i guess it doesn't matter what age you are!
cara- thanks so much..and if i ever see him again i will run him over LOL...
cem- that made me laugh! your probably right!

You are amazing! Wear what you feel comfortable in! What a jerk he was to make such a comment! I agree with Cemommster.

ETA: I showed you picture to Hubby. He said you were beautiful and you should have racked him.

Ummm... his eyes must be bad or something! Maybe he has glaucoma??? I don't know how anyone could look at you and say that seriously... But my smart*** side would've looked at him and said, "Too bad you didn't think of that for yourself to cover up your ugly face." Yeah... I'm mean like that sometimes and he would SO deserve it!

You look really sexy! I know how much it hurts when people say stupid things, that guy is dumb! when I reach my goal weight I will be bigger than you and ill be damn sexy too I cant wait! Remember that you are beautiful no matter what and wear watever you want im sure any other person in the world would agree. Im sure he thought u looked good too maybe he has been hurt before and thought you were hot too he probly thought you were just some hot stuck up chick (which im sure your not) but I do know when I see some skinny chick like your self I sometimes assume they are just some snooty b**** but its only cause im jealous. And sometimes people say mean things to make them selves feel better even if they dont believe it them selves. Keep rock'n that hott bod! :D

1. You look good.
2. Even if you didn't, unless you were violating local obscenity laws or something, it's just not his freaking business. He was being a jerk, and his behavior isn't worth renting out your headspace to.

Okay. Eff him. I bet he was ugly too. Don't you know that sometimes when men are intimidated by beautiful women they feel the need to insult the woman in order to make themselves feel bigger and badder?

I'm SO glad you put him in his place. I don't know who he thinks he is, but he isn't anybody special. A real man would NEVER insult a lady. Bah. Bad ju ju on him.

Seriously, you look great. The problem is not with you at all ... it is with him and I have no clue how a stranger has the arrogance and gall to think he has any right to say anything at all no matter what to another person. He has a problem and it will come right back on him one day, trust in that.

Back to you ... I am going to guess that you got a few rather more interested looks that day from guys too shy or respectful to actually tell you how hot you are!

I think you looked great! Perhaps he's one of those guys who in their infinite wisdom, can't have an adult conversation with a woman, so instead they insult or talk poorly about them in hopes of getting their attention.

Don't sweat it, regardless of our technology in this day and age, mankind will never "cure" stupidity. There may always be someone content to drag you down to the level their self esteem is at.

That's usually when I'd find it opportunity to respond with a snarky comment. Anymore, it doesn't serve a purpose to lower to their level, but sometimes it's the little kid in me that just wants to comment on how he should really wait to think of something intelligent to say before he shares his thoughts.

thanks for all the compliments yall. Im so glad i have this place to vent to. I guess he got in my head for a min because when i was at my highest weight i would have NEVER gone outside like that...and even though i know there was nothing wrong with the way i was dressed..when he said that to me it made me feel like i was that 234lbs girl again. but i KNOW im not and i wont let a cruel childish idiot bring me down to that :D

Wow, how rude. Your weight looks fine to me. :?:

Another unbiased male opinion for you...

I just showed your picture to my DH without telling him the story behind why you posted it. I asked him what he thought of your physique. His response..."she has a really nice figure, especially her mid section". He looked all confused, so I said "do you think she's dressed appropriately for her body size?". Still confused, LOL, he said "yeah, she looks totally normal in a bikini top, why?". So I told him what the guy said and he was dumbfounded, shook his head and said "the guy is obviously an idiot".

The guy at the beach is not worth your time - don't let him inside your head. You have worked very hard and look fabulous! Keep up the good work. I'm a size two, but STILL don't look that good in a bikini (probably never will) so enjoy your continuing success and keep smiling!

What the....? Jeez, you look great! There are always some morons out there who think that the world will stop if they don't open their mouths and give their opinions...just ignore. I've dealt with a lot of people like that myself. Sorry that happened to you though.

Sorry to hear you ran into an idiot. I am amazed by how your body looks, given the height/weight in your profile -- you look much, MUCH slimmer and trimmer than one might expect! Like everyone else said, you look great!!

You look so good. Don't listen to that jerk. I hope to look like you one day! Keep rockin!

I think he was very attracted to you.
He must suffer from arrested development, and does not know how to relate to a woman. His approach has probably never landed him a date yet.
:(


It is during our darkest moments that we must focus to see the light.
~ Aristotle Onassis ~

Blech. What a knob.

Seriously, you look FANTASTIC. Ignore anyone who says anything to the contrary; that picture is proof.

That guy is obviously some sort of weirdo loser who gets off on making himself look like a d*ck in public places. How embarrassing for him. You should feel sorry for someone with such terrible social skills. :no:

Originally Posted by jj0293:
Okay. Eff him. I bet he was ugly too. Don't you know that sometimes when men are intimidated by beautiful women they feel the need to insult the woman in order to make themselves feel bigger and badder?

I'm SO glad you put him in his place. I don't know who he thinks he is, but he isn't anybody special. A real man would NEVER insult a lady. Bah. Bad ju ju on him.

Yeah, maybe he was one of those idiot "Pick-Up Artists" who think an arrogant attitude and blatant insults is a foolproof way to pick up women.

You look great and your waist is really well-defined!

Obviously that guy is an idiot who feels like he has to be mean to make himself feel big.

Desiderata- Im in the 160s now but haven't changed my ticker yet cause i only do it once a month...but i do 80 crunches & 80 sit ups and over 1,000 jogging up & down stairs 5x a week so that might be why i look smaller then i actually am.
but thank you all..i feel so much better lol... your all so sweet! thank you for all the amazing words<3 :)

Maybe he was being sarcastic? A crappy sense of humor, and thinking that you looked hot, so he joked that you needed to lose 20lbs? Either way, he's a clueless jerk and you look great.

Men are stupid and who knows what is behind the dumb things they say! Not even sure why you would listen to an idiot like that considering you are NOT fat! You look GREAT! I would have come back with niceness because we all know when someone is trying to be mean niceness kills, lol.

You look amazing, you have a gorgeous body, don't worry about that jerk. You know how in kindergarten boys tease girls they like? I'm pretty sure this was the case with him, just an immature guy trying to get your attention.