I sometimes make positive judgments on peoples carts ('wow, look at all those veggies, I don't even know how to cook half of them yet). But I don't really make negative judgments.

Part of that is because I know that my carts are often the type that would get judged very harshly, since I do the shopping for both my sister and myself. I get a big chunk of my food from trader joes, so most of the things I buy at the regular grocery are for her. That generally means lots of diet soda (which I drink as well), cookies, Little Debbies, frozen pizza and other prepared 'junk food'. Its not unusual for me to go in the middle of the week and buy just soda and sweets for her since she always needs some quick carbs in the house for medical reasons. But, I know that at my current weight, I don't get the benefit of the doubt from most people that notice my cart, even though I'm not going to eat any of it.

The second reason is because, when I was buying tons of junk for myself, and would go home and eat a whole carton of ice cream in one night just like some people probably assumed I would do, I was clinically depressed. Just like I wouldn't want strangers to make value judgments on me while I was struggling, I do my best not to do the same to others. I have no idea why someone is buying something, and its not my business, not to mention pretty presumptuous of me to assume I did.

Oddly enough, now that I think about it, other then the passing thought that I was adding to the statistic about people who buy diet soda and ice cream together, I didn't really think much about it while I was gaining most of the weight, but now it occurs to me more often. I guess that feeling might come from the same place that makes me have mixed feelings about how I look right now. I mean, the vast majority of the time, I'm proud of what I've done, and can see the positive changes in myself, but every now and then it occurs to me that a stranger or new acquaintance can't see that, all they can see is the the work-in-progress me at one moment in time. Its the same with the carts. All a cart is is what someone is buying, for whatever reason, at one single moment of in their lives, and nothing more.

Primetime's What Would You Do, did a story similar to this. They set up an overweight woman with her daughter in a grocery, buying all sorts of unhealthy things..and then someone else would come by and tell them how wrong they were for buying & feeding all that junk to their child. Other people jumped in defending the mother & her child, but of course, a lot of people stayed out of it.

Personally, I don't look at what other people are buying at the grocery store, because I really don't care. It's their business, and their life. I often find it annoying when people make comments on how good something in my cart looks. I usually just smile or nod at them and go on about my merry way. If people look in my cart, then fine whatever..to each their own. I really don't care what strangers think of me.

Originally Posted by fivestone:
You know, it wasn't until I read this thread that I realised that I don't really pay much attention to other people's carts at all. Sure, I'll notice the fact that they have lots of stuff in their cart, so it'll be a while, or not so much, so it's almost my turn, but I just don't pay it much attention, much less judge it.

It's different than other times I lost weight, though. Before, I really seemed to care about what was in my cart, what other people would think about it, and I looked at other people's carts, and was sometimes judgmental about it.

But now, it's different, probably for 2 reasons. One, I'm thin, and I know I'm thin, and when I went to the doctor the week before last, all my labs were in order, so my body is doing just fine. Whether I have all organic produce in my cart, or all junk food, I'm healthy, thin, and attractive, and I know that I represent where some people are trying to get, and I have nothing to be ashamed of. I can afford calorically to eat anything I desire, pretty much, within reason, and I'm willing to do extra exercise for it, if necessary... so at the store, I'ma get what I want, and I ain't gonna worry about it.

Two, I've been married to a wonderful man for a little over a year, and right now my main focus is on being a good person and the best wife to him as I possibly can be. As long as he's happy and content and feeling like he can go out and face the world everyday with confidence, knowing he's got a supportive, loving woman back home... I really don't give a good you-know-what about what anybody else is thinking, at least when it comes to my eating habits. :)

Agree, wholeheartedly. I remember judging what was in other people's carts, but now that I'm thin and healthy, I seem to be pay less attention.

I also got surprised by people's tendency to do this recently whent a stranger at check-out line commented on how much squash I was buying (I really like squash). It was like, geez, you would think I was being berated for buying 3 tubs of lard. It's squash! It's yummy! And healthy!

I do judge. Not all the time but if I'm standing in a long enough queue, the yes, I do notice and judge. I think it's only human nature when you've become food conscious yourself, to notice what others are doing.

My response (which doesn't show by a word, a look, a flicker of an eyelid) is usually sadness really - honestly, so many people just do not know that the junk in their trolley is so bad for their health.
Mixed in with anger, anger that they don't know, haven't been taught how to eat both healthily and economically;
anger that for generations, their family hasn't (may not have) known about good nutrition, and that the government doesn't seem to do anything to stop this pattern perpetuating;
anger that sometimes I think that governments don't Want poor people (because where I live it is mostly less affluent people who have dire diets) to learn how to eat better, because it would improve their mental and emotional health so much that they'd be less sheep-like and controllable.

O/T other supermarket hates:
*children on wheeled boots/'cute' little car shaped things that zoom up and down the aisles: it's a shop, not a playground
*children being given store food to eat without paying for it:feed your child before you go out or teach the child to wait
*people who pack their shopping as it comes off the belt; then pack the inevitable backlog if it's been a fast cashier; only then start looking for their wallet: it's not a surprise that you have to pay at a checkout but some people behave as thought it is
*(my current biggest bugbear) assistants who monitor the self-checkouts, who come and explain kindly to me how to scan things when the machine has thrown a wobbly; I am Extremely technologically able, thankyou, it's your machine that doesn't recognize this item/coin/note. Seriously, I'll know when I've reached goal weight when officious assistants don't come and treat me kindly at the self checkouts. Apparently I look middle-aged and confused at the moment. When I'm thin enough I'll look middle-aged but savvy! :D

All I have to say is that I miss shopping carts and being able to drive the groceries home in my car trunk. I do almost all my grocery shopping on foot at small local markets run by little old ladies, and it's rare that I buy anything there other than vegetables, fruit and tofu. It's also rare that I see anyone else shopping.

In America I have been guilty of seeing people buying gigantic bags of Twinkies and thinking "aaaand that's why you're fat," but I think everyone has done that. I generally don't care and am not too curious though. I'm quite familiar with the "here, buy us 20 candy bars and a block of lard" requests from parties and give people the benefit of the doubt.

I must be really self absorbed, because it has never even occurred to me to notice what other people are buying. It's also never occurred to me that others may be paying attention to what I'm buying and perhaps even judging me because of it. To each their own I guess.

The only time I notice shopping carts is if there's a single guy in front me. You can spot their carts a mile away :lol:

I'm usually in a zone when I'm in a grocery store, too busy wondering what I should be getting (since I lack the list thing...) and the only time I notice anything and perk up from it is if a hot guy walks by, then I look in the cart because you can usually tell if he's a bachalor by what he eats or if he has a wife or something. Even at the front cash if it's a long wait I pick up a magazine and read it, I really don't bother looking at other peoples carts unless I need a new idea for dinner and like to see what they got going on.

Originally Posted by JayEll:

Second of all, I have been known to eat food in the store. I just take the wrapper or package with me and have them ring it up at the checkout. If it's fruit, I could weigh it on the scale in the produce dept. and keep the little label that identifies it for the checkout. It's only stealing if you don't pay for it.

Jay

This. It's never even occurred to me that it might occur to someone else that I might be "stealing" food if I give my kid a bakery snack or some such while we shop. I always tell the cashier and pay for it.

I tend to mind my own business and assume other people mind their own. Who knew?:shrug:

Cultural differences.

I find it odd that people eat in the street. Eating *in* the supermarket, well, I can't understand it at all!

It's how I was brought up. Interestingly, I've discarded quite a lot of those attitudes but I keep most of the food-related ones.

Originally Posted by krampus:
I have been guilty of seeing people buying gigantic bags of Twinkies and thinking "aaaand that's why you're fat," but I think everyone has done that.

This, except we don't have twinkies over here xD

I'm also guilty of judging parents with kids who are piling their trolleys high with crap food, like crisps, sweets and microwave meals ONLY, with nothing of any nutritional value in there at all.

Does that make me bad? >.>

ok as I laugh at myself...I thought this thread was going to be about my compulsion to group things in the cart...then later on the belt at the register to go into the proper bags.....drives me nuts when hubby is with me cause he messes up my orderly cart....

hahahha..now I feel really ocd....

Merry Christmas everyone!!

Originally Posted by jules1216:
ok as I laugh at myself...I thought this thread was going to be about my compulsion to group things in the cart...then later on the belt at the register to go into the proper bags.....drives me nuts when hubby is with me cause he messes up my orderly cart....

hahahha..now I feel really ocd....

Merry Christmas everyone!!

I do the exact same thing! Everything has to be properly arranged...

Originally Posted by PaulaM:
I never look and I don't see anybody looking in my cart. I have a question, why would you keep telling somebody the "junk" food was your husband's? I know it was to deflect anybody thinking you were eating it but why point out his so- called "bad" habits?

Because eating junk food is seen as a man's prerogative to eat junk food. Unless he's positively corpulent, it's seen as a quirk: it's good for a man to be trim and in shape, but he's not bad if he isn't. In a woman, however, eating junk food is seen as degenerate, a character flaw, a reflection of the sort of person she is on a deep level.

This isn't fair, but it seems to be the way it is. It goes all the way back to the 19th century and the idea of the woman as the "angel of the house". As women, we are responsible for the moral, physical, and emotional health of those around us.

The only time my grocery cart had way more junk food in it than I would normally buy, is when my teenage daughter added things to it. If I didn't let her add stuff, she would use her paycheck up eating out then need gas money or just not eat at all.

Since that year, she's gone back to eating healthier. It might have been part of teenage rebellion.

But someone else's "junk food" may be someone else's WOE. Someone may look askance at my cheese and cream and Greek yogurt, while someone else would look askance at the mini cookie or pretzel packs. It's all a matter of perspective.

Even my daughter's Annie's Organic Macaroni and Cheese, I consider somewhat unhealthy. But I know others disagree with that assessment.

I am guilty of looking in other peoples carts. I don't really judge, I guess I'm just nosy.

My carts, well, I have the good stuff for DH and I, but as he does not have a weight problem, my cart also includes some of the junk foods he likes in his lunch box. Chips and mini Snickers, mostly and of course the beloved Mountain Dew.

As far as eating in the grocery store, the other day I was starving and had gotten some turkey lunch meat at the deli in WM. Since the sack is weighed and marked at the deli, I did eat a couple of slices while I finished my shopping.

Eating in the store doesn't bother me it's eating and not paying. I recently opened a box of kleenex and used a couple but I had the box so the checker could charge me. I have seen parents giving their kids bananas out of the display, one banana is not marked and they are sold by weight, I have never seen a checker weigh a banana peel. I have also seen mothers giving their kids donuts out of the bakery case, donuts are not marked either, I am sorry to be dubious but I don't think they get paid for at the checkout stand. You might guess this is a pet peeve of mine.

Originally Posted by bargoo:
Eating in the store doesn't bother me it's eating and not paying. I recently opened a box of kleenex and used a couple but I had the box so the checker could charge me. I have seen parents giving their kids bananas out of the display, one banana is not marked and they are sold by weight, I have never seen a checker weigh a banana peel. I have also seen mothers giving their kids donuts out of the bakery case, donuts are not marked either, I am sorry to be dubious but I don't think they get paid for at the checkout stand. You might guess this is a pet peeve of mine.

actully...I have weighed items at the salad bar, put the sticker on the bottom and let my grandson munch while I finish shopping...

Originally Posted by bargoo:
Eating in the store doesn't bother me it's eating and not paying. I recently opened a box of kleenex and used a couple but I had the box so the checker could charge me. I have seen parents giving their kids bananas out of the display, one banana is not marked and they are sold by weight, I have never seen a checker weigh a banana peel. I have also seen mothers giving their kids donuts out of the bakery case, donuts are not marked either, I am sorry to be dubious but I don't think they get paid for at the checkout stand. You might guess this is a pet peeve of mine.

Why assume the worst about people? If my younger kid eats an apple, I take an extra one to be weighed at checkout and send my older kid back to the produce to put it back after it's been weighed and charged for. If it's a doughnut, I tell the clerk there were "x" number of doughnuts. I've yet to meet a clerk who doesn't know the code for the doughnuts.

Do some people steal food? Probably. But not everyone. In fact, probably not even most people. Of course, I tend to be optimistic and assume--and practice--good will and honesty.

I do not mean to imply that all people are dishonest. I think most people are honest and trustworthy, but there are always those who will take advantage, Any store owner will tell you there is a lot of theft going on in stores from downright shoplifting to eating that donut or banana and not paying , I have seen this on more than one occasion at different stores.

Originally Posted by bargoo:
I do not mean to imply that all people are dishonest. I think most people are honest and trustworthy, but there are always those who will take advantage, Any store owner will tell you there is a lot of theft going on in stores from downright shoplifting to eating that donut or banana and not paying , I have seen this on more than one occasion at different stores.

when I first worked at a convenience store that sold gas, I was told about drive offs...I was like people don't do that...oh yes they do I soon found out!! Then there was one really nice and friendly guy that worked across the street from one of the stores I worked in that came in everyday...at least once a day...one of the workers said he was stealing...the assistant manager and 2nd assistants never believed her...so I watched...he was robbing us blind....unfortunately theft is a HUGE in retail...one of his female coworkers came in with him everyday...claimed to have not had a clue he was doing it...I wasn't sure I believed her but she took nothing...their supervisor came over and let me know that the female coworker told her what happenned she was mortified that we thought she would steal...their supervisor started checking things...turned out he was also embezzling at their company....

Angie and I shop at a natural grocery store in town 2-4 times a month. There are barrels of nuts, rice, beans, etc. I can't tell you how many times I have seen moms stick there hand in and pull out raisins for their kids to eat...and not bagging any of it. One day I saw a guy grab a handful of nuts and walk through the store eating them...no way he paid for it.

Maybe it's not a big deal for $$$, a few raisins/nuts but it still is stealing...not a good thing to teach those kids.

I have thought before about people eating in the store....and choke on an apple...is the store liable? It's not a restaurant....just curious.

Now, a frustrated mom in a grocery store with a screaming toddler wanting a cookie out of the bag already in the basket....that's different....the intent to pay is obvious.

I am nosey so I do look in shopping carts. However, I'm not judging. I'm just noticing and satisfying my curiosity.

I am one who is BIG on opening things in the store and paying for it after it's consumed. I do it a lot. I don't think it's stealing at all because I always take my wrapper to the checkout. I really didn't think that people saw this as stealing. As was said, it's only stealing if you don't pay for it.

I don't get why it matters to some people what food other people are buying. Is it a thing of being genuinely concerned for their health, or a competitive thing, like, "Ha! I rule at eating more cleanly than the person in front of me in line!"?

I'm just curious, because I could understand the competitive aspects. I compare my body against other people, but I wouldn't say that I judge the people I'm comparing myself against one way or the other -- just gauging where I happen to fall sizewise. Groceries seem like a weird thing to compare, especially because I don't know who/what the groceries are for.

Originally Posted by midwife:
Why assume the worst about people?

Because out of 10 people 2 are probably honest...I've had bad experience with people (in retail, in fast food departments everything you can think of. The things people will go through to get stuff for free is ridiculous and kind of pathetic.) most people will cheat the system and when it comes to getting something for free to eat (snack on whatever) most people will take advantage of that.

Grocery stores are easy to do that with. Take a grape or two, snack on it. (now if one person is doing it, you know other's are...) Grab a batch of 5 banannas, eat one and then only pay for 4 instead of 5..Grab a donut and eat it as you walk around. No one stops you people just continue to carry on and before you know it a lot of stuff has been eaten and unaccounted for. (it's possible they may have forgotten that they shoved that donut in their mouth 10 minutes ago, or had given their kid some grapes or a bananna.

Kudo's for you for having the heart and pride to do the right thing, but a lot of people don't. It's unfortunate too, because you do the right thing, but when someone makes a comment about people doing so it kind of puts you in that catagory yet you're one of the kind hearted people who do the right thing.

I don't notice what's in people's shopping carts unless I'm returning to my parked cart with something that I walked away from it to get, and I want to make certain that it's mine.

I'm generally preoccupied & trying to find everything (because sale items are so specific -- this size & NOT that size -- and things move around on the shelves) and annoyed & worried that they'll run out of something, and I hate, hate, hate waiting in line for rain checks. Also, I'm hurrying, usually to avoid a peak shopping time. I detest shopping during peak shopping times. Down here in NY area, our pricey real estate translates to small stores & tiny or nonexistent parking spaces. If I shop at peak hour, I may not even find parking & may have to circle till someone pulls out. Anyway, this makes me irritable & focused on getting in, getting out.

Of course I notice what's on the conveyer belt ahead of me when I'm paying. No, I don't judge, exactly, but I do tend to make up little stories in my head about those peoples' lives & what family members & what occasions they're buying the stuff for. I see it as a harmless amusement. Like passing a lit-up house at night & making up a little story to myself about who lives there & how they pass their time & whether they're happy.

Originally Posted by MiZTaCCen:
Because out of 10 people 2 are probably honest...I've had bad experience with people

I think this is a perception issue. You see what you expect to see, not necessarily objective reality.

I've seen the worst of human behavior, working in social service and law enforcement. I worked with juvenile delinquents in detention center, and with adult offenders as a probation officer, and as a drug and alcohol treatment caseworker...

and even working with the "worst of the worst." I would estimate that out of 10 people, fewer than 2 are dishonest.

Which of us is correct?

Probably neither of us, because often what we expect to see is what we do see. We ignore or forget the behavior that doesn't fit into our world view.

I have a friend who always sees the worst in people. She rarely gives anyone a second chance (and most people she doesn't even give a first chance) to hurt her. The problem is that she's so easily hurt that almost everyone in her life, inevitably becomes her worst enemy, sooner or later. I know (from watching her interactions with other people) that it's only a matter of time before I accidentally do something (or fail to do something) that she will find unforgiveable. I try not to get too attached to her, because I know it's coming.

I also know that when it does come, she will tell everyone she can what a horrible, evil, wrotten, insincere, disloyal person I am.

I still choose to see her as "mostly good, just a bit messed up," and even after she cuts me out of her life, I'll still see her that way.

When I see the good in people, it's not so much for them, as for me. If I thought the world was that wrotten a place, I wouldn't be able to live here, but it's amazing how much good you do find in people, when you're looking for it, and expecting it.

I'm the opposite. I always worry about people looking into my cart lol. I have just started my diet and I'm learning to make healthier choices, but before...I was ashamed for people to look.

I hate shopping so much, I walk into the grocery store and I get into the "zone". My closest store is always packed with people. I'm more worried about not tripping over a little kid or avoiding the clueless woman looking over to the side and walking straight into me, than whether or not the contents in the grocery cart match the person or not.

Because I'm so focused on getting what I want and getting out FAST, I don't worry if anyone is judging the contents of my cart!

I think the only time I might notice is if I am standing in line and watching the person in front of me go through. But I don't judge. I look at their food and wonder if that's a meal (sometimes it looks like it is) or if it's stuff they're missing for a meal at home or just randomly picking up groceries so they can take cash out.

This is so interesting...I don't have time to check out other people's carts. I HATE grocery shopping as much as I hate pumping gas. But one time, at the check out lane, I had a half empty cart, and the lady in front of me had 2 full carts. Her bill was only $127, my half empy cart was $90. WHat the heck did she buy? She got a whole other cart of food for only 37 dollars more! I was jealous, but if I had to guess, it was probably a lot of bad food. Eating healthy is expensive. But I don't get embarassed for having some junk food mixed with healthy. I get more embarassed having maxi pads in my cart or...ahem, condoms. ;)

I'll be honest, I look and I like looking and if anyone asks me, I will tell them I was looking. BUT, I tend to look at people's carts who have healthy stuff in it (not even pure healthy but anything more adventures then chicken and potatoes) because I try to guess what they are going to make, if it'd be good, and hey! will it give me an idea for dinner?

I, too, judge those who buy only junk for themselves and their children and then they pay with food stamps. I judge because I worked as a cashier at a store that carried food and those with access cards were rather rude, careless, and only bought junk while their kids are over weight. (I don't judge people for being on food stamps, I judge for what they do with them.) [ugh the more I let this part up, the more like a jerk I feel. What I am TRYING to say is that SOME people are rude/careless/etc and not everyone is on food stamps because they are dirt poor and that buying some junk food while using the stamps is not always bad. Ok I feel a little better]

Sometimes I feel bad about my cart of food. We just moved, we have little money (typical first house/young couple scene). We have to buy food for our lunches and etc. Alot of times that ends up as 5 boxes of hot pockets for $10, because it's cheap(ish), easy, and we can take them to work. I buy ground beef and chicken, ham and pork. My cart has good and bad in it, sometimes more bad, sometimes more good. It depends on how much money we have. When we have more, I buy better foods, when we don't, I grab whatever gets us through. (and it's always changing, our likes and dislikes, what we will try, etc).

Again, I worked at a store that sold food, I also judged over weight people who used the motorized carts but some do have actual problems other then being over weight and it has taught me to be a little more forgiving.

But bottom line, yes, I do peek in other peoples carts and hope they are having something good for dinner so I know of an idea! =D

Originally Posted by Kimberly2011:
I don't tend to judge what is in other people's carts, but I must say I feel EXTREMELY proud of what is in my own cart. I love seeing produce, whole grains and lean meats - and it makes me happy knowing I am making these healthy choices for my whole family. I feel my own personal satisfaction!:)

Me, too! I personally LOVE grocery shopping, especially for produce. I have a fun time picking out the prettiest or most interesting apples ("Wow, this looks just like Snow White's apple!, look at the pretty green swirl in this one -- can't wait till it's time to eat THIS one). Yeah, I guess I'm easily amused, but I do so love food - smelling it, chopping it, cooking it, eating it, and I've started to think about how those mushrooms were growing in the ground just a few days ago, or how that bunch of grapes must have looked hanging on the vine. I don't buy much organic, so I'm sure it's not as romantic and fanciful as I picture it, but I LOVE that I LOVE real food now, and barely glance at the cookies and such in a box.

I definitely notice what others are buying if it's interesting in any way, but I do it with the same intent as Saef, just wondering about the life behind the groceries. Yeah, grocery shopping is a fun time for me! Read what you will into my uber-exciting life! hahaha

I had an experience last night that I HAD to post on this thread. I was at Wal-Mart, buying a random load of stuff that we HAD to have. There were salad stuff, yogurt, bagels, turkey, ww bread, along with microwave popcorn and cookies and various other not healthy stuff. The cashier gets finished scanning everything and says to me "Are you on a diet?" I was like :o "not really, just trying to incorporate more healthy food to tone down some of the junk!" (I mean, what do you say? Look how fat I am, do I LOOK like I'm on a diet? :p ) Anyway, it was just random and made me laugh! She said she noticed how much healthy stuff I was buying. . .I always wondered who noticed that stuff, I guess she did.

I'm only embarrassed when I shop with my sister because she will load UP on the unhealthy stuff.
All I really buy at the store anymore is lean meat, produce, eggs, cottage cheese, milk, coffee, water, and nonfood items. I don't even eat bread all that often anymore...
It never really occurs to me to look in other people's carts. I guess if I ran into someone I knew I might, though.
HOWEVER, I am a total subway snob. I think it is so interesting that people go to subway and basically order meat and extra cheese on a loaf of white bread with mayo AND ranch and no veggies. way to turn something that could've been healthy into a heart attack waiting to happen!

Hmm I didn't realize people looked in carts hardcore like that until I read this thread. I was at the store the other day and I did notice people looking in my cart and then looking at me. It was weird. I'm proud of what's in my cart though, it's always healthy stuff. But even when I fall off track I'm not embarrassed. If I want a pint of Ben&Jerry's I'm gonna buy a pint and eat it, it's my life haha.

I never really look on purpose at carts though. Sometimes there's a really overweight person with a cart overflowing with junk so it's hard to miss but I never never never judge. I just feel really bad for them. Sometimes they look really ashamed and I just want to give them a hug. :(

I always wonder what must people think of my cart (if they cared to even look- who knows). I buy my produce and meat at a local market and then buy the rest (frozen veggies, coffee, creamer, butter, diet soda, cheese, OJ, etc...) at the regular grocery store. If anything, they probably think I have a very limited and boring diet, void of any veggies whatsoever.

Originally Posted by :
I always wonder what must people think of my cart (if they cared to even look- who knows). I buy my produce and meat at a local market and then buy the rest (frozen veggies, coffee, creamer, butter, diet soda, cheese, OJ, etc...) at the regular grocery store. If anything, they probably think I have a very limited and boring diet, void of any veggies whatsoever.

Yep - we're farmer's market predominantly for meat and produce, we buy pasta from a specialty supplier, I freeze my own tomato sauce, and we get some things (coffee, greek yogurt, chicken broth, etc) from Costco, so my grocery store list has: tortillas, olives, dried beans, whole grains, sugar free ice cream, sour cream, salsa, bagel thins, coffee creamer, cheese, and the deli turkey that our grocery store roasts and carves on site. That's pretty much it. So I always wonder what people think I'm living on...and what the coffee creamer is for!

I don't look at what others are buying. I don't get anything out of looking at what others are buying. It's their money, their body, and their choices. They could be buying for someone else and even if they are buying for themselves, what does they do for me? Judging is exausting and a waste of time.