Okay I will try to make it brief.
Characeters:
Amanda - the maid of honor in my wedding last year who did nothing but whine about the other girls in my bridal party
Rebecca - a girl who is presently getting married this August and I'm her maid of honor
Me - well i am me, and i have flaws like anyone else but i always look out at what is best for other people because that is how i was raised..
So I got married last June and Amanda was known as someone who did nothing for parties or planning. After the wedding we lost touch with each other and everyone that who knows her as well as I do basically kept saying that she was in the wedding to have an excuse to dress up and wear a title. (she really didn't plan anything.. my other girls had to).
Amanda has been friends with Rebecca about 3 years longer than I have. In fact, I have only known Rebecca for 1 year. Rebecca asked me to be her maid of honor a few months after the wedding because she knew of Amanda's reputation for not "fufilling her duties" and she said that I am very crafty and have always been a caring friend in such little time we had known each other. (She had a total of 5 girls to choose from- all that she has known longer) Well this infuriates Amanda and she has made my ears ring for several months now because all she does is bad mouth me for "taking her place". (None of the other girls feel this way -- if anything, they have said very nicely that they were happy I got the role because I love to do these kinds of things) Things such as "Oh she's not even a real friend" "I've known Rebecca longer.." "She is a stranger to Rebecca" and so forth.. I have promised Becca to be civil for the wedding festivities because that is what friends are for, but that I didn't like how Amanda gets to be ugly about all this and not be told anything.. Well Rebecca knows that Amanda says bad things about me.. and often Amanda will tell Rebecca about how she feels about me by saying mean things about me to Rebecca (I know, because Rebecca tells me) and Rebecca DOES NOT DEFEND ME!! (How do i know? Because I ask Rebecca if she has defended me and she says "Oh well you just have to learn how to let things go.."). So I told Rebecca how upset I am about how mean Amanda is being about all this and Rebecca basically brushed it off and told me to just patch things up with Amanda until the wedding is over and then I can do whatever I want. I feel like this isn't fair.. at all.
As a past bride to be, I can understand the fear of drama within a bridal party and would try my best to avoid it.. but to have someone hurt because they don't want to cause drama in your bridal party is not great either..
What do you guys think?
Thanks for reading.