I agree that keeping a clean home (and people differ on what that is) is simply being an adult. It has nothing to do with gender or profession. My DH does most of the housework. Why? Because I work more hours then he does. His paid work is spotty at the moment. So he has more time to do laundry and so forth. Also I have some physical injuries such as a torn rotator cuff that I am recovering from. He is physically able to scrub the tub. If he were sick we would work it out between us. I do some things like change bedding or care for pets and cook sometimes. It gets done. And my DH, like me, takes pride in our simple abode. We both benefit from a clean bathroom and clean clothing.

As for conflict in the home I will not comment on personal stories we come here for support. But I will say from personal experience my parents fought loudly and I prayed they would divorce and my Dad would leave. I prayed my Mom would kick him out. She did not and I have since learned she did not do her job as a Mom for her children. She did not protect us from anger (we were never physically touched or yelled at ourselves but witnessed them or witnessed them not speaking to one another or loving one another). Now all four children, grown adults pay the price with food addictions, nicotine addictions, alcohol addictions etc. We are in recovery but how sad. And my sister is repeating the process with a marriage where they fight and in my opinion are in a bad marriage. I can already see the results in her two children aged 4 and 10. Sad. Sad. Sad.

Anyway good luck.