Instead of worrying about how to explain now blocking her, I would simply tell her that you are on this journey and your reasons, and you would love to have her take this journey with you.

If she is not mentally ready to do it, that is fine, but don't bring you down with her (what seems to be purposefully) hurtful, irritating posts. Explain that you treasure your friendship; however, you need someone to support you, even if she isn't willing to try to better her life in the same way.

Blocking her is a short term solution IMO cause she will want to know why you don't respond to things.

If she posts an a comment about how you are losing too much weight, counter it with fact - as in..."I'm working towrad a healthy weight where I feel great about myself!"

You can't force her, and it sounds like she looks up to what you are doing, but isn't ready to do it herself, so she retaliates against your efforts in hopes you will follow her track.

I am an open & honest person, so I feel that is the best policy. Either she understands or she doesn't. And, perhaps if she doesn't understand, you can delete her anyhow, and your problem is solved!! :)

Ugh... I hate people like that. I don't really like to use the word "hate" but UGH! :dizzy:

An old friend of mine I have known since junior high is living with my husband and I so I can definitely relate at the moment. She sits in her room (sometimes for DAYS - no lie) playing computer games. She does nothing but drink pepsi and she hoards food in her room. She weighs almost 250lbs so I am about 43lbs heavier but the difference is I am DOING something about it. She is constantly complaining about how her back hurts, her stomach hurts, this hurts and that hurts and she's tired and blah blah blah. Well obviously it's the way she's living her life. She gets welfare so she doesn't have a job either which just makes it worse.

She has not asked me for help, but she does make comments to me which I don't appreciate. It's like she goes back and forth from supportive to sabotaging. I have recommitted myself to a vegan/raw lifestyle and she makes shots and comments about the things I'm eating and makes fun of me for some of the videos and channels I follow on you tube.

Some people are jealous or envious when they see someone taking control and making positive changes in their life because they wish they were the ones doing it. Instead of making it happen it's easier to complain and just sit there and wish it were them.

I say defriend her and I can tell you my husband and I are moving out in a few months somewhere new and on our own! :carrot:

i know i'm a little late on the bandwagon here, and i'm glad it worked out for the best, but this just made my blood boil!
i have lots of patience for people, but that kind of nonsense erks the crap out of me. i have a hot italian (sicilian, really) temper and i probably would have told her to just shove it after the eyeroll comment. i know, not very mature, but again, i have no patience sometimes.

honestly, seems like there's no love lost there. i feel like at this point, we all need REAL friends, support, people in our lives who are truly rooting for us. sounds like this girl was conflicted. she wanted your help, but felt some sort of jealousy or something towards you as well. sometimes our friends who are heavy don't want us to succeed at our weight loss, because they lose a sense of camaraderie. obviously, this is not the case all the time, but sometimes, it might be.

either way, glad you don't have to deal with it.