So wait, you work in law enforcement and you're dating someone who's in prison?

*brain fritz*

That doesn't make sense, lol. He also sounds like he has a drink problem and some rather unsavoury friends. Tread carefully. He could be more trouble than you think.

There is no need to break up with him. But you do potentially have quite some time to work on YOU. You need to get to a point in your life where you feel beautiful no matter how fat or skinny you may be. You need to get to a point where YOU love yourself enough to want to be healthier and become a better person, not for someone else, but for yourself.

I was involved with someone as well who was locked up. He was wrongfully convicted and sentenced to 25 years. TWENTY-FIVE YEARS. Through many ups and downs, victories and set backs, I did something foolish and wound up banned from visiting him in prison. So we were forced to break up. 2 years later, he was released. A jailhouse lawyer got him back in court and the DA agreed to either give him a new trial or let him plead and go with time served. Rather than gambling with another trial, he pleaded and got out. But that wasn't until he had already served 5 years.

He loved me more than any other man. We've had rocky on and off relationships over the course of the last 10 years. I have finally broke free from feeling that I needed to be with him based on how great he made me feel about myself and how much he loved me. The fact of the matter is I didn't love me. I went through Inner Healing last year with my church and God has restored me. My best recommendation is to seek the Lord with all of your heart mind and soul.

You have 1 year before your surgery, set a goal to lose 5 pounds per month. That will be 60 pounds! You will love yourself for it. And as you said, imagine his surprise to see you. If that is your motivation, go with it. But the ultimate goal needs to be that you are motivated to do it for YOU. Because you want to be different. Because you want to have energy. Because you want to feel good about yourself. There are many options out there, but it all starts with food. If your depression finds you eating, make it something healthy, gorge of fruits and vegetables. Clean out your fridge and pantry of junk and processed foods. Start walking 15 minutes a day. You'll be amazed at how much energy that alone will bring. Slowly increase as you build more momentum.

Best of luck and may God bless you abundantly!
Jennifer

Jennifer,
Thank you so much for your words of encouragement! I am doing this for me, and also for the fact that I someday, sooner than later, want to have children. I want to be healthy so that the pregnancy isn't so risky, as well as having the energy to keep up with little ones!! My brother just got married, they have a 2 year old and another one on the way! I want to be a fun aunt that can take the kids to the park, not the fat aunt that can't get up! I am completely doing this for me--but he gives me the motivation to keep going!
Thanks again for your kind words! Congratulations on your success thus far and best of luck in the future!!

Oh, sweetie, cut him loose quick. He is using your good heart against you. Save it for a nice guy.