[MusicalAstronaut]

I had this happen to me once too. :/ I was in high school, about 190lbs at the time (which is 40 less than what I ended up at...ugh) and a kid I was babysitting for said it to me in front of her mom. I was so embarrassed. But everyone's right, kids don't have filters, and I don't think they say it to be mean. Around 4-7 is the age where kids are kind of fascinated by babies (maybe they have a new sibling on the way) and I think they look for that everywhere because it's something new they just learned about.

[dragonwoman64]

I don't think what a kid says is necessarily "truth," it's more like an observation that goes through a kid filter that's influence by adults and other kids.

you're a valuable person whether you lose weight, gain weight or stay exactly the same weight as you are now. you don't have to let it be in your head that your weight makes you a "lesser" person in any way, and that the way for you to gain value and worth is to lose fat.

[misski]

Gosh, I feel for you. This is why I'm so uncomfortable around kids. I actually don't like kids because I've always been stared at and teased by these little brats! Lol.

Times are changing though, since I'm not being stared at by little children anymore. Obesity is becoming such a huge problem in America that kids are used to seeing overweight people.

[reallystruggling]

forget the kid!
being embarrassed meant you didn't like being called fat, so the fact that you're working on it already makes a much stronger/better person.

just think about when you reach your goal and then go back to their house.

HA! see what that kids has to say then!

[dragonwoman64]

OP, you may want to read this thread:

http://www.3fatchicks.com/forum/100-...onfidence.html

"It's tough, I know but the self-image and self-confidence issues don't automatically go away with weight. Unless you love yourself and fix those issues first, they'll always find a way to hurt you no matter how successful you are on this journey. I was reading earlier today, someone said "you can't hate yourself thin." I think shame/despise and whole lot of other negatives can be substituted for hate there.

If you don't love yourself, no matter your size, and realize you're just as worthy of a space on this planet as anyone else no matter how you look, these issues will continue. I, who would have killed to be 199 lbs, now nitpick about my body, my looks, my hair, my clothes what must people think of me etc. You'll always be too something for somebody. As guamvixen said, you just have to get to a point where you don't care what other people think. And where you give yourself the props and respect you deserve for taking yourself in hand and making the changes to achieve your goals."
--toasted smoke