Arctic Mama - That is definitely a good outlook on comments like that. :) And I agree that pretty much all comments from friends and family are intended to be supportive. Which is why usually I bite my tongue and smile when people tell me "oh, but don't get too thin!"

I don't know why this comment made me so prickly (especially since I'm generally a very soft cuddly person, my nickname is bunny after all! :lol:). Most likely it's just because when I countered with the fact that maybe I personally want to look a certain way, the answer was I shouldn't because guys don't like it. As if any decision a person makes for their body should be about sex appeal.


I guess a building desire to let people do what they want to do with their own appearance came out this morning. I know that people are people and my desires won't change anything though. Hence: The pointlessness of such a ranty rant.

I'm not actually offended or angry... I think I'm just a little puzzled by the whole notion and the extent to which I have witnessed similar attitudes.

What men are attracted to differs, just as what we women are attracted to differs. Your friend is putting his personal bias out there as though that's what everyone wants. I would just ignore him and move on- it sounds like your husband wants YOU to be happy, and so whatever body type you are going for will make him happy because you will be happy.

Well, it's his baggage. I'm glad you see it and will do whatever to please YOU.

But yah, it prickles when you get slapped with that sort of thing and it's a bit disappointing when you find it among your friends. In strangers it is a bit easier to write off with "whatever, dude" where in your own friends it's like "REALLY? You REALLY think that?"

And it's not just that your friend personally thinks it as their own personal preference. (Whatever it is.) Because that would be fine. We all have our own opinions and preferences.

But that this is the ONLY way to think or that EVERYONE should be thinking that same thing and if you don't somehow you are broken. That's something else.

He may not have come out and said "Bunneh you are just broken!" in so many words but I get the vibe that he implied it and you picked up on this and got annoyed.

So I don't think your rant or reaction was pointless. You told your friend where you stand on that issue. There.

It's fine to agree to disagree. It's not fine to assume everyone has the same worldview friend has though. Maybe he learned something.

A.

Since I started dating again, I've been really nervous about being judged solely on my weight. But every guy has different preferences in women. Some of them don't really care if you're a stick or not. Sure, I know I have my physical preferences in men too, but I'd never tell a guy that he needs to hit the gym if he ever wants a girl to like him!