I think that your intentions are good but I would advise you to use caution. I have had fairly close friends pass on clothing to me as I have been losing weight. Almost always, they dont fit or look terrible on me. It is sometimes hurtful when they give me clothes that are more suited for my heavier self than this one.

Perhaps a better strategy would be to invite her for a day of shopping at a discount place and look at clothing. You could suggest an appropriate top or two for her to try on....

Finally, I think that what she wears to church is not that important. If it is grossly revealing, the minister should quietly speak to her.

I have been known to wear a white cami like you describe before, mine has a liner so isn't see through. I can't say I would wear it to church without something over it, but I would definitely wear it around town without thinking anything about it. Maybe she thinks it is casual rather than inappropriate?

I wear tank tops to church, but always have a jacket on. I don't think a cami with no bra is appropriate, she may not realize how it looks to others or may not even think of it as out of place. I would not say anything to her. I am just trying to get a handle on why she would dress like that.
I am not comparing work clothing and church clothing just saying there is a right time and place for everything.

I see many peeps wearing things they shouldn't be wearing & I just gasp to myself & I say to myself, I will probably see them in my next issue of Glamour in the DON'T section, yanno the one with the black bar across their face!!! :D I guess some peeps don't do a mirror check before leaving the house! :dizzy: Me thinks this gal is OBVIOUSLY comfortable in her own skin, so unless you have anything see-thru to give her Lori Bell, being I'm sure she's from the camp, if you got it flaunt it! :D

Or perhaps she doesn't like wearing bra's in summer, yanno too many layers!!! ;)

Reminds me of being a teen-age boy in the '60's.....ahhh.....good times :D

It's my opinion saying something or offering her clothes wouldn't end up in a good way. She's bound to be embarrassed and angry, no matter how well intentioned you are or how tactfully you put it. If some representative of the church felt the need to speak to her about her clothes being inappropriate because her outfits cause a ruckus or whatever, hopefully someone she has a good history with, then so be it. My 2 cents for what it's worth!

You know, I think I would say something like...

"I have some clothes that don't fit any longer that you might like. I know it's tough when we're in between sizes not to spend a fortune as we get smaller. I'm unable to wear these now, so if you want them, you can have them. I guess I need to go find some more church appropriate attire since I can't wear these any longer!" :D

I agree. Jesus did not create church for us to judge. Only God should be doing the judging in the very house of God.

I'd be kind of wary about saying something. If she's happy at the church and growing spiritually, that's what's really important, right? Clothes are kind of irrelevant from that perspective, and it would be a shame to make somebody feel judged or unwelcome over something that's ultimately so insignificant.

Now, if her dress is causing problems for the other members and the clergy aren't already aware of it, I might mention to them that so-and-so is such a great addition to the church, but her clothes do seem to be a bit distracting, and could they maybe say something to her about that?

Of course, if the subject of clothing just happens to come up and it seems like she might be receptive to the idea of new and/or different clothes, I think it would be nice of you to offer her your old church duds as a gesture of friendship/fellowship. Of course, she may be happy with what she's wearing or may not like your taste in clothes, so there's no telling whether she'd accept your offer or wear the clothes if you gave them to her.

Just a little hijack here...

We wear just about anything to my church from shorts/flip-flops and T's to full on suits...

but I gotta tell ya all that are criticizing some here....

boobs hanging out anywhere where children are is not appropriate!

Like you said, it's really none of your business what she wears and I definitely would not say anything to her, maybe just offer the clothes. Who knows she might even take them.

Yeah, I got the impression that what the lady's wearing falls under what EZ referred to as the "boobs hanging out" category, so my advice was predicated on that. I'm anything but judgmental about a person's individual style, at church or anywhere else, but...I don't know, I'm funny about near-nudity in church, I guess.

The real irony there is that I don't even belong to a church and consider myself a wishful agnostic. When I went to England a number of years ago, I wouldn't even enter a church in shorts; I would have felt disrespectful of others if I went into a church dressed in the typical tourist regalia. (Not to say I dressed like a nun, either, but I put on a dress and nicer shoes to see the cathedrals.)

Maybe I'm just weird about that.

Or maybe I just have a different mental image of the camisole in question. I'm thinking of a fiftyish woman with no bra and knowing how I look as a fortyish woman with no bra, there is no way I could wear such a flimsy garment without looking downright obscene. The woman in question might not have the same...uh...endowments and prominent anatomical temperature gauges, let's say, that I do, but if she does--yeah, I can see how people would notice that in church.

It's weird that I feel it'd be none of anyone else's business in any other venue but a church, yet I'm a little aghast at someone being one summer rain shower away from taking second place in a wet t-shirt contest while at church.

:D

Anyone here that knows me knows that I am a Christian, I go to church almost every single week....and I am certainly not a prude....

and yes I need a lot of forgiveness! ;)

As I mentioned before our congregation comes in all shapes and sizes and colors....and clothing!

I can remember mother's absolutely cringing back in those "girls wearing thong underwear out of their pants" days....

kneeling in the pews was a fine art that wasn't mastered!

Now, I am a "normal" :?: male...I love to sneak a pick or two at a pretty gal...

I am all for being yourself...

we all do our own judging of things...whether we admit it or not....

But no one should knowingly wear clothing that would make the people around them, in any situation, feel uncomfortable.

I think that's all Lori was asking....how to share that...not judging.

I think you can offer her the clothes without commenting on her current style of dress. Just tell her you're cleaning out your closet and think some of your things might fit her...that you'll donate them if she doesn't want them. Have her come over for coffee or tea and snacks and try some things on. Make no judgments about what she picks or doesn't pick. Just make it a fun, relaxing afternoon.

ROFLMAO! :D Your welcome for the flashback Gary! :D

I'm known to sport the 1 less layer look sometimes, :o but I doubt I cause any uproars or judgement being I am not that well endowned & I stick to black or pink & have athletic pecs! ;)