I'm embarassed to even confess because I sound like a high school girl instead of a 30-something year old woman. My problem is that I get really shy when I'm slow dancing with a man that I find attractive. I find dancing (even if it's in a ballroom stance pose) with a man intimdating regardless of whether it's salsa, ballroom style, or whatever. I went out last night with some friends and we ended up in a lounge. A very handsome man approached me and asked me to dance. When he and I started to slow dance, I had a hard time letting him lead. I just can't seem to relax and let a man control my body movement on the dance floor. Perhaps it may have something to do with me being sexually abused by a relative when I was just a child. It doesn't help that I feel insecure about my body to begin with.
I want to take some dance lessons so that I can indeed let a man take the lead on the dance floor. I want to build up my sexual confidence. I was thinking about taking bellydancing classes; however I don't think that would help in terms of becoming comfortable dancing with a man. Any suggestions on what type of dancing I should sign up for?