Not all guys are like that!
 

First of all I'm really sorry that you were treated that way, but many guys are visual and have a hard time seeing beyond the surface. Some women are the same way.. I was blessed to meet my beautiful wife on E-harmony. I was overweight when we met and I'm still over weight now. She is so supportive of me though. Right now she is doing a nutrition class with me and doing couch to 5K and she hates running more than I do. My wife doesn't need to lose a pound but she encourages me to be healthy and have a positive outlook on my journey. She always makes me feel like a sexy man no matter what size I am. I love her for that! E-harmony worked for me, but the big difference I noticed on it was that it had a lot more people that were looking for mature relationships.

May I come live with you people? I'd love to have that kind of support.

You are truly blessed.

I met the love of my life from an online dating site.. But i had to meet a lot of other guys before i met the right one. Dont let this bug you, just move on. Youll know when you find the right one, Because he will think your beautiful any way you look:)

Girl you are stunning and you have a beautiful qualities, those fat jerks who reject chubby girls know that they never had anyone real in their life and their ideal gf is just a star in his fav porn movie lol

Dating online can be fun, I have dated online before and I was happy with my relationship when we started dating in real life.

OH LAWD!! I saw this and about fell out of my chair!! How funny is that one. Sadly it's probably true LOL. Guys can be so mean sometimes. Don't let one jerk bring you down. He's probably more insecure and can't handle having a confident woman in his life.

thanks :)


Yeah. I think just as many women are visually judgmental (if not moreso), but I think the difference is that women can often times be more tolerant and accepting in general. Especially if they're emotionally invested in the person somehow.

I'm so glad you found someone who supports you and loves you as you are. I hope to be that fortunate someday. :)


Thanks. I'm sure someone better will come along. It's just a pain dealing with all of the losers in between haha.


Aw, thank you! Yeah, I've met a few good guys online, so they're not all bad. But it's so difficult to weed out the bad ones when you can't really interact with them. I think I'll just keep looking the old fashioned way. :)


Thanks, I won't. :) I figure if things don't work out with someone, it's for a good reason. And there's always someone better out there.

I hope you don't mind if I just add a little story. my bf knows this guy who says he won't date anyone who doesn't look like Paris Hilton. the only thing I'll say about it, and there's lots I could, is that he's unmarried, not in a relationship and not going out on dates.

I wonder if it sometimes that type of behavior doesn't have a side to it of "I'll beat you to the punch." Some people are so insecure or afraid, they set things up so that they basically don't have to try.

what a jerk!!!!

What a douche! (is that ok to say on the site?) I think you are one of the prettiest chicks here! Especially with your button nose! ( I remember you posting that on my sexy or cute thread!) Anyway, it was his loss. You'll find someone, and I have to give you props for trying the online dating thing. I've never been brave enough to! I'm sorry that happened to you. Something similar happened to me, but it was more like "ew, a fat girl likes me" :( Guys can be such ignorant beings.

TOTAL EDIT: I decided to edit this completely and start my own post with what I previously posted.

NEW POST HERE: Suffice it to say, being attracted to someone is part of the way LTR start. Some people are not turned off by fat. Some are. Some women don't like bald men... some do. Some women wouldn't be caught dead dating a man shorter than she... some don't care.

I think it's perfectly OK to have your own desires, your own likes & dislikes, and your own "rathers". Some people have a shallow idea of others... some see depth where there is none.

I'm really sorry you got your feelings hurt... but thank goddess you didn't waste too much time with someone you obviously weren't meant to be with.

Plenty of fish in the sea my dear! - and there's no reason in the world why you shouldn't fish around! ;) :hug:

Before I was married... I didn't like idea of dating a skinny guy... Not because I was/am morbidly obese lol... but because... I've always like the thought of my man being a big teddy bear.. he didn't have to be HUGE... but I liked some meat.. I've always hated the bodybuilder type... and I just don't like your stomach to be all hard when I'm cuddling with you... My husband turned out to be PERFECT... and now's he went and joined the military and is losing everything lol... He tells me though... Even though I won't be your teddy bear anymore... I can be a pretty lovable YETI... I love my husband lol

I forgot!
 

When I was in High School I was convinced I was deeply in love with this one guy. He was about 6 foot and if he weighed 130 lbs it was a lot! We would flirt constantly and he was even my first kiss! A mutual best friend of ours tried to get us together but it never seemed to work and that friend could never figure it out he'd always say" But you two are so great together, you have such great chemistry!" Well, I got tired of the chemistry and decided to do the work myself. Keep in mind I was much much thinner than, I was a cheerleader and I had a very athletic, nicely toned body.
I approached him and finally said "Do you want to go out sometime or something." He got an expression on his face that to this day really steams my rice, he kinda chuckled and began to walk away as he said "Oh no, I don't see you that way, you're like a sister to me!" I was shocked, hurt, broken hearted. I didn't realize people flirted and made out with their sisters!
Well, needless to say I've seen pictures of him on facebook when a lot of us reconnected there for our 10 yr. Reunion and he is SO BIG I wouldn't touch him with a 90 foot pole. I know its a very shallow thing to say, and that if I should expect good looking, thin men to be attracted to me, I should be attracted to them, but bottom line is he's never been a prize, though he was very handsome, and funny in high school, he's now gone no where with his life, he's fat, ugly, and basically for lack of better words (or kinder words) a loser. I am glad we never dated, I might be stuck with him today! LOL :devil: